never bring up "where are we" to the gf?

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  1. BlaZeR

    BlaZeR New Member

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    In a relationship is it a rule of the thumb to never say that? The girl i'm seeing asked me that and i said "i dont know but i enjoy spending time with you" and she accepted that. Was that a shit answer? What should've i said?
     
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    If you want to know, ask.
    What should you have said? What you mean.
     
  3. ilearned2talk

    ilearned2talk herro prease

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    i would have said
    "right here"
     
  4. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    depends, if you ask too early, she can bail, if you ask around 6 months, you look like you care. if you ask too late you look like you've just been fucking her for a year.
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    and thats a shit answer u gave. sorry i didnt read post just title.


    just say i love what we have going and then ask her how she feels and where she wants to be.
     
  6. BlaZeR

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    Damn I love you offtopic people
     
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    I figure she should be asking those questions. And whether she asks them or not is what tells you her feeling on the issue.

    You should know and say what you want, though.
     
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    Sounds like a pretty good answer to me....
     
  9. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Some PUAs will say the man should never escalate the relationship.

    But I figure if you and the chick have enough connection to be considering a relationship, it's not going to lower your attractiveness in her eyes if you bring it up. Plus, some chicks won't bring it up cuz they think it's the guy's job to lead.

    But usually you can tell when the chick is wanting to have this kind of conversation.
     
  10. Falconer

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    Oh shit I didn't even read your post.

    I guess your answer was ok. If you want a relationship, you have set the stage to bring it up in the future yourself. And if not, you answered honestly.

    However keep in mind that technically you haven't discussed being exclusive so she could be seeing other people (as could you).
     
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    Tetragrammaton New Member

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    I think your response could be interpreted a couple ways. At first i brushed it off as a decent reply, you're vague but honest in the fact that you enjoy being with her, she may interpret it to mean that you're "not interested in developing the relationship further and just want to maintain the status quo."

    Speculation is tough without more details though
     
  12. calisteph6

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    wat...your question doesn't really match your post. You didn't bring it up, she did? I'm confused.

    It's an okay answer if you were honest.

    I'm also confused...are you just "seeing" her or is she your "girlfriend"?
     

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