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  1. Ce-Ce

    Ce-Ce New Member

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    My s/o and i have been together for almost two years. We used to have sex at least once a day if not twice. Around six months ago he started taking medication that made him loose his sex drive. He has been off of them for three months and we still barely have sex once a week! He tells me he just has no intrest but at the same time he has been dl porn onthe internet every once in a while. Normally i would have np but if your not intrested with me how can he be intrested with himself? What should I do? I have having a large problem with this. I have tried to talk to him a bunch of times about it but he says he doesn't know why.I am at the point where I just don't think he is atracted to me and we shouldn't be together, he swares thats not it and he wants to be with me but i can't understand why
    Help Please
     
  2. ksakosher

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    are you fat or ugly?
     
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    Totally inappropriate. Consider this a warnin.
     
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    If the medication he was taking had that big of an affect on him while he was on it, it still might have something to do with it. I imagine the best/only thing you can really do is tell him how this situation is making you feel about yourself, if he really loves you he is going to tell you sincerely what is really going on
     
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    I know its hard but it might simply be a personal issue that is causin him not to be able to perform. Jerkin off to porn versus fuckin someone requires more stamina, both physically and mentally. I was in a simiar situation with my SO of 4.5 yrs. We'd fuck like rabitts 2-3 times a day, everyday,then for 3 months, NO SEX. I thougt it was me, turns out, he was havin big fianancial issues and such, and he simply couldnt take the increased pressure of havin to perform. Try to be understandin and realize that its not you. Chances are hes goin thru somethin that you dont know about, and in the end, you bein understandin will help whatever it is go by easier for him.

    In the meantime, go out a buy a few toys for yourself and a few months worth of batteries, you'll be alright :bigthumb: (Also, I love your AV)
     
  7. mrs0323

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    My question would be cannot he not perform PERIOD or can he only perform (or be up to the task as it were) when he's viewing the porn? Have you really listened when he has talked to you? Are you not hearing something he's saying? Most men will typically use the "I don't why I feel like this" for 2 reasons. One, they really DON'T know or two, they do know and don't want to talk about it. And if he's only doing the internet porn avenue ONCE in awhile, I relly wouldn't fret over it. People's sex drives fluctuate like the temperature. Don't sweat it for now and see how it plays out. But in the interim don't EVEN bother him about it. Nothing worse than a woman whining about not getting any.
     
  8. Ce-Ce

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    Thanks for your advice guys! We had a long talk last night about trying to work things out, I guess I just need to keep cool about it and cross my fingers!
     
  9. i guess you're just going to have to be patient... also sometimes it takes a while for medication to be totally out of your system.
    Hopefully everything will work itself out eventually.
     
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    I have actually lived this one. There was a time where I just didn't wish to have sex, yet I wanted to get off. It was stress. I was working a lot and dealing with a lot of general stress. I just didn't find the SO to be interesting because at the time, sex felt like work. Maybe he needs a stress relief. Some time to himself or a good massage. Or of course he could just not be interested in you any more, but let's hope it's not that.
     

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