Need some advice OT (myspace bullshit)

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  1. PunkInDrublic

    PunkInDrublic Active Member

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    ***This thread was bumped by my dumb ass 3 years later. The following is old but needless to say, I didn't listen to OT and ended up with 3 years of crap (finally done though) and thus my desire to bump stemming from my admittance of failure. That is all. Nothing more to see here.***



    OK. Here's the story. My girlfriend has hooked up with an exorbitant amount of people in the past. She cheated in her last relationship. Call me crazy for getting into a relationship with her, but I couldn't help it. I really was crazy about her. At first, I had trust issues, but I really built up trust with her. As far as I know she never did, and still hasn't cheated on me. At least, in most senses of the word, she hasn't. But right now trust issues have come up.

    Basically one of the guys she hooked up with, Joel, has come back out of the woodwork. This guy has always been trying to flirt with her. I never thought she reciprocated (stupid me). My girlfriend and I got in a fight a couple weeks ago, and suprise, this guy was there to try and get on the rebound. He asked her out to a movie, party, etc. We worked things out though, and she never did anything with him except go to a couple lunches (from what I know). I even asked her if she still wanted him. She said he was too young and that he was no good in bed. She fed me lines about how she loved me so much and would never do anything with him.

    So the other day she's at my house, checking her email. I saw over her shoulder she got a myspace message from this guy, Joel. I ask her why she would be getting messages from him. She brushes it off. So this morning, my curiosity gets the best of me. I logged into her mypsace (we've had a trust issue in this area once before, but really if there's nothing to hide, why would it matter if I logged into anything? Normally I use her password for good. I usually fix the html on her myspace or livejournal for her and that's that). She's got one of those retarded surveys where you ask someone what they think about you. Sent to Joel...

    Here it is...

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    Name: ******
    Age: 20
    Location: just a few minutes away :p
    Height: 5'6"
    Hair (color and style): medium length dark brown
    Eyes: dark brown
    Piercings/tattoos: ears double pierced, navel
    OTHER:
    1. Where would we go on dates? hmmm your pool? your bed? Qdoba? that
    about covers it :-o
    2. Who are three of your favorite bands/artists? Death Cab for Cutie,
    Lovedrug, Something Corporate
    3. Do you drink/smoke? yes/now and then
    4. Do you like the beach? yes
    5. If so...would you go with me late at night? anything you want, cutie ;)
    6. Do you like movies? mais oui!
    7. If so would you stay up and watch them with me all night? how about
    we "watch them" until we get too busy doing 'other things;
    8. If you were to take me out to a movie would we watch the movie? we
    damn well better if I'm gonna pay $8, I'm gonna watch the damn
    movie... *lol* j/k we can make out a little too
    9. If not what would we be doing? balancing our checkbooks?
    10. Do you play an instrument? sorta
    11. If so...what? piano (a little bit), guitar (6 chords *lol*)
    12. Would you call me right after we saw each other to make sure I
    made it home alright? hmm probably not, because I'm too much of a
    bitch. haha!
    13. How would you rate your hugs from 1-10? 4 'cause I give half-assed
    hugs, but my boobies are nice
    14. Favorite body part on a gurl/guy? girl - legs and breasts, guy -
    arms, abs, and upper back muscles
    15. What would you say is the best thing about yourself? oh how to
    choose?! my intelligence, my capacity for forgiveness, my ability to
    make fun of myself, and we can't forget my sexy ass ;)
    16. Do you have any reps (ie: heartbreaker, player, slut)? succubus?
    but no no I'm done with that. now I am sweet and innocent. tee-hee.
    17. Would you give me kisses just because? sure! XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO *mwa*


    What Would You do if...
    I cried: rub your back and bring you tissues
    I said I liked you: "I like you too, Joely"
    I kissed you: slap you... I have a bf, damnit!
    I wanted to have sex with you: giggle and bat my eyelashes flirtatiously
    I touched your ass: spank you
    I was hospitalized: come visit you and make you get well cards
    I ran away from home: call you and convince you to come back
    I got in a fight and you were there: root for ya
    I got dumped: rebound sex?! haha
    I pissed you off: glare venimously


    What Do You Think Of My...
    Personality: A+ for you Mr. Laid Back man meat
    Eyes: purty :)
    Face: awww so cute
    Hair: good, but I liked it when it was a teensy bit longer on top
    Clothes: too stylin for your own good
    Voice: a little bit monotoned and condescending
    Humor: teeheeehahahahahahaha
    Choice of music: ok
    Manners: good
    Friends: too many crazy chicks, otherwise good
    Decisions: reasonably good, you learn from your mistakes probably even
    better than me (not saying much though I guess)


