Need help or any advice anyone can offer please!?

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  1. Luke_Thighrocker

    Luke_Thighrocker Back the way you came...

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    I don't want to make a long post that takes forever to get through,
    and makes people lose interest, so I will get straight to the point.

    My fiance has recently become extremely self-conscious and insecure about
    our age difference. She feels that I think I am "missing out" on a lot of
    things, and that I have a lot of my life yet to live, so I couldn't possibly be
    ready to settle down. This couldn't be further from the truth, and I do love
    this woman with everything that I am, but nothing I say ever helps to
    alleviate any of her issues.

    Any advice? Anyone?

    AGES: Her = 34 I = 25
     
  2. P7

    P7 You have something on your tongue, let me get that

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    If you truely are in it for the long haul, let her know. Always be telling her how much you love her, how lucky you are, how beautiful she is, etc. When she says you aren't ready to settle down, tell her you already did. Tell her that you wouldn't have gotten engaged if you weren't ready.


    Also, I hate to say it, but I will. She may have something on the side, if you catch my drift. Not saying thats definately the case, but if she is getting like this all of a sudden, it's a thought to ponder.
     
  3. Luke_Thighrocker

    Luke_Thighrocker Back the way you came...

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    Those all seem like things that are easier said than done.
     
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    there's no one answer to your problem, just a combination of reminding her how much you love her, how much you want to spend your whole life with her, and how you couldn't possibly find someone better to be with than her. the only thing you'd likely be missing out on is random pussy.
     
  5. Luke_Thighrocker

    Luke_Thighrocker Back the way you came...

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    So I pretty much need to offer constant reassurance about the whole thing?
    Missing out on random pussy is not something that concerns me, so there
    isn't a whole lot else. It just seems that nothing I say curbs her insecurities.
     
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    without actualy knowing you two, that's probably the best advice anyone can give you. just reassure her that you love her and care about her and want to be with her and only her.
     
  7. P7

    P7 You have something on your tongue, let me get that

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    What are? If you truely love her and you want to spend the rest of your life with her, why would it be hard to say?
     
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    Sounds like she wants to break up with you but is trying to make it seem like she is going to break up with you because she cares about your life and your feelings and for your own good, so when it happens, she won't seem like a bitch.
     
  9. Luke_Thighrocker

    Luke_Thighrocker Back the way you came...

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    They aren't hard things to say at all, but even though it seems like she needs
    to hear me say those words, she sometimes isn't very receptive.
     
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    Luke_Thighrocker Back the way you came...

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    I really hope that isn't the case, but that is a good thing to be aware of if it happens.
     
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    Souds to me like she's haveing stage fright
     
  12. Lad

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    Just keep re-assuring her. I am thinking that maybe she had some kind of bad prior deep relationship and she needs the re-assurance that when she is 50 youll still be there. My advice: Constant re-assurance.
     

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