About 4 months in with my girlfriend, generally speaking things are great and I've never been with anyone who makes me so happy. She has been hurt in the past by guys who don't treat her right and refuse to make the relationship any kind of a priority (which I do), who have abandoned her and taken advantage, etc.. This has lead to her tending to be clingy and needy, unable to trust in my interest and affection in moments I can't directly show it. Particularly when she's stressed at work or whatever, something she acknowledges and has been working on. She wants to spend as much time with me as possible, and though the feeling is mutual, she has more time free than I do. I freelance doing animation, video, photography and such, and the economy sucks now. That means I spend a lot more time bidding for shorter jobs that pay less. Her job isn't very demanding, never has to put in long hours, etc. (fairly entry level), whereas my studio positions in the past have been reasonably senior. I explained that if/when I get myself into another studio, I'll still need to work more than she does. And she gets that too. For my part, I want us to work long term and though we both know there isn't anything wrong with the amount of time we spend together, she stresses about it in the moment sometimes, gets hurt and later apologizes, etc. The thing that confuses me is things usually get rough the day following a full day outing, or a long evening, etc. - like the contrast between us being together for a length and her not seeing me during the day hurts her somehow and things fall apart in her mind. What strategies can I use to help from my end? Would it be better to schedule things long in advance (if possible) or try to be spur of the moment (maybe make it more obvious I'm thinking of her - which I always am anyway)? Just do what I'm doing and let her sort the problems with her counselor over time and be there in the mean time?