SRS Need advice to give to a friend.

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  1. Skittah

    Skittah oh no

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    I have a friend who is in his early twenties and has never really had a real girl friend. and every time he meets a girl they either just end up being friends with benefits, he pours his heart out to her and she ends up just running away, or she pulls the "friend card" (sometimes its a mix of all three). He really wants a girl more then anything, and i'm at a loss for what to tell him. im not the most sensitive when it comes to these things and he is the ultimate definition of a "nice guy"

    what advice can i give him? :sadwavey:
     
  2. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    to kiss her on the first date no matter what
     
  3. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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  4. Skittah

    Skittah oh no

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    he has trouble getting dates, and he is the perfect listener. he is the ultimate nice guy.
     
  5. METALLlC BLUE

    METALLlC BLUE New Member

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    He ought to read MM.
     
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    Deckard New Member

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    MM?
     
  7. METALLlC BLUE

    METALLlC BLUE New Member

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    PM me.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    He most likely is far too nice, accomodating and clingy. Tell him when he meets a girl to act aloof. Meaning, get her number, don't say much and leave her alone. Tell him to just say "I'll call you," maybe wait 2 days or so, and to just overall play it cool. He cannot give all of his energy to one girl and then be surprised when the girl is put off that he's ALWAYS available. Girls secretly love a man who is unavailable because he seems like he has an actual life.

    Also, tell your friend to get a life.
     
  9. MattThom01

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    ding ding ding. That's all there is too it. If he has a life, he won't become super obsessed with women, because he will have other things taking up time in his life.
     
  10. Wishgiving

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    Does he have a job or any hobbies? You can probably get him involved in other hobbies, or help him get a job he'll love. Women are attracted to men with passion in their interests. And even if he doesn't have any serious hobbies, he can develop one. For example, if he likes movies, he can read some books on film and that alone can be a great conversation starter.

    Some rules:
    - Do whatever you can to prevent from talking too much about yourself.

    - A man that looks or tries too hard is very unattractive. There are better priorities than trying to get a girlfriend.
     
  11. ChaCha

    ChaCha Active Member

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    sSTOP POURING YOUR HEART OUT!!

    how weirded out would you be if some girl poured her heart out to you. Just play it cool and let the relationship take control. Everything is there and if its meant to be it will be, no reason to rush things.
     

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