My new 18 year old gf is VERY uptight about sex. What do i do?

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  1. Costanza

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    I have been with this girl for almost a month now and she is VERY uptight about sex. She is a very sexual person who likes to dress up in ourfits, lingerie, etc but when it comes to sex itself, she is very uptight.

    When she was in first grade she had a babysitter try to show her his penis and try to touch her but she didnt let him. She also had one of her friends dad come into her friends room when she was spending the night and jerk off watching them sleep. So I can see why she is not to wild about sex and guys.

    She has been with 3 guys in her life and none of them were that great at sex. They sound like they didn't know exactly what they were doing. I'm a very sexual person and has given 3 girls there first orgasms. I know what i'm doing and consider myself very good at sex and know how to please a girl. I'm 24 so I do have more experience then she does but she almost seems like she is afraid to try things new. She wants sex to be just put it in, hurry up and thats it. I'm the kind of person that loves foreplay and making a girl cum.

    She dosen't like to be fingered because she says she would rather have a dick in her to just "do it". She won't let me eat her out because she thinks me licking her is nasty. She dosent like giving head either.

    Now what do I do to make her relax and open up??? I have had sex with her twice now. She is a very small girl (5'2 103lbs) and i have a very large dick (8 inches long, little over 2 inches wide). So there has had to be some recovery time in between us having sex. I was the first guy to even rub her clit while i fucked her. :rolleyes: She said that she knows i'm good and that i know what i'm doing because i did that and if felt good.

    I'm trying to get her more comfortable with me and I think she will open up a little and listen to me. SHe says that she does not feel completly comfortable with me still and that is the reason she is not having sex with me more.

    What can i do to make this girl open up and try new things???
     
  2. koogo77

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    just give it time, is what i would suggest
     
  3. Two toys

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    dump her and find someone your own age.
     
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    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    whoa 18yrs old.
     
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    older women ftw
     
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    talk about being tramatized(sp)
     
  7. Kinks

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    one or two drinks will help her relax. don't overdo it.

    you also just need to be patient with her. once she realises that the things you do always feel good she'll trust you more - rubbing her clit while fucking her is a good start. next, you could try rubbing her clit and fingering her with 2-3 fingers so she's got something inside (similar to intercourse). then gradually work your mouth into it (start off with clit + fingerbanging and kissing her stomach or something, then gradually move south). hopefully you'll get her lost in the moment and next thing you'll be munching her ted :bigthumb:
     
  8. RedVsBlue

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    nothing. Why not wait until she is ready instead of trying to make her do anything she is obviously uncomfortable with? I am sure when she is ready, she will let you know.
     
  9. dscallaway69

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    for once I would like for someone to just say "I need help I am horrible at sex and have a small dick". It is ridiculous that every guy on here is great in bed with a hugh cack yet they always need help in the bedroom.

    Now as for your problem you can't MAKE her do anything. You just have to take it slow and have patience. Slowly work into things. She needs to really enjoy what you have going on now and then she will slowly open up over time. I am sure with as GOOD as you are this shouldn't take long.
     
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    yep, what sorta girl is not going to turn to BUffy the large cock lover with ur salami?

    ;)
     
  11. Costanza

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    I WILL post pictures if you don't believe me. ;)
     
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    Time, patience, persistance and love... You have to relax her, ease her into it, let her know it will be pleasurable for her and you, that she needs not to worry, and make her feel at ease... she'll crack eventually ;p Just dont pressure her... but do bring it up once in a while.
     
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    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Errr... no thank you
     
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    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    You have to know that dating young girls is going to have you running into some issues not only in the bedroom, but socially too. She is not all growed up yet, she is not going to be okay with doing a lot of things. Give her time, don't push her into anything especially with her past she could pull away even further.
     
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    That is quite alright. It isn't just you it is every thread in here every talks about how big and how great they are. Now granted I am not a woman, but I am going to bet that the odds of 90% of guys being 8" x 2" and great in bed just doesn't happen. I find it amazing though how all of those people ended up though in this one forum.
     
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    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    yea that :)
     
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    Great idea. She's only 18.
     
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    I actually agree with this punkster. It's kinda the same with overweight people. THEY have to decide when they are ready and in a comfortable mental place to proceed. No amount of pressure or "help" from others will do it.
     
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    ya know what.. if she is not ready to have sex deal with it.. or move on..
     
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    Can I be an asshole instead of a punkster though? :hs:

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