Need help with ex.

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  1. alo816

    alo816 New Member

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    My ex and I broke up 3 months ago and we had dated for 2 and a half years. I was madly in love with this girl and I keep trying to move on but everytime I stop talking to her something ends up happening where I end up running back to her. I was even talking to this new girl and ended up breaking it off with her because I still loved my ex. I dont know what to do..
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Move on. It ended. It will take you a long time. You need to grow some willpower and stop talking/seeing her.
     
  3. Hypno toad

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    so you feel the break up was a mistake. more details on this one?
     
  4. alo816

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    I thought it was a mistake at first but for some reason I think it was good now after hearing stuff like she used to lie to me and stuff, which she will not admit too. My main problem is no matter how much I talk to other girls and stuff like that I cannot seem to get feelings for other girls and its killing me. It would be so much easier if I could just get another girl and get new feelings but I can't seem to do it..
     
  5. Hypno toad

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    it not's going to be easy to move on because you still have some feelings for your ex and you had been together for that long. what was the reason for the break-up?
     
  6. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    its gonna take some time
     
  7. Hypno toad

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    agreed
     
  8. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    work on making yourself better right now. hit the gym up, go out with friends, keep busy.
     
  9. hi2u2

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    its ok to still love her but whatever you do, DO NOT CONTACT her or accept any contact from her. keep going out with girls eventually one will catch your eye, and dont look for another relationship right now look for someone wholl keep you busy
     
  10. alo816

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    She broke up with me because I gave a girl my number. We dated for that long and I wasn't really allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. She thought I was hiding shit from her when I really wasn't. Ive been hittin the gym since we broke up and i've been making a ton of friends and going out to parties but I can't stop thinking about her..
     
  11. She was insecure, she will only take you down because of her insecurity, time to move on and enjoy life, I know it's much easier said than done, but hey, I'm living and trust me it's fun being single.

    Beast
     
  12. PharCyde

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    I dated a girl for 2 years I thought I was madly in love with too. It seriously took me probably over a year to get over her. The only thing that got me out of thinking about her was other girls. Get out there, find another chick... easiest and quickest way to get over someone is to find someone else.

    And it really does help if you break off ALL contact with her
     
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    Cut contact. Start doing things you always wanted to do, but couldn't because of her or your relationship. Do things that make you happy and that make you feel yourself
     
  14. Kelli

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    It will be hard to move on being you were in the relationship for so long. But by contacting her and and going back to her it's just going to make it harder. You need to just move on completely.
     
  15. alo816

    alo816 New Member

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    It is just so hard to totally move on from someone you loved so much. I have been trying but I will sit there right before I go to sleep and stuff and just think about her. It sucks.
     
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    Many of us, including myself, have gone through this. I think everyone will at some point in their life, so dont feel like youre the only one. Sitting up at night, thinking of her before you go to bed is normal. You dont just automatically lose feelings for someone once you break up with them. You just have to go through the detox process so to speak and move ON with your life. Easier said than done, i know, but read some motivational books to take your mind off things. That helped a lot when i broke up with my ex.
     
  17. Vrash

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    Rebounds helps, a bit, for a short time. There isnt really anything you can do to get your feelings to go away in a snap. These things takes time.
    Keep yourself occupied with friends, dont think too much. It will only fuck your head up more then it already is.

    Best of luck.
     
  18. sirsexy9

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    There's nothing I can say to make the hurt stop. It just takes time my friend. But I promise, it will get better and you will move on.
    Here is my hint: STOP TALKING TO HER, it will just make other girls NOT want to talk to you and it will give her the upper hand, FOREVER.
    Be strong!!!!!
     
  19. fy-freedom

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    Keeping touch with Ex is always awkward. If you really wanna move one, the best thing to do: cut contact. Don't have to find a replacement straightaway. But start socialising with others more often.
     
  20. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    like it's been said and always is...CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION

    then you will be able to live your life again
     
  21. PocoDiablo

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    In order to get past this you must:

    1. Realize that she is gone, and you must stop talking to her 100%. Block her if need be.

    2. Realize that you need to learn how to be in love with YOURSELF. You don't need anyone else to make you feel good. Until you feel worthy of being alone you won't get past this.

    3. Realize that you will find love again, although it may take a while. When you do find it, the love will be stronger and better. :x:
     
  22. ^^^^ to add on to his post

    Being single isn't all that bad, hell I see no drawbacks to it.
     
  23. antihero

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    thats no way to live man.

    focus on the positive. you sound young. you should be excited to go out and see whats out there. kick some tires, go for a few test drives.

    like everyone said... stop all contact with the ex. put her out of your life for a while. you arn't going to have feeling like the ones you have for a gf of 2.5 years for some girl you just met. its silly to think you will. you need to spend some time with someone else, get to know them, have sex with them, have good times with in jokes and stories between you. Then maybe you will have feelings for the new girl like the old girl. Maybe you won't, but it should still be fun giving it a try.
     
  24. nygiantplaya

    nygiantplaya I

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    aaron dont be a bitch plain n simple
     
  25. what he said ^^^^^
     

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