So I made a thread earlier titled "2nd Date..." - Thread link ---> http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3030676 And this is the update .... I'll start from the beginning cause I know some OT'ers are lazy bums and won't go back & read the previous thread. j/k I meet this girl that lives in PA and I'm in Virginia. We meet thru Eharmony. We feel/felt a connection at one point but at the beginning she is unsure about the distance. We are 3hrs apart. We figured we can see each other every month and switch off like that but now, in the past week, she has distanced herself from me and I asked her what was wrong and she has told me she doesn't know about the distance. We couldn't talk much on the phone because she was at work with people around her. So we agreed to talk later and we just did. Basically boils down to the fact that she wants a man to be near to her and not further away from her. She's been having issues with her neighbors and what not. And she's been real pissed at them and I guess all of this has made her think about us and where we are going. She said the other night she wanted to leave cause her neighbors were makin a ruckus and she didn't have anyway to go like to a boyfriends house and she ended up goin to her sisters house and she didn't feel good about that. She said she wants to be able to call up her boyfriend and say hey lets go have dinner or lets watch a movie...(u know just on the fly). But with me being just about 200miles (its bout 170+ i believe), its impossible to do that on the fly. She said some people are able to do the LDR but she doesn't think she can be one of them. I told her I was willing to do the LDR because I like the connection we had and I wanted to see where it went but she said with the distance she doesn't feel like we can build anything off of that. Basically at the end....I told her that for a LDR both people have to want it in able for it to work and in most LDR's their is a means to the end like maybe a yr or two or less maybe we could be together somehow and she said that she didn't want to wait that long and that she has waited so long already that she doesn't want to keep waiting. That she wants it now. And that when her last relationship ended, she decided she didn't want to settle for anything less of what she had in mind. She said she wanted us to remain friends but I told her I couldn't sit back and be a friend when I have feelings for her and then in the back of my mind, knowingly know that she is with some other guy. I couldn't be a friend and call her up one night and she is hanging out with her boyfriend. I wouldn't feel right with that BUT then in the same sentence I don't want to lose her, I don't want to stop talking to her, etc.... It was a little heartbreaking.....just because I believe I can do the LDR and she says she doesn't think she can and I just don't know why she can't. She said she just doesn't have that in her. I guess I do even though I believe I am also one of those people that needs that contact. And she did mention the fact that before we even went into the whole "possible" relationship, she had thought about the distance and she knew it would be hard but she said she liked me and she said she was going to give me a chance and see what would happen. I told her I feel the same way she feels sometimes too like I wish I could just call her up and be like let's go catch a movie but then I remember she is in PA and impossible. I don't know.....I am confused. I do not want it to end but I do not want to be her friend either. I don't think the "friend" thing would last very long anyway. And that would prolly be cause.... basically because I do not want to hear about other dudes she is meeting. That would be too hard. I don't know whats goin to happen....We ended the call cause we had been talkin for an hour and half already and we both need to go to sleep for work tomorrow....I still haven't gone to bed yet tho...We'll be talkin tomorrow night though some more.