well i got out of a long-term relationship in may that lasted 4 1/2 years. we started dating sophomore year of HS and she was pretty much my only serious GF. When we broke up, i had a chance to date a really awesome and beautiful girl but i fucked it up b/c letting go of my 4 year relationship was so hard. i'm 20 years old, good looking, in shape, intelligent and drive an M3 (i know that doesn't matter but is just another reason why i shouldn't have a problem) so anyway, i feel like my long ass relationship has left me badly handicapped when it comes to dating. it's hard for me to initiate conversations with women and even harder for me to find topics to keep them going. i let my lack of self-confidence take over and i start to worry too much about what the girl thinks about me. i get pale in the winter and i think about that wayyyy too much. i know that she prob doesn't care about it that much but i end up turning it over and over in my head and i blow it up into this huge issue. i've got this girl that i really like. she's gone with me as my date to my fraternity's Xmas party and to the movies. i figure that she wouldn't have done either of these if i wasn't at least somewhat attractive to her. I have a hard time being "smooth" around her and i can tell that she notices and it pushes her away. anyway, i dunno where i'm going with this. just giving some background i guess. i'm really just looking for some advice about this, maybe even someone that sympathizes with me. I'm just trying to come out of my shell really. what does everyone recommend? oh yea, sorry for the long ass post.