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  1. ACA

    ACA Sometimes I feel lonely at night OT Supporter

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    I've got a big problem with being shy. I'm actually not even too sure if thats the right word for this, but its something thats bothering me.

    I've never screwed before, and up until recently never done anything physical with a woman. I started hanging out with someone who I'd admired for so long and things were going great. I've been fine with, and would even say I'm comfortable with fingering her at this point. She's jerked me off once and that went fine too. But I just cant seem to get past that. When I know the moment would be right to take it to the next level and fuck, I just sorta go dumb and freeze up and not do anything.

    Is it because I've never fucked before, and I really just don't know what to do and what actions to take? If so, someone please clue me in, I feel really pathetic right here. I know the whole physical side of it, but when its time for the pants to come off I'm clueless. Its easier if were already fucking around with our hands because the pants are off already you know, but when were fully clothed, where do you go from there?

    I sincerely hope nobody makes fun. You were all once here... okay maybe not dug as deep in a hole as I am but still. All advice is appreciated. I hate to turn to OT for things like this, but she WAS my advice girl, and where do you turn when your advice girl is the one you need advice on?
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    First, how old are you before I respond with some real stuff?
     
  3. SRT910

    SRT910 New Member

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    IF you don't know, your probably too young, seriostly.
     
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    huntz0r New Member

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    This is easy. Get to the part with the hands, then just keep going.
     
  5. ACA

    ACA Sometimes I feel lonely at night OT Supporter

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    17, 18 in a few months. Pretty sure I'm old enough, thanks.
     
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    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    Falconer OT Supporter

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    I would say watch some porn, but that would involve the following negatives:

    1. There's so much porn out there, you'd probably end up with some weird stuff.

    2. Porn sex is designed to look good for the camera and isn't necessarily the best instruction on how to have sex with a chick.

    I wasn't sure from your post if you want to know what to do when you're being intimate, or how to actually get there.

    If it's the latter, just start kissing her, put her hands where you want them, and put your hands where you want them on her. Tell her "take my pants off" or "take your pants off." If she already has your cock in her hands you're probably in a good place.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    hah, right
     
  9. ACA

    ACA Sometimes I feel lonely at night OT Supporter

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    Indeed it is the latter. I definately know what turns her on, I just get shy when I start to get there.

    You know, come to think of it, it's not that I don't know what to do, I'm just too "polite", for lack of a better term, to go for what I want. I suppose so many years without experimenting does that to you.

    I expected better from the Vag crew, but thank you for being one of only two who responded seriously.
     
  10. Abomb

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    :ugh: :ugh: :ugh: :ugh:

    I lost my virginity when i was 15

    I think he will be fine at 17
     
  11. Mizzark

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    I was the same way when I first started having sex. In my experience if she's jacking you off then she'll probably go to the next step. If she's reaching in your pants to do it while you're making out/ doing whatever, then she'll definitely like to take her pants off as well.

    If you're asking for specific "moves" to get to intercourse saying something cheesy probably will work. It won't seem cheesy until after you're done because you're both in the moment. Maybe saying, "Would you like to move onto the bed?" or something like that.

    Have you done anything to her? If you're fingering her or even rubbing her through her clothes, slowly make the transition into unzipping/unbuttoning her pants. If you wanna go down on her make sure it's ok with her and then proceed. After doing that you can start taking off your own pants if she hasn't offered to do it by now. If you're both pantsless, then you're as good as in (no pun intended). :bigthumb:

    Basically, don't be nervous. Do what comes naturally. If you both want it then it will happen. One more word of advice: Girls like men who know what they want. Don't be overly agressive but don't be timid and ask questions in a feeble voice. If you want something done ask assertively and with some authority. But don't be a dick about it.

    Damn, that was long.
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'm just more pointing out that he doesn't sound like he'sready. Yet nowadays people think at 17 that they just have to have sex. But the fucking truth is you shouldn't have it until you are ready for the emotional baggage it's going to bring you from there on out. This kid almost sounds scared but as if he is forcing himself to get to the next step. Why not just wait until it feels right?
     
  13. Chris90210

    Chris90210 New Member

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    Go with the flow.... I'm sure she has no clue how to have sex either..... but lady goodman is very right.
     
  14. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    LIke wise!

    All i have to say is just go with the flow. It seemed to work for me and I am sure it worked with others! I mean if you know what turns her on and such just go with it. Just my 2 cents....
     
  15. ACA

    ACA Sometimes I feel lonely at night OT Supporter

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    Thanks dude, that's some solid advice right there.

    Hun, I appreciate your input, but honestly you know nothing about me, nor do you know a thing about my situation. There's only so much I can say in one post without going into every minute detail of my life. As far as emotional baggage, there is none, we're just friends having fun. Worry about your own life instead of mine.

    Actually... shes had sex before. See, the problem comes from her expecting me to behave in ways shes become accustomed to. Me, being a virgin and not knowing the full picture on her past sexual encounters, am left without a clue as to what shes expecting.
     
  16. Mizzark

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    Don't worry about what you think that she's expecting. Be yourself and do what comes naturally. If you start thinking too much you'll definitely become nervous and shy. Just go with the flow and don't be too self-conscious.

    You're a unique individual. Everyone is different when it comes to sex. I mean it's basically the same thing (guys like their cock and balls played with) but everyone has their own unique likes and dislikes. Also, we all have different things we like to do in bed. Sex would be very boring if everyone was exactly the same. You're thinking way too hard on this. Clear your mind and just be confident in yourself.
     
  17. Chris90210

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    Tell her you are a virgin then she will expect you to suck
     
  18. Chris90210

    Chris90210 New Member

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    I am not a ticklish person.... but if a girl starts kissing my neck in any situation I just start laughing :mamoru:
     
  19. huntz0r

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    I know what you mean. FWIW, I never even kissed a girl until I was 20, 3 months later I was no longer a virgin. Total crash course.

    Anyway, the reason is probably just that you aren't totally comfortable with the situation. Nothing wrong with that; it's strange and new, and you don't know your abilities yet. The best thing for you might be to lead by doing, not saying anything (which can easily ruin the moment). Move slowly, but in a confident and determined way, not hesitant or nervous. Your intentions will be obvious, and by giving her time to react she won't feel as though you're forcing yourself on her. Then as long as she doesn't push you away, you're set.
     

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