My girlfriend wanted me to hit it raw.

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  1. MongooseGA

    MongooseGA New Member

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    I've always been very careful about being protected with condoms during sex. I have alot to lose right now if something were to happen and she got pregnant. She knows this.

    Today she told me that she wanted me to just try it without a condom, just for 2 seconds to see what I was missing. I told her no, and she got upset. She thinks I'm being too paranoid about it. BTW, she's not on BC.

    Not only do I think it's not worth the risk, but I think its unfair to me. It would be like saying "Look how delicious this cookie is. Chew it, but don't swallow it. You'll only be allowed a short taste. " Except, it'd be on a much more intense scale.

    Am I correct in thinking like this, or am I wrong? I'd like to think of it as mature, but some might think I'm just a big pussy.
     
  2. Cerridwen

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    Does she want to get pregnant?
     
  3. MongooseGA

    MongooseGA New Member

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    Not at all. I don't know what her logic here was. It's the first time it's really come up.
     
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    No birthcontrol? Doesn't want to get pregnant?


    No offense, but that's pretty stupid logic on her part.
     
  5. MongooseGA

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    No offense taken. I felt the same way. I think she thought that if it was just for a second, it wouldn't matter. I hate sounding like a nerd to her explaining that precum can be effective, so I just left it at "no".
     
  6. MattThom01

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    You may be being a teensy bit paranoid, but as you said, you have a lot more to lose than you have to gain. I probably would have done the same thing. You never know how it might have gone if you had tried it...it's much better to be safe than sorry in this case.

    And besides..if you've ever had a good bj from her, and you've been doing vaginal sex with condoms....sex without condoms wouldn't feel THAT much different.

    And it's your penis...you can keep it covered up if you want to.
     
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    I'm thinking this might have come up because I just recently brought up the "L" word with her, which I had always been pretty reluctant to use. Maybe she just felt more comfortable with me because of it?
     
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    anything can happen in the those 2 seconds. you did the right thing by not hitting it raw. Your gf needs to chill out and see your side of things, if she doesnt then .... you decide
     
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    I think you're being paranoid. But it's better to be safe than sorry.
     
  10. jackjohnson

    jackjohnson simple as something nobody knows OT Supporter

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    stick it in her ass /mainforum
     
  11. Neo22

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    If she throws a fit then drop her. Not worth having children. You're not paranoid the slightest bit, I would call you smart! Now if all of the 14yo mexican girls understood this our population would be a lot lower
     
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    your girlfriend is dumb
     
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    being a nerd > being the father of a mistake

    How hard is it to get on the pill?
     
  14. Kinks

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    Raw > BJ > Sex with condom.. in my limited experience anyway :mamoru:

    However, you are far safer not exploring bareback territory if she's not on the pill. Just tell her precum can have sperm in it, and you don't want to take the risk. If she goes on the pill and takes it properly then it's a different story!

    The whole pregnancy scare and possible abortion territory is not something I want to come up against, it will happen sometime but I hope to minimise it.
     
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    Hobie1 No longer self-employed & now hating life

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    I'm 25 and I still run into this crap.
    Me - "Shit, I'm outta condoms"
    Them - "it's okay this time, just don't use one, cum in me blah blah blah"
    Me - "are you on birth control?"
    Them - "no"
    Me - "BITCH ARE YOU CRAZY"

    Seriously, use a condom all the time every time. Once a chick is a serious gf, you've both been tested, and she's on BC, then *think* about not using one.

    I'm 25 and I know A LOT of single mothers and people with STDs. A little piece of latex isn't worth 18 yrs of child support or a lifetime of pills and having to explain to chicks you have gonnasyphaherpalitis.
     
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    surely when your penis falls off you won't have any explaining to do? :dunno:




    :rofl: nice name :)
     
  17. darnit

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    wow.. If you were paranoid, you would think she was trying to trap you with a kid.
    If you were really paranoid, you would think she is trying to trap you with someone elses kid.
    Wrap the willie if you choose, you have to deal with it no matter what.If she cant accept it.. move on.
     
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    what the hell is your problem

    hit it raw just dont cum in her, 99.9% chance you'll be fine

    stop being such a f'n prude
     
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    :ugh:

    QFT!!!

    :bigthumb:

    EDIT: http://www.fda.gov/fdac/features/1997/conceptbl.html

    EDIT2: Compare the rates for condom and just pulling out. Interesting...
     
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    First thought: She cheated on you bareback, thinks she might be pregnant, and if you do it bareback with her (even for two seconds), can claim the larvae is your offspring. Tread carefully from here on out.
     
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    Is everyone in this thread retarded...

    she wanted to try it for 2 SECONDS... did you not get that... as in put it in once or twice and then put on a condom... not have full on sex without a condom. You might argue that some people have precum... I myself do not... I always START sex without a condom but put one on after getting into it a bit.
     
  22. MattThom01

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    We know what she wanted....but hey, with some women, you never know if "try it for 2 seconds" could be a ploy to get you in there unprotected. Who knows if he or she might have gotten caught up in it and lost control? And it could possibly turn into a slippery slope if he started doing it regularly?

    Sounds like he just wants to err on the side of caution.
     
  23. Cerridwen

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    :rofl: If you think you don't have precum you are sadly mistaken. Please ask your doctor about that the next time you see him/her.
    You might be willing to take the risk, but others aren't. Others choose to be more responsible and take as little chances as possible.


    That is exactly what I think. I think it's a way for her to gain his "trust" or something to get him to do it more often, which is why my initial thought was that she wants to get pregnant.
     
  24. MattThom01

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    But to be fair, precum isnt usually that noticable....for me its like a drop or 2 usually, could easily be mistaken for sweat.
     
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    I have not used a condom with women in over 15 years.
    I don't ejaculate inside women.
    I don't have any kids.

    I think you may be acting a little too paranoid. :dunno:
     
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