So my GF of 2 1/2 years of I broke up the other day. I was actually ok with it, well; I still THINK I’m ok with it. The logic behind it is all there, we still really care about and love each other but aren’t really in love anymore, we want different things when we get to the cross roads a year and half down the road, she doesn’t like the stupid things we argue about, she doesn’t take good enough care of her body (which she and I DO both think), then there’s the a sort of big one. She’s been thinking lately and she’s unsure of her sexuality now. Too add to all this she still wants to be friends. I still really want to be friends. She’s my best friend, she’s been an major emotional crutch for me the past few years with this shitty as fuck job (The Navy), my mom getting cancer and other smaller things. That and I really enjoy spending time with her and talking to her. I’m pretty sure I couldn’t ask for a better break-up/separation. Like I said, the logic is all there. The problem is despite being a 5’5, 187lb muscled monstrosity… I very much think like a girl in many ways. The logic is there, I know that I have to keep busy and keep my mind off things; I know I need to make new friends and move on. I just don’t. I’m having trouble moving on when my best friend and one of the few people I really trust/care about they’re opinion/advice wants to split off. A lot of the time I think I’m fine. Then I start getting into my head and coming up with stupid off the wall scenarios that are borderline crazy and I just start getting angry and paranoid. When that happens I go and talk to her, we discuss things, and I’m better for awhile. I know I need to make this not happen and without another emotional crutch around; I’m not sure how to do that. Then the other part of my problem is despite I know how much we aren’t really right for each other, when I start getting into my head and thinking I really start to regress on that. Thinking stuff like ‘You’re 27, you need to settle down’, ‘do you really want to be 33 and starting to have kids’, ‘do you really want to play the whole dating game again’ , ‘now you have to find roommates again’, etc. etc. etc. So as much as it is a mutual thing, it’s also somewhat one side (her side). I guess a better way to put it is she did the breaking up but I agreed that it was probably for the best but am not 100% sure. Sooooo, I guess this would be the Cliffs part…. How do I get past wanting to be with someone who I know isn’t really right for me even though I still rely heavily on they’re friendship for many of my emotional needs? WHILE at the same time remaining friends with them. Being in here so much I guess I know the answers to the question(s) I’m asking. I guess what I’m really looking for is past experiences people are willing to share on how they did this. I’ve never wanted to remain friends after a break up but this one I really really do.