Hi everyone. Long time reader, first time poster. This forum is a gold mine for relationship advice/life problems. Anyway, I've been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months. She had a job when we first met, but then she quit after about 2 months and she has been unemployed ever since. Whenever we go out, I always pay for everything, ALWAYS. She bought me a ticket once to go see a car show, which was only like $35 dollars. I have probably spent over $800 on her the last 6 months. We've gone to plenty of shows, seen movies, out to eat, we've done fun activities, I paid for it all. This is such bullshit. She is always whining about how she never has money, yet she has gone to like 4-5 concerts with her friends, gone on out of state trips with her friends, and she smokes weed. I asked her how the hell she is paying for all that crap if she never has any money. She says that her friends smoke her down for free, and her dad gives her money when she is going somewhere. WTF? Her parents have recently gotten divorced, so she says she has been depressed and that's why her friends have been smoking her down for free. 2 days ago i told her that she is a fucking bum and that she needs to get a job because i'm getting sick of it (I got really angry because she was at my house and she was worried that she doesn't have enough gas to get back home, RIDICULOUS) I really love her, we get along sooo great and she love me too, but I don't like dating someone who gets stoned a lot and sits around not doing shit all day. What should I do? Should I give her some time to get over her parents divorce? She gets really sad and says that she feels really abandoned because her mom just up and ditched her family, leaving her to do all of the cleaning and everything (her brother and father are slobs). I feel bad for her, but at the same time I keep encouraging her to show some strength, get over it already, and take care of her own life.