My girlfriend made a comment that really bothers me.

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  1. t-t-t-today

    t-t-t-today New Member

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    Hi OT

    This weekend I brought my girlfriend to a friends family golf outing. Saturday went great, and we went to bed around 8 because we were tired from golfing. We woke up around 3 AM to the sounds of police sirens. By the time we were outside to watch what was going on, the police had already arrested some really big guy who was drunk as hell and starting fights. He was resisting arrest and screaming obscenities at the police. He also made a big jackass out of himself when he hurt his shoulder trying to get out of the handcuffs.

    Anyway, at some point while watching all this I turned to my girlfriend and told her that this was really amusing to watch because the cops were up against some pissed off bodybuilder. I noticed she had her sights fixated on him, and in a really enthusiastic voice and a smile all she could say was "he's a total badass!" She seemed to be captivated and attracted to this loser. Even after the show was over she seemed like she was love struck and in a different world and kept talking about how cool it was to watch that guy get arrested.

    So now i'm second guessing the girl i'm in love with and have been dating for 8 months. I've just never seen her so captivated by another guy, and a total idiot loser at that. It doesn't make sence to me because we are really into each other. I put on a bad boy image myself from time to time, but I do it just for show and she knows I'm kidding. I also remain mysterious, don't give in to all of her demands, and and all that other crap that women like in men. Am I thinking about this too much? What should I do?
     
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  2. kit99bar

    kit99bar USPA Class 2, weak, old man!

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    eh, maybe she just thought the scene was exciting. assuming a lot there.
     
  3. GTLifter

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    He was displaying the characteristics of an Alpha male. Chicks dig Alpha males.
     
  4. Isamu

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    lighten up dude, seriously...
     
  5. macbook bro

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    if you're worrying about this, you're fucked :rofl:
     
  6. giz

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    I would say it was a natural response and nothing to be worried about. Being captivated by a single extraordinary act is a lot different than being attracted to a man as a whole
     
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  8. ChaCha

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    we don't choose who we are attracted to

    get over it
     
  9. bjonesy77

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    I'd say the same thing. Its always exciting to see something like that strictly because its out of the ordinary. I had shit go down on my front porch when I was in college and the cops showed up with guns drawn. I sat in my front window watching the entire ordeal for well over an hour completely captivated. Its human nature to be curious and excited with something like that. She probably wasnt attracted to the guy, but moreso to the excitement at hand.

    I wouldn't worry about it man. But if anything, it tells you she digs excitement. Give her some excitement.
     
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    This is good, because it's exposed an insecurity in you that you need to take care of.

    The root of this problem isn't whether or not she was actually attracted to this guy. The root of this problem is that you don't believe that you are the best possible person for her. Now that either means:

    1. You aren't the best possible person for her and that this is just a REALLY EARLY preview that the relationship will fail.

    or

    2. You are the best possible person for her and you are insecure.

    My vote is on 2, cause it's the most common reason for situations like this.

    When you believe in yourself, know who you are, and truly are comfortable with and love yourself, you don't worry about stuff like this. So figure out why you are insecure and face it head on, dude.
     
  11. Gibles

    Gibles the funny thing about my back is....

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    Even if she was attracted to him what does that matter? SHe's with you.
     
  12. Viper

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    and even if she left you for him, you're STILL better off and will be fine.

    See? There's nothing to be insecure about when you realize that there are 3 billion women on the planet and that you can replace her at any time. :o
     
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    So you have never caught yourself looking at a girl in a short skirt and a top that fits her well?

    You are not male if you havent.

    Of course, you didnt go bragging about how sexy she was to your GF. However, that is because you know you'd get in trouble. The point remains, would you leave your GF just because you saw another girl you were attracted to?
     
  14. ripcurl

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    what a bitch!

    thats crazy if she doesn't think you are the most exciting, funniest, best looking, most dominant male on the planet!

    drop her asap and pick up a bottom feeder.

    Just kidding mostly, but i think you are going to be fine.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :rofl: I'm sorry, the story is just funny.

    Is this something you've been insecure about before? Because it's quite a big transition to not care or think about your girl digging "bad boys" to freaking out the second she gets amazed by a buff dumbass.

    I'm sure your worry now is that she'll leave you for a bad boy and you're probably questioning your masculinity. If this is an insecurity that is going to cloud your mind and eventually make you treat her differently when she's done nothing wrong just remember to end it before she does sense your insecurity and gets tired of it.
     
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    you are thinking about this way too much and you should do nothing.

    is this a normal thing for you to have insecure moments?
     
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    Don't show your insecurity to her, or she will end up with the bad boy when he gets out of jail.
     
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    grow up
     
  19. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Bro my shoulder still hurts from tryin to get out of those handcuffs, but I'm comin back to give your gf the hammer. :bowdown:
     
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    Lol you're freaking out over nothing man..

    Time to put your insecurities in check.
     
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    he had a shirt on AND she could tell he worked out... wasn't you dude
     
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  25. t-t-t-today

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    ok I'm dumb. It was just weird to see her so drawn to some inept loser.
     

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