need some advice - i am an insecure virgin at age 24...

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  1. Fresh

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    when i was a jr. (16-17 yrs old) i was going out with a sr. in high school. we were going out for about 5-6 weeks and then it started getting intimate. i was pretty shy, but she was aggressive and more experienced than me so she usually made the first moves.
    well, one night after watching a movie, we went to hang out at an isolated hill area where no one was. i thought we would just make out and stuff, but she brought a condom and wanted to sex it up. i was really nervous because i was still a virgin, but thought this was a great opportunity. i liked her a lot and she seemed to like me a lot.
    so the whole experience was a little awkward, but i did the deed and felt pretty good. the next day she calls me and breaks up with me - and her reason was that i couldn't "please" her sexually. she was basically saying that i have a small weiner and thats why she was breaking up with me.
    after that experience, i have never been able to get intimate with a girl (7 years). i had a few girlfriends after her, but i could never get intimate with them because i would think of this girl and think that the girl wouldn't like me or break up with me because i couldn't please her. i feel like i can't live a normal life because of the shit that this girl did to me.
    i was just wondering if anyone has been in a situation that is similiar to mine and how you overcame it.
     
  2. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    don't sweat it man. a girl that will break up with you based on penis size is not someone worth keeping. i'm sure there are many girls out there that will be pleased by you.
     
  3. Fresh

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    i wish i could get that through my head, but for some reason i can't.
     
  4. Gonrad

    Gonrad OT Supporter

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    It's not how big it is but how you use it.

    If a girl leave you for a bigger cock, then, well...I dunno, obviously she wans' tthe right one for ya..
     
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    sexhaver420 Buying stuff I don't need, with money I don't have OT Supporter

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    you shouldnt let one experience scare you for the rest of your life.
     
  6. russd10089

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    What'd she expect. Pleasing her isn't as much about cock size as most think. (we still like to think we're hung tho, even tho guys like me aren't) But being a virgin, how can she expect amazing sex, it takes time, and you gotta be comfortable.

    As said, any girl that'll leave a guy who's willing to work with her, especially an inexperienced guy. Then you dont' want her anyway.
    Connect with someone, think about her, forget the past. It'll eventually work into something intimate, just be comfortable with her. And, remember, practice makes perfect. :)

    I know i really sucked with my first few girls, but i found one girl that was willing to have fun, and experiment, and it went uphill from there.
     
  7. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Sounds like the girl was a fucking bitch. MOST females are not going to be like that at all, and if they are, stay away from them.

    Find yourself a girl to love you first, then get frisky lol. Seriously, once its about love and not just lust, it won't matter about size, everything can be made to feel good.
     
  8. BedBunny

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    i agree with this.

    don't let this one girl ruin it for you.

    do you really think you have a small cock? i mean cut to the chase, what size are you exactly?
     
  9. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    dude you need to fix this problem before it become worse(being intimate w/ other ppl i mean) I guess you have to find someone and tell them the reason why you are scared. If they are truly worth it then they will understand and help you get over it.
     
  10. Muricane

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    Holy fuck, that's cold. :eek3:

    That girl is one in a million, don't worry too much about that.
     
  11. kuno

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    That was her excuse but it was probably due more to your inexperience that threw her off. A girl like that you don't need to worry about.

    Don't let this girl ruin you for the rest of your life. Believe me I am sure it was more due to your inexperience than your wang size. If you've got an average size ( 6 inches ) then there is nothing physically wrong with you.
     
  12. Kyoushu

    Kyoushu きょうしゅ

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    Did she actually say you had a small dick? Or was it just that you couldn't please her sexually. If so you automatically assumed thats what she meant. Like said above it's not always about your dick size. You're inexperienced, what did she expect. What did YOU expect? I mean like being new to anything you have to keep at it and get pointers from who you're with. Don't get all upset about that. It's seriously nothing wrong with you. She's a bitch. Obviously she didn't care much about you. Which means she wasnt the right girl for you anyway. Her personality sounds really fucked up. Like she expects way too much and when things arent exactly right for her she says goodbye. The only way you'll get better is with experience and reading. Reading helps with figuring out new things to try. But don't sweat it man and feel better. :hug:
     
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    Size doesn't matter 99% of the time, she was inexperienced as well because she assumed that any guy that was his first time would know how to do things and please her right off.

    That's just idiotic.

    Personally I don't think it was your penor, I would bet money it was your technique.

    Get that thought in your head and the other one out... also how big is your schlong? Tell us that and we can help you more?
     
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    Don't sweat it, man. She was just a bitch and expected the impossible - first time? C'mon - it just gets better...she was just ignorant. Best of luck to you - you will be the man with the right woman.
     
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    wow like EVERYONE else said... she was a whore. my advice from here on out: get over your insecurity as well as possible (ex. go out and fuck a girl you dont care about) could take months or years to get over the whole thing because it was ur first and it was probably pretty traumatic. the more you get over that incident, the more your relationships will improve. if you have a freakishly small wanger, go for more petite girls or asian girls. you havent had a real "girlfriend" until you two have fooled around. the more girls you get with now, the more confident you will be in bed later. get off ur ass and find a chic u can get with NOW!!!
     
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    thanks for all the advice and positive reinforcement.
    as for finding other chics - i have dated 4 other girls after that girl. none of the relationships lasted over 6 months because i could never get to the intimate stages with them because of this overwhelming fear of rejection and humiliation.

    for my size - i really think i was more naive/innocent then the average 16-17 year old and thought i had a regular size wang - but after she said this i became obsessed with the size of my wiener. when i measured, it was only about 4.5 inches long with not much girth. i read some articles and overheard other guys/girls that said the average size is around 6 inches which made me realize that i do have a small weiner and made me more insecure.

    RedVsBlue - you said to find a girl that loves me first and then get intimate. i feel this is near impossible for me because i feel that intimacy is a part of the relationship which brings you to love someone (this might be because of what i see in movies and the people around me). i know there are some people that stay virgins until they get married, but that rarley happens.

    and yes, she did actually say that i was small. when i asked her why she wanted to break up with me and demanded an explanation, she said that i wasn't what she expected, then she mumbled that i was too small. that's what i heard, and i really didn't want to ask twice.

    am i the only one that ran into a cold hearted bitch like this? no one out there had a similiar situation??? that makes me feel even more pathetic. and i know i have to get over it, but i think she really fvcked up my head.
    and sorry for the long post - just wanted to answer everyone's question.
     
  19. Fresh

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    i will have to look over that site.
     
  20. hayte997

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    I had an ex Gf tell me my wang is small... BUT, it's almost 7 inches and fat.. Every other girl said it's very nice and big.. some are just dumb whores..

    ibcoloredpenis
     
  21. You need to not worry about what size you are. If the girl truely loves you then you wont have a problem with that. Also, look into finding another virgin ...itll make things easier on you becuase she wont have any experience either. Then you can just make you way up from there. The bitch that told you you had a small cock was just an immature high school girl anyways ...her opinon shouldnt matter to you.
     
  22. NateMeister

    NateMeister Blah blah??

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    Girls like that either watch too much porno, read too much, or buy large dildos because the girls Ive been with don't complain about my size and being an asian guy, you know what I mean :)

    It works, I know how to work them, and it works out.
     
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    I'm sure females say that for shock value. They know that will hit a guy where it hurts....regardless if it's true or not.
     
  24. dodgerdog

    dodgerdog If you're a racist, I'll attack with the North.

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    don't sweat it bro...you're gonna meet a girl down the road and none of this will matter. you'll get caught up in this amazing moment, and all of your insecurities will go away. you'll see...and it'll be great, too :)
     
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