Im sure this has been brought up numerous times, its just that I dont have a paid account yet and dont want to go forum digging manually to see. My wife and I have been married for about two and a half years now. We have a daughter who just turned a year old. Before me and my wife got married, we used to have sex all the time. Atleast like 5 times a week. Once we got married, it kept up for a while. She would wake me up for sex late at night, things were good. Then for some reason, all of a sudden it just dropped. Down to like 1 time a month, if that. Then she was pregnant with our daugther and after she had her, it has still been like once a month if that at all. And even then it normally turns into me rubbing it out myself witih her next to me with her vibrator. No touching, nothing, because since we dont do it as often, her body isnt as able to accept me as it was before so it always takes some time getting into it. No foreplay its always put the rubber on and finish. She wont let me do anything to her foreplay wise nor wills he do anything to me. I found out in march that i was going to korea for a year and i just recently got to korea. In the 7 months between then and now, we had sex maybe 5 times. When i will be gone for a year. Ive talked to her about it and she says that is not comfortable with how her body looks after she had the baby so ive tried to do things to make her feel sexy about herself and I always compliment her. I try to set up a romantic night for us after the baby goes to bed and she is never into it. She always tells me she is tired from having to take care of the baby during the day while im at work and i tell her that i work all day to and we still need to make time for us time and it ends up turning into a fight. I feel like she thinks that I just want sex for sex and that is not the case at all. I feel that sex is an important part of a good relationship. I need that intimate contact. Ive explained all this to her and it never gets through. Sorry for the long post, it has just been bothering me. Short version : Wife and I used to sex it up all the time, now not at all Any advice?