need viagra?

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  1. Project X

    Project X New Member

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    im 24 and have issues keepin it hard when im about to go inside of my gf... i have no probs if shes givin me head or a handjob, but as soon as she stops any type of activity and i go to enter her i go down a bit and just give up... its in my head too.. because the few times i tried it with her the same thing had happened and she was a little upset and it was my nerves... i thought about it before i would go in her.

    i do have morning wood almost all the time and another thing that might be related is that im taking propecia to help prevent hairloss - i think my fam suffers from it and one of the side effect is trouble getting it up. this is the first girl ive been with and we've only tried sex a hand full of times.. i just wanted to know if you guys think i should take viagra..
     
  2. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    This would be a question to ask a doctor, not an internet message board.
     
  3. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    Sounds mental.
    Ask a doctor.
     
  4. Marix

    Marix OT Supporter

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    No viagra.

    You're physically capable of an erection, so viagra won't really do anything.

    It's 100% mental and whether you think so or not, it's likely that you are nervous. It's your first girl and you haven't done it much. You are nervous and full of expectations and you're worried about what she will think.

    I was exactly the same on my first time - through foreplay etc I was hard but when it came to penetration I would shrink. I eventually conquered the fear and once you start to enjoy it more, you don't get nervous and you won't have the problem ever again.
     
  5. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    It definitely sounds like it's in your head. If anything, the Viagra will give you an extra layer of confidence. I saw a urologist and he said that my problem is likely in my head. He gave me a sample bottle of Cialis, and when I used it, I had absolutely no problem. Part of it was obviously the chemicals, but another part of it was me thinking, "All right, I have this in my system. I have nothing to worry about."

    When you're truly caught up in the moment, you will not have a problem. The thing is, it's not easy to just say, "Don't think about it." Do whatever you can to focus externally...focus more on her, focus on giving her pleasure. Let whatever happen happen. Don't worry about actually having sex; in fact, you might want to say ahead of time, "Let's just fool around." That will give you the freedom to just enjoy each other and relieve the pressure of possible sex...then, when you're really caught up, let things progress as you feel.

    Most importantly, don't sweat it so much. This is far more common than you think, especially if you're just starting to get into sex now. Have you masturbated a lot for years? To porn? You're used to your own forms of stimulation...sex is completely different. Blowjobs and handjobs are *slightly* closer to what you're used to, but sex is completely different. It may take a few times before you really start to get used to that stimulation.

    Good luck, man.
     
  6. Project X

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    thanks for the info.. i wasnt sure if it was related to the propecia...

    ive been with this girl for 2.5 years and we plan on getting married.

    shes had a few partners and i have had none and the times we did try i was nervous so i knew it was in my head.. the times that we did try she got upset thinkin it was her - that i wasnt attracted to her etc and this one time she got mad after we watched porn together and she obviously wanted it.. when i didnt get it up for her she was upset.. ive thought about her bein that way the other times we tried sex and i guess its causing me not to get it up..

    i think im going to try what some of you suggested.. take some sort of form of viagra and ill have extra confidence and itll allow me to go thro with it..

    some more details.. im in great shape and workout 5 x a week etc.. so its not me physcially..
     
  7. Marix

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    Just make sure you don't start to feel dependant on the drugs - not that they're physically addictive but you might start to feel that you can't get it up unless you take them. I would use the viagra/cialis as a last resort.

    If you've been together 2.5yrs and want to get married, you should work on your closeness and openess as a couple. You must still have some sort of apprehension or sense that she may be disappointed in you etc. Have you actually sat and talked about this? Her being upset that you can't get it up is just adding more pressure to you which makes the problem worse.

    Like I said, I had exactly the same thing when I started out. I got over it and so will you.
     
  8. Project X

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    yes i definately do not want to be dependent on any of these pills... i have talked to her and we can talk about it in more detail as well.. i may also see a doctor just in case.

    like all of you have said i think its in my head and once i get over it and lose the nerves to enjoy the stimulation of sex itll be fine..
     

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