    Would You...
    Be my friend: duh!
    Tell me the truth no matter what: yes
    Buy me a birthday gift: sure if I have $
    Lie to make me feel better: only if the truth would make you feel REEEAAALLY bad
    Spread rumors about me: naw never
    Go out at 4am to get me chocolate: haha what's in it for me? ;)
    Keep a secret if I told you one: of course, silent as the grave
    Loan me some cash: if I had $
    Hold my hand: awww yes
    Keep in touch: uh huh
    Make me a snack: yup
    Try and solve my problems: hows about I help you talk out your
    problems? I think that's better
    Love me: I ♥ joely!
    Makeout with me: been there, done that, but ya I probably would
    Hold me in times of need: I'm there for ya
    Ditch me: nope
    Use me: nope
    Ask me out: doubtful
    Date me: don't think so
    Makeout with me whenever you had the chance: hmmm possibly
    Hold me and make my problems go away: see above


    W0ULD Y0U...
    [] go out with me?
    [X] give me your number?
    [X] kiss me?
    [X] let me kiss you?
    [X] watch a movie with me?
    [X] take me out to dinner?
    [X] drive me somewhere
    [X] make love to me?
    [X] take a shower with me?
    [] be my gf/bf?
    [X] hug me?
    [X] buy me food?
    [X] take me home to meet your parents?
    [X] would you let me sleep in your bed if i didn't have one?
    [X] sing car karaoke w/ me?
    [X] sit in the doctors office with me because I didn't want to go alone?
    [] re-post this for me to answer your questions?
    [X] give me a piggyback ride?
    [X] come pick me up at 3 am because my car ran out of gas in the
    middle of nowhere


    D0 Y0U...
    [X] think im cute?
    [X] want to kiss me?
    [X] want to cuddle with me?
    [X] want to hook up with me?


    ARE WE...
    [] aquintences?
    [X] friends?
    [] in a relationship?
    [] gonna have kids?


    AM i...
    [X] smart?
    [X] cute?
    [X] funny?
    [X] cool?
    [X] intersting to talk to?


    HAVE Y0U EVER...
    [X] thought about me?
    [X] thought there might be an "us"?
    [X] thought about hookin up with me?
    [X] found yourself wanting to kiss me?
    [X] wished i were there?


    ARE Y0U...
    [X] happy you know me?
    [] mad at me?
    [] thinkin bout me?
    [] going to repost this so that i will return the favor?
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    So it's not that she's cheated with him, but she has most definitely lied, covered up truths, and brushed things off. I'm not cool with this. I'm not cool with hardcore flirtation. This is not the way I expect a lasting relationship to be. This does not show commitment or dedication to me or the relationship. I'm guessing you'll all agree, but I just wanted to be sure.

    CLIFFS: Girlfriend sends flirtatious myspace survey to old hookup. See survey. Dump? Most likely.
     
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  2. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    If you are thinking about getting into smoething serious with her I would detach as soon as possible. But if the two of you are in a "for now" type of thing ride it out and have fun with it. She seems like a fun girl to be with, but she is not "in love" with you. Though love has many forms, I don't think her love is what you are thinking. She is a flirt, she likes attention. She is just friends with this guy, but if the two if you ever broke up he is probably her "safety." So, the question, should you dump her? It all depends on what you are into it for... If you feel like you are way involved and are scared she will cheat and hurt you, then I would probably let it go. Not necessarily saying that she will, but it seems as if she is not taking this as seriously as you are. If anything talk to her about it. IMO, myspace is the devil. And one should not snoop to begin with. But this is something you have found, and she deserves an explination beyond "things just wont work." See if she is willing to change things for you, and maybe tone down her flirtatiosness. Tell her this hurt you and see how receptive she is to change. IMO relationships have mre depth than this person has a flaw that I can't deal with, you have to see how willing that person is to fight for/ change things/ etc for you. In the end it is your call though.
     
  3. BiffHenderson

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    Move on. Why people put up with this shit is beyond me. Let Joel deal with her games. What goes around comes around.
     
  4. transportchef

    transportchef OT Supporter

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    You would be better off dumping this skank. At the very least she is not trustworthy. At worst she has already engaged in "other adult fun".
     
  5. PunkInDrublic

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    Yeah, thats the thing is that it may seem like we have only been together for a while. We are actually very serious. Been going out about 9 months and tell each other I love you constantly. I really do love this girl. She honestly reciprocates that feeling. Unless she is incredibly good at faking it, I know she is serious. People often tell us we look like we've been going out for at least a couple years.

    As far as her flirtatiousness, we've talked about it before. She pretends to tone it down, and then ends up hiding it. That is the real reason I want to take off. It's the fact that she tells me ok, and acts like it in person, but hides it and lies. I can't have a serious relationship with someone that won't at least say "Hey, I'm going to be really flirtatious with people and if that bothers you, we aren't going to work."
     
  6. MovieMan84

    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    My stereotypical OT response: "Bitch, curb, now"

    Honestly though, you're not going to change her. It sounds like she isn't interested in a "serious" relationship as much as she's interested in having a good time and being a flirt. You can try sitting down and talking to her about it, but if you can't really, deeply trust her and she's playing games after being with you for the better part of a year, I say it's time to move on...just my 2 cents.
     
