We're both 17 and we've been going out for 9.5 months. In any case, she's never had an orgasm before through oral/fingering/sex. And I really want to get her to do so. She's never given herself an orgasm either. I've told her that she needs to "explore" herself. But then she just tells me "I like it when you do it." I know she used to not be very comfortable with me doing oral/fingering. And she would stop me randomly while I was doing it. However, now she's alot more comfortable with trying new things and letting me do it for a while. But not making her orgasm is all slightly frustrating for me. But I'm a guitar player so finger cramping doesn't happen for a while for me. And I can always switch fingers. So I don't think endurance is a problem for me. Apparently, (after listening to loveline), she told me a girl called in and could orgasm when she had to pee by contracting some muscle or something. My gf told me she can do the same thing. So what do I do? I'll probably direct her to this thread later.