OK, heres the deal. I'm 32, and dated this girl for 3 years. For the most part everything was great. Couldnt have been much better. Early on, not too long out of a divorce, I had my issues, but worked past them. a year ago we moved to ATl for my job. The problem was this job paid me less than I was making 7 years ago. Money was tight. I was suposed to be contract for 3 months, then hired on full time. They didnt hire me, just extended the contract. Kept telling me they were going to hire me soon. Money was bad. We faught, and were stressed all the time becuase we were broke. She worked and worked overtime to tryr and help, but bank tellers dont make much. We had always talked about getting married, and I always told her I thought and hoped we would.That I wanted to. I had planned on asking her to marry me the day I would finally get hired. June came. Told me it would be a couple weeks. I even planned out how I was going to propose and were. Nothing. Sept comes around, and she decides shes going to move home to Chattanooga to help her sick mom, and to try and get our finances back on track. She finally gets a job the end of October. Up to tyhis point everything was cool. after her first weeks training, I go up to suprise her at work. she tells me shes met a guy she knew from middle school. Hes getting a divorce, and has a 5 yo kid. ( she DOESNT want kids) he had asked her out on a date, and she was going to have to cancel it becuase Ive come up. All the sudden she stopped loving me along time ago. Thought I had too many issues with marrige, and so she moved on. Still loves me she says, but as her best friend. Still trys to keep me around as her best friend. BUt swears I have no chance, becuase she doesnt love me, and has no interest in trying again. I know she still has feelings for me. Im not stupid. I know shes still attracted to me. Ive told her what my plans were, and all Ive asked her is to at least consider just going out on a date with me. Taking things slow, just to see if theres any chance of saving this relationship. I need to know, is there anything I can do to prove to her how I feel about her? Anything I can do to get ehr to agree to go out with me? I really dont want to loose her. Its killing me that we're not engaged right now, only becuase My job wouldnt hire me when they said they would. They finally did. 3 weeks ago. I need real advice here. NOt "dump her and move on" or " please go kill yourself" This woman is the perfect fit for me. We were so good together. And to loose it all over money issues that arent there anymore makes me sick to my stomach.