Need Advice / GF + 'pause?'

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  1. A Cow

    A Cow OT Supporter

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    hey,

    ok recently.. had my gf over for the week.. and yea.. greatest time ever ( she lives on the island and me the mainland )

    anways..

    she messages me today ( msn >_< way to make me feel special )

    and said ( msn convo.. roved names etc )
    5/3/2007 5:37:03 PM her me I dont think we should go out anymore.
    5/3/2007 5:37:10 PM me her o
    5/3/2007 5:37:14 PM her me You need to get your life together ______.
    5/3/2007 5:37:25 PM her me and not worry about anything else.
    5/3/2007 5:37:34 PM her me its the same reasons that _______ broke up with his girlfriend
    5/3/2007 5:37:51 PM her me How am I to expect you to love and hve me trust you when you can do that yourself?
    5/3/2007 5:39:08 PM her me I Still love you. You need to get your life together
    5/3/2007 5:39:16 PM her me when you have it together and if you still want to be with me
    5/3/2007 5:39:20 PM her me then we can talk?



    what should i do v_v she means everything to me..
     
  2. otherlank

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    I have no idea what's going on.
     
  3. Placebo

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    For some reason, I felt like I was drunk reading this.
     
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  5. P7

    P7 You have something on your tongue, let me get that

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    You're 20. What she said leads me to believe you're clingy and desparate. Get another girl, forget about this one. You're too young to be pining over someone. This time, make her an extra activity, and not something you plan your very existance around. If you make yourself too easy, she'll move on.
     
  6. Falconer

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    I think "her me" means "her to me" and "me her" means "me to her."

    Here's I'll translate:


    her: I dont think we should go out anymore.
    me: o
    her: You need to get your life together ______.
    her: and not worry about anything else.
    her: its the same reasons that _______ broke up with his girlfriend
    her: How am I to expect you to love and hve me trust you when you can do that yourself?
    her: I Still love you. You need to get your life together
    when you have it together and if you still want to be with me
    her: then we can talk?
     
  7. Falconer

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    Ok, now my commentary:

    Fuck that. She is placing conditions on you for her to be with you. "If you do this, then I will be with you."

    This speaks volumes to her character. I say "for better or worse," so if she can't accept you when things aren't 100% perfect in your life, then YOU kick HER to the curb. You don't want to be with someone who will place conditions on being with you. You can find better.

    She basically just did you a favor.
     
  8. A Cow

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    well.. facts.. not clingy ( well a bit when i see her cause thats like.. once or twice a month for like a day.. but this week i wasnt ) and im not desprate.. ( have more chicks hitting on me than i know what to do with )

    anyways..

    yea.. bad stuff been happning recetnly and im into some stuff i shouldnt be..

    but do you think i should fix my life and call her up or just be like -> bar
     
  9. MattThom01

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    So, I think we need some info on what she is talking about. Specifically, what she means by "get your life together".

    Now, my initial impression is this means that you aren't mature enough for her.
     
  10. A Cow

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    moving substances that are 'controled'
    get into big fights with my parents
    not doing great at school
     
  11. Chip Chipperson

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    what should you do? maybe you should get your life together? lol
     
  12. A Cow

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    ha.. yea.. lol
     
  13. MattThom01

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    OK. I wish I could feel some sympathy for ya, but I don't.

    Basically, she wants to be with a better man. Someone who doesn't do illegal things, won't get into trouble, and can do what he sets out to do.

    She has standards, and you don't meet them. You can either rise to her standards, or end the relationship.
     
  14. minkus962

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    Yeah, you need to get your life together.

    During that process, you should find someone who would rather help you get your life back together as opposed to making your relationship dependant upon getting it together.
     
  15. Autorotate

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    while I see your point here, I can't help but take the side of "her".

    I would not date someone who didn't meet my standards, that is what they are there for. I think someone's actions show a lot about their character, if a girl was doing something that showed they had a poor character, moving illegal substances, I would dump them.
     
  16. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    stop dealing drugs jackass, it seems pretty simple :dunno:
     
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  18. bandwagon

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    Your post reeks of needyness. You immediately buy into her frame that she is the prize... she is likely right... you need to get your life together. When a chick comes at you with THAT much logic you ought to listen. She's busting her ass to get through to you.
     

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