FRK Need help being a master/dominant v.merged threads

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Jack Imhoff, Jan 29, 2007.

  1. Jack Imhoff

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    My wife likes to be submissive. I really like the idea but lack the confidence/knowledge on how to do it correctly. Are there any sites/books that would be able to teach me? Thanks!
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    there's a TON of info on the web (and older threads in here) on this. i'll see what i can dig up for you.
     
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    There are a LOT of things you can do, so to narrow it down, why don't you ask some questions about what's on your mind first.
     
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    Always speak in 3's when telling her what to do :dunno:
    Like...don't say 'Sit down', but rather say 'Sit down, eyes forward, hands behind your back'

    3 items as one instruction is automatically powerful.
    That's an easy one off the top of my head :noes:
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    theres a book out "the Loving Dominant" Lots of great info on how to be a good top to you partner.
     
  7. Jack Imhoff

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    Thanks for the hints everyone. I'll keep doing some research too.
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    now my question is, Does she want Sexual dominance as in her being a passive subject and you doing the work OR does she want the mental/service submission as in you order her to do things and she does them (sometimes with physical punishment and/or coersion)? this make s a big difference in how you approach things with her. Youy two must go at this as a team and communicate at length on your desires.
     
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    Need help being a master

    So my girl friend likes to play "slave and master" games in bed.
    This is all fun and such but I am kind of too passive and nice to play a good master >.<

    I tend to hand over the roll of master to her with out thinking about it...
    I have a hard time being forceful, I worry about hurting or upsetting her, and just over all not really something I am good at...


    Any advice from you guys/girls?
     
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    threads merged.
     
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    Hmm, good point...two very VERY different things
     
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    what he said.
     
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    well, if you're coming from the "nice guy" point of view, where it's kind of ingrained not to be bossy, pushy, or mean, look at it this way: do it because she likes it. if she wants a good spanking, give her a safe word (for your own reassurance that you won't really hurt her) and then do it because you want to make her happy. that's always a good starting point.

    start out small, and let it build. once you get accustomed to the role, you'll find yourself fitting into that mindset better. the more you get used to her liking it, the more it will turn you on, and the more dominant you'll become (because of the positive reinforcement you get from pleasing her).

    start simple. use old neckties to blindfold and tie her wrists together, then tease her (for example). Make it a game first, and take it slow. read, explore, and have fun. before long, you'll be tanning her ass with the best of them and she'll be loving every minute of it.
     
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    cheers, the 'nice guy' thing fits me to a T .

    i'll give it a shot hey.
     
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    A nice safe word we use is "quit." She can say stop, ow, whatever, but quit means quit. :)
     

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