My mother spends at least 6 hours a day cleaning the kitchen sink
Anyone elses mom like this? or know anyone similar? This is basically on her work days (which is 56 days a week). On her days off, times all this by 3, so she would spend upwards of 7 or 8 hrs on her days off at the kitchen sink.
Brief pointers
1) Its obviously OCD, the entire family knows it, she knows it.
2) She has had this all her life, shes never changed her ways
3) She knows what OCD is, but wont admit to her having it (severe case too btw)
4) We have all tried to help her and set her up with prof. help but she has never wanted to cooperate. She never has and never will, my mother is incredibly stubborn. She wont even admit to having OCD, she claims this is normal.
5) Shes also 58 yrs old, so she will not be changing at all, which is upsetting but we all know we have to live with it.
She is basically a clean freak  she is obsessed! She always thinks everything is dirty 24/7 and needs constant washing. I could go on about this, but ill give some examples and Im sure you can get an pretty good idea just how bad her OCD really is. Its gotten to the point where we just have to live with it, as hard as it is to see her waste so much of her free time...well nothing we can do. We can only do so much.
 she goes grocery shopping everyday of the week, even if its just to buy one thing. She will not buy food unless she plans on eating it that day (again it comes down to her obsession about freshness). Uhh mom, thats what fridges are for? She buys bananas, she buys ones way too new to even eat...so she buys the green ones, which of course you will have to wait a week just to eat them.
 everthing she buys from the grocery store she sticks in plastic bags because according to her its dirty Not only that, but she will go the extra effort and tie knots...so not only does she waste more time, but she wastes even more having to undo it when it gets home. Ive gotten to the point now where I know she will come home every single day with groceries, so half of the time now I dont bother helping her put it away. I know that may sound a bit cruel and Im not tryin to be. But im trying to get her to learn.
Just because she feels she has to waste time everyday going to the store just to buy one or two things, doesnt mean I should have to waste time everyday just to feed her habit. Am I being reasonable here? I dont mind her going to the store say a few times a week and I can help her with groceries, but every single day? Uhh I told ma already "Im sorry but I got better things to do with my time than to go to the store everyday"...even if its 40 out she still goes!!!! SHE IS CRAZY I TELL YA!!!! I used to help her with grocery shopping, but she insisted that I go more often and I told her I wasnt willing to. I mean whats the point! Just buy what you need for a few days in one trip! ARGH!!! So I stopped shopping for her altogether. If she wants to make a special trip every single day, then let her...its her problem. I want nothing more to do with this.
 she comes home from work everyday, first thing she does? Take a bath, get changed like a normal person? Nope. Eating something? Nope. Turn on the tv and watchin some tv? Nope. She goes right to the kitchen and cleans the sink for an hour. She does this again when she wakes up every morning. And she will do it again, after supper. Goes and cleans the sink for an hour.
 first off when she does this, she uses so much god damn dish soap, no wondering why she spends so much on soap and it takes so long to get it all down the drain. Ma, you dont have to use 20 pumps to wash a pot! It takes her 15mins to wash a single utensil, but yet half of the time she doesnt want to use the dishwasher Even if you use the utensil to open something and its not even dirty  its always dirty to her....so in the sink it goes
 So she washes the dish (15mins), then she will wash the sink after (another 15mins) and then wash the cloth (another 15mins) that she used to wash the dish and sink. Then she will wash the tap and outside ledges of the sink (another 15mins). Then she will wash the counter tops. (another 15mins). She does this at least 4 or 5 times a day...with each time taking at least an hour. . Basically everytime she washes a dish or bunch of them, she always goes through this habit of washing the sink and cloth and counter tops after.
I get so fed up watching her waste so much of her free time at the sink and hearing the water run non stop. I just ignore the fact that shes doing what shes doing and I always shut my door so I cant hear the water running. I know everytime we have company over, say people are tryin to watch tv...guess what we cant even hear it cause shes got the sink running at full blast She makes things so complicated when she doesnt need to.
Seriously, she might as well just keep the sink on 24/7...why even bother having a tap since she pretty much turns it on every 30 seconds when at home Nobody in the family knows why she does the things she does  like going grocery shopping every single day of the year...even if its just to buy one thing!!! Just get it the day before ma! Jesus, but she wont ever listen!!!

Last edited: Jun 13, 2008