SRS my mom is like a tv wife. it bothers me so much

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  1. michaele36

    michaele36 New Member

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    ok guys, I'm a liberal. I dont care about drugs and sex. I'm not one who always fallows the rules etc. i'm pretty laid back. but my mom is like one of those laundry commerical moms. seriously everything with her has to be perfect. NOTHING CAN BE LAYING AROUND THE HOUSE. if i leave a dish in the sink she puts it on my bed.

    anyway the reason i'm writing this is that my brothers friend wrote some curse words on a desk and my mom found out and shes like "i'd be devistated if you or your brother did something like that" I'm like "crist, who cares? Hes a kid and kids do stupid stuff"

    And I tell her to ease up but she just gets worse as she gets older. shes so law following, even with our neighborhood codes she follows them to the letter. Plus she always says things such as "see you later alligator" and repeats her self all the time. i cant stand it.
     
  2. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    You can learn a lot of positive things from your mom,

    clean > dirty
    neat > bum
    organised > chaos

    Your moms life lesson might be 'think for yourself or put your life in someone elses hands' as rules are only guidelines and not absolutes in life, we have to take care and guide our lives into the right direction yourself.

    My mom would use to say ' look, in your house you do whatever you want, in this house we have our rules'

    You know maby you two just act like Ying and Yang, you two cancelling out eachother might lead to a moderation of the situation, you being more clean,orderly,neat and organised, and your mom more laid back. At least that is what i imagine with it. Even if it is an annoyance the positive effects of a clean house are there, which should be appreciated.
     
  3. johan

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    If you leave a dish in the sink, she puts it on your bed.

    Really. I'm guessing that she's not a career woman?
     
  4. Indrew

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    Some people would call you 'lucky'.

    Look at what you have, some people don't have parents to take care of them.
     
  5. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    lisanxd, take some time for introspection. Identify things that you find displeasing about yourself. Then you will find yourself to be merciful and loving towards your mother. Stop crying in your beer.
     
  6. toeshoes

    toeshoes Guest

    I call you :lucky: My parents were psycho (mostly my mom). It could be a lot worse!
     
  7. michaele36

    michaele36 New Member

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    ding ding ding
     
  8. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    In part I know how you feel...my mother has a bit of OCD when it comes to cleanliness too. If a towel is not resting perfectly in order (even in a closed drawer) it will bug the shit out of her. It drove me batty...it's still the subject of a lot of cold wars between my parents.

    But....as other people have mentioned, think of the alternatives. One of my good friend's mother does cosmetics for the LOST cast, plays in a rock band all night, and once dated the bassist for AC/DC. Cool you might think huh? But you couldn't imagine how volatile that mother-daughter relationship is all the time. My friend would gladly trade places with you I'm sure of it.

    You could have had a mother that was abusive, or even...plainly didn't care. You could walk across the street and get run over she wouldn't blink an eye.

    You don't have a problem here. You just need to learn how to work with it until you have the chance to move out on your own.
     
  9. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Moms...aren't they the weirdest most wonderful people on the planet? Your Ma sounds like she doesn't have anything better to do than make sure that you are taken care of, teaching you responsibility, trying to be nice and goofy, trying to teach you to be a good person the best way she knows how. Hmmm...
    maybe she thinks if she says something over and over and over ad nauseum it will sink into her kid's heads...
    So what if she says "See ya later alligator" or "see ya around like a donut"...it's her way...everyone is different...everyone has their quirks...try and look at her in a different way...she doesn't have to put dishes on your bed, repeat herself, follow the rules to the max...how many people don't have a Ma to ensure that they are being taught responsibility, or have a Ma to care for them. Obviously, your Ma is a bit anal in the "clean" area, but that's no biggy, really. It's not like she is mainlining drugs, sleeping around, or even worse, not caring about you.

    *Don't forget to floss*
     
  10. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    What the hell is a tv mum??

    I keep my house tidy. What the hell is wrong with keeping the house tidy?
     
  11. bandwagon

    bandwagon Copy/Paste

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    She may be borderline obsessive compulsive. That comes from a lifetime of cleaning up after kids and keeping a tidy home. No sense in trying to change it, since she has programmed herself that way for ages. Just live with it until you can move out.
     
  12. D-FENS

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    God forbid people follow laws.
    I can see how you can be tired of having to have a "perfect" house and all, but don't act like following laws is a bad thing.
     
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    Slip some Paxil in Mommy's milk every morning...
     
  14. Kirbys Autumn

    Kirbys Autumn Mrs. Kirby McSpic

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    . Things could be so much worse. At least your mom CARES. You could learn something from her.
     
  15. RotiEatter

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    Start smoking pot in your room, your Mom will be over-whelmed and she'll change. :)
     
  16. borderline? more like way off the deep in OCD. this is not normal behavior. it's fine to be tidy but being having ridiculous expectations that others can't live up to hurts everyone around them. she is selfish. i am sure that she is not perfect herself. a few minutes around her and i could probably point out a thousand flaws in her personality. tell her to watch this video and see what happens to women who go around judging others.

    http://youtube.com/watch?v=kx3hqZ_1hUQ&search=lady%20punch
    :rofl:
     
  17. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    sounds like a good mom :dunno:
     
  18. Cerridwen

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    That's what I was thinking.

    Or am I supposed to be saying- How DARE she want to keep her house clean and teach her children cleanliness and responsibility!
     
  19. The Militant

    The Militant THE FUTURE

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    Your lucky you have a mother that cares for you and motivates you to be better, cleaner and a good person. I couldnt imagine having somthing like that.
     

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