SRS NEED HELP!!! my stupid BF!

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  1. mamiko

    mamiko New Member

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    im in a relationship with my bf over 4years now.
    but i found out that he is an exhibitionist beginning of this year. i was very shocked and couldnt belived it, but i had to make sure of his excuses and why,,, after we discussed about his exhibitionism, he promissed me that he wont check that site and never post his pics again. Sadly he did it again in a couple of month. he did it in 3 or 4 different sites. Since then i stop loving him, but i couldnt hate him yet. i really thought he will change after we had a long and serious talk this time. few weeks ago, of course he did it again. this was 2rd time he broke his propmiss. i knew its over.

    i also found out that he went to many many massage parlors cuz he always leave reviews after he went. what a stupid man. According to his review, he did sex, had bj, hj everything u can think of. but he confessed me that he had only hot oil massages, no sex, no bj or hj. but i cant trust him, and i wont believe what he says anyway.

    i told him i hate secrets and lies. i even said "if u tell me what u did eventhough how stupid and foolish thing it is, i will forgive u. " i was very seriouse about it, but he still keeps secrets and havent told me everything yet. i know....

    i know that he still flashes his cock to someone because he thinks i dont know that one yet.

    i have many many more things im worried and shocked about my bf. i dont know what to do... i dont even know why im with this guy for this long, and just found out about those things now...

    i live with my bf now, but im seriously thinking breaking up with him and leaving that apt. but its not easy to just leave him after 4years of relathionship.

    i wont trust him or belive him 100% anymore no matter what happens in the future.

    i feel like im wasting my time being his gf cuz i know now that i never marry him.

    i cant talk about this with my friends cuz its so embarassing, so i need ur help and opinions!!!!

    should i leave him asap? should i forgive him because its guy's thing? or what should i do???
     
  2. runawaycamel

    runawaycamel New Member

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    Sex at a massage parlor? I always thought those were for massages?....
    It's really unfortunate that he didnt tell you sooner, but were there any signs that he may be into doing these sorts of things? How is he reacting to your reaction?
     
  3. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Is this for real?
     
  4. GregFarz78

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    AE check :hsugh:
     
  5. mamiko

    mamiko New Member

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    he told me that he went to sex house? where u can have sex with girls ) before he met me. i guess he went to a massage parlor to get massages, but according to his reviews,,,i dont know its true or not.

    i know that he uses pc a lot cuz he works at home, but i had no idea that he is an exhibitionist and even went to a massage parlor many times since he has met me,,,,

    i dont think he will tell me about those stuff ever. he will keep secrets and lie about those stuff.

    he is really nice guy and good bf and i know he loves me very much, and he always cry and tell me that "its sick,,, i will quit, i will change, i wont make u sad anymore" but he wont change.
     
  6. mamiko

    mamiko New Member

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    whats that?
     
  7. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Dump him. The end.
     
  8. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Regardless of AE possiblity, i will give serious advice.

    Listen to your gut feeling and leave this guy. He hasn't been honest to you :bottomline:

    YOU DONT WANT TO BE WITH A LIAR!
     
  9. mamiko

    mamiko New Member

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    very true. i just need to grow up and step up.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    All there honestly is to say to this mess of a thread is:

    You cannot change someone and you shouldn't even try. You need to stop, realize this, and move on to find someone who fits what you are looking for in a man and relationship.
     
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    johan Active Member

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    There is no relationship. No, no relationship. Only in your mind.
     
  12. MattThom01

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    Of course you should dump him. Why would you stay with someone you know you can't trust?

    You don't need our help. You know what you need to do. So go do it already!
     
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    what exhibitionist sites?
    is he on OT too?

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  14. mamiko

    mamiko New Member

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    thank you very much for your advice!!!!!
    im still thinking how to leave him and forget about him.

    or i might give him last chance????

    its very hard for me to break up cuz i know he is a pervert and stupid, but other than that,, he is really good bf and we have fun together.
     
  15. MattThom01

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    you've given him enough chances. I know it's hard, but you need to leave him. If you don't know, you'll just make it even harder to do the next time the doubts come up.

    YOU ALREADY GAVE HIM A CHANCE. HE BLEW IT. LEAVE HIM!
     
  16. Arclight

    Arclight Hypercube

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    Massage can have a LOT of different meanings. :hsugh:

    Ever heard of a Rub and Tug?

    What about a massage with happy ending?

    :mamoru:
     
  17. mamiko

    mamiko New Member

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    exactly!!!!
    i gave him many chances, and he fucked it up.

    and i just found out the he had hand job 6months ago when im not in town. its fucked up.
     
  18. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Dump him already.
     
  19. MattThom01

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    Updates?

    After you dump him, I'd recommend getting tested for STDs, just in case.
     
  20. natalie5445

    natalie5445 Frau Blücher

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    You need to leave him, or you are just proving that it's okay for him to lie to you.

    Leave. Him.
     
  21. mamiko

    mamiko New Member

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    thank you very much for ur coments"""

    i gave him enough chances to grow up and change, but he never learned.

    i asked him to go to see a Dr. but he hasnt gone yet.
    i will go this week.

    i almost made my mind to break up with him, but im actually out of town right now for another 10days, so i cant really do anything about it right now.

    i have to find a new place to live.... moving out.... starting new life,,,, there are lots of work and energy to leave him.
     
  22. teo

    teo . => ? => !

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    You're the one that loses by delaying. The more time you spend with this loser, the less time you'll have to find/date someone better for you. Don't waste your life.
     
  23. AkaiOokami

    AkaiOokami Hero of the Hounds

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    If you know all this, it should be more than enough evidence to leave him in the gutter.

    Just cut your losses and be the better person.

    Quit pulling each other's hair out, and make the clean back now and forever.

    It's easy.

    Just tell him, "We're finished."
     
  24. mamiko

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    i did tell him that "we are over." clearly like million times.
    i told him that i wont trust u anymore no matter what happens.
    but he keeps saying that "i will change,,, now im serious,, i wasnt serious before." " i want u to see me trying" dont u think its too late????

    basically,,, he is asking me for the last chance. and if he fuck up again,,, he will leave me. i dont know thats fair or not... but thats what he has been saying to me right now.

    is there any good way to tell him good bye?
    he keep saying i will change over and over.
    iv kept saying i dont wanna be with u anymore and im really mean to him.
     
  25. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    He'll just need to accept that you're done with him. It's not your responsibility. Just cut off contact from him.
     

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