Need Advice: GF Moved in because of emergency

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  1. Tehrod

    Tehrod New Member

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    My gf moved into my apartment sort of suddent because of an emergency where she got kicked out of her place. We live together and we put up with a lot of each others shit but right now I feel like us living and being together is really holding the both of us back.

    Not only that but I am starting to get bored of all of it(sex, hanging out, relationship in general) I think this is a pretty valid reason to end it but I am just curious as to what you guys think about it.

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  2. DTR rex

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    How old are you and how long have you guys been together?

    IMO, this all matters greatly.

    However, the fact that you're bored with her company, bored with the sex, and bored with the relationship would mean you should seriously consider ending it. But if you do decide to end it, you might want to give her a heads up to start looking for a new place so she doesn't end up on her ass somewhere, lol.
     
  3. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    shes not moving out til you break up then prolly;
     
  4. MattThom01

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    regardless of whether you break up or not, if you aren't that comfortable with her living with you, you need to encourage her to start looking for a new place.
     
  5. lauren

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    how long has she lived with you so far? was it intended as temporary or long term? is she paying rent, how much?
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    My bf moved in with his ex of like a year and a half in a quick impulse because he got a new job right near where she lived and was having trouble finding his own place at the moment. He had always planned to keep looking for his own place but once he settled in it just seemed easier so he stayed. Apparently after 3-4 months they realized they weren't right for one another and lost what feelings they had before. Needless to say they broke up and now we're together.
     
  7. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    hey better to find out now before you marry
     
  8. Pringles

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    when is she moving out? If she doesnt have a date set then she wont leave till you break up with her.
     
  9. DTR rex

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    Yeah, I can't even count how many relationships I know of that were ruined by people moving in together. Whether it was planned and they got the place together from the beginning, or if one moved into the s/o's place.

    I guess it really forces people to re-evaluate their situation and creates a feeling of being trapped.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    That's looking at it all wrong. Moving in together doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is ruined because you feel suffocated, it means the couple realizes they aren't meant to last. If a couple falls apart because they suddenly live together and can't cope with seeing each other all the time or can't move past flaws then that just shows they would've never made it after all. Hence, why I think all couples should live together before they even get married.
     
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    All good points.
     
  12. DvBoard

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    This is a good concept, but how long does it take to decide if it's gonna work?
     
  13. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Why anyone would do otherwise makes me go :ugh:
     
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    DTR rex New Member

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    Yeah, that's just retarded.
     
  15. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea you do NOT know someone until you live with them
     
  16. Viper

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    Yeah, this is a good reason to break up. You are bored already. Imagine what it'd be like in, say, 5 years.

    This is reason to end the relationship entirely, not just make her move out. Maybe there's an off chance you could end the relationship and just be roommates, but I highly doubt that would ever truly work.
     
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    No sense staying together if you aren't happy. Life is too damn short.
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Hard to say, it can be different for every couple. I've known couples who right away after moving in together started pointing out flaws and insignificant things that start to bother them that they never caught onto before they lived with one another. Some couple (the good one's) move in together and have healthy relationships where they communicate their feelings and work through problems though.
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  19. Yail Bloor

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    why did she get kicked out?
     

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