  7. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    I'd print that out, leave it where she could find it. When she asks what it is, just tell her its her goodbye note, and then tell her to fuck off.
     
  8. Whitemax

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    Being a complete whipping post for women in the past, and having my ex wife cheat on me then leave me, Leave her now. I dont care how much she says she loves you, she's lying. She loves the idea of a bf and a relationship, but she wants to be single. You're gonna get hurt. You cant trust her. Thats obvious by that "survey" get out while you still have your manhood in tact. Even if you try to talk it over with her, she's going to BS you, lie, and hide the truth. You have the truth in your hands by seeing that survey. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
     
  9. Darrin

    Darrin Eat. Sleep. Arrest People.

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    RvB tells it straight, everytime. lol



    She wants the love from you, but the excitement and flirtation of other people. Chances are she'd prolly cheat on u, realise she's a bitch and want u back because she probably really does love u, just cant see it as she likes the attention and stuff.
     
  10. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    bullshit! leave her asap! If I found something like that she would be out the door right away!
     
  11. 428CJ

    428CJ Guest

    Seriously leave this girl... YOu'll only hurt yourself if you stay with her. Don't give her to chance to dump you later...

    Leave her now, and let her think about what she has and is doing to you.
     
  12. She probably tells that Joel character the same thing

    Odds are 8-2 in Joel's favor that she'll fuck Joel behind your back then when she's done with him she'll find another victim to prey on don't give this whore another opportunity to break your heart, leave her a goodbye note with a picture of another woman giving you head.
     
  13. ItchyDog

    ItchyDog Guest

    Sorry bud, move on :(
     
  14. Mikey

    Mikey This one, this form I hold now, so Wide eyed and h

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    GRocks10 New Member

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    I TOTALLY agree.
     
  16. Eris

    Eris Yes please

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  17. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    People like to flirt on myspace, even with those that they have no interest in. But this is someone she knows and the things she's saying is going way overboard.

    She's not in love with you. Acting or feeling like she is in love is her way of flirting with you.

    I wouldn't call her a liar though. She's just not good at relationships. Chances are if you guys break up and she gets with Joel she'll do the same exact thing to him. It's not about the guy she's with. It's about her. She's young and she won't be able to have a real relationship for a long time. To her having a rock solid bf is a great thing for the future but right now that's not something she wants to be dedicated to.
     
  18. dfekt

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    cum inside her and dump for the win!
     
  19. D

    D A guiltless state of self awareness.. The process

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    Fuck that, I'd be gone. Don't stick around for childish bullshit like that.

    Sounds like just desserts. But, I think the ultimate revenge would be to walk away for good without saying a word about it, or anything.
    It'll irritate the living fuck out of her. Plus, no stooping to her level.
     
  20. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    :werd: if you ask questions you will never get a good answer because really there is no answer, there is no "reason" other than it's in her nature. you'll feel miserable for the rest of your life for not getting an answer. dump her without saying anything and move on, let her be the one to question why you left
     
  21. SeeVinceRun

    SeeVinceRun Currently In Prison OT Supporter

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    Holy crap, you can't be serously considering sticking around with this bitch...

    She intends to sleep with this guy the first oppurtunity she gets. I agree with laying the paper out so she can find it....sounds kinda fun. That way, you can wash your hands of her, tell her why its happening AND keep the high ground in one deft move.
     
  22. CyberBullets

    CyberBullets I reach to the sky, and call out your name. If I c

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    ive done that to this one chick who i had several date with. the last date i came out of the bathroom and see her sucking face with another guy on the dance floor. I even knew that whore for a good 5+ years.

    Long story short, I left, blocked her msn, didnt answer her text messages, blocked her emails so when they were emailed back, it looked like a bad email address. :mamoru:

    Long story short, she got super fustrated trying to appologize, while I was busy sending out the nudie pics i have of her. :wiggle:

    Seriously man, show who's in control and dump her ass. Don't talk to her, don't email, msn, aol, phone, text, etc. Cut her off. It will drive her CRAZY. But then if she is already crazy who knows what she will do! :noes:
     
  23. selfpollution

    selfpollution New Member

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    Most Definitely! Except give her a dirty sanchez or cum on her face or something like that first ( I mean, he might as well, he's been deliberating long enough)
    She/the situation will not change - except maybe for the worst.

    :wackit:
     
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    you have to be joking. i would dump the bitch right then and there if i saw that shit. you have to be a major pushover to sit around and take that shit.
     
  25. Hunter Michaels

    Hunter Michaels The Real American Gigolo

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    Sounds like a cheater and willing to do it no matter what. Likely has no remorse about her past indisgressions so will continue to do it. I would dump her and just use her for an occasional blow job or two. No need bringing the Myspace stuff up, just cite trust issues.
     

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