My girlfriend and I broke up...

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  1. aCab

    aCab New Member

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    And I can't get over her. Any realistic suggestions?
     
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    how long has it been? how long were you together?
     
  3. Emfuser

    Emfuser Nuclear Moderator Super Moderator

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  4. =*belladonna*=

    =*belladonna*= All aboard the failboat.

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    The only thing that can ever help you get over someone is time. Another person will make you forget for awhile, but when you're alone you remember. You can distract yourself with other things you love, but it will still be there. It could take a couple weeks or even a couple years, depending on how close you were. Just allow yourself time...:)
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    *Stop talking/texting to her.
    *Throw away/put away everything you have of her that reminds you of her (including pics).
    *Get out and do things.
    *Surround yourself with family and friends.
    *Don't let yourself become bitter.
    *Don't give yourself false hopes of getting back together, you broke up for a reason.

    /thread
     
  6. aCab

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    8 months. We broke up Wednesday afternoon. I was alright Wednesday night, but Thursday and Today am feeling like shit. I hope it gets outta my system. First real girlfriend (made it all the way to 20 w/out one at all) and we broke up over stupid stuff. I'm still going to her formal in a few weeks. Is that a bad idea? We still talk at least once a day (over the past two days at least). If i can salvage a good friendship out of it, then I will. But I'm not sure I want/can move on from her for a while.

    My parents moved to Houston a few weeks ago and she was pretty much the closest thing I had to family. So now I'm :wtc: cause I don't know where to turn.
     
  7. Elphaba

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    Why did yall break up?
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You're doing everything wrong.

    Don't go to her formal. Talking to her once a day if at all if a horrible idea. You'll never get over her until you stop talking to and seeing her until you feel you are truly over her.

    It's understandable, she was your first real relationship....but hopefully you'll move on and look back thinking that was nothing compared to the kinds of relationships you will have in your life. You are 20 years old and there are millions of other women you can meet.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Change your user text.
     
  11. vodkacollins

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    its been two days, of course you cant get over her yet.

    stop talking to her, dont go to her formal. if you keep talking to her and seeing her its just going to drag out the pain.

    keep yourself busy. go out with friends, do an activity you enjoy
     
  12. Redbeard

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    And you wonder why you cant get over her?
     
  13. aCab

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    No Sub. :wtc:
     
  14. aCab

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    She was my best friend though. It's kinda hard to explain. I don't really have many good friends at school. I've been working out a lot more and watching more movies due to the fact that I have nothing else to do.

    We broke up for stupid reasons. Every few weeks, something would just get to me, and she'd ask what was wrong so I told her. She took everything personally.
     
  15. MattThom01

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    So you're saying you have besides her.

    Listen, you can't get over her if you constantly see her/talk to her. You two may be "best friends" but you can't just go on being friends right after a breakup. You need time and space away from her. Completely away. Isolate yourself from her as much as possible.
     
  16. HuskiRuski

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    listen. you're not special. your case is just like everyone else's. everyone's advice (which you aren't taking) is the right advice.

    stop crying and moping and start moving on by being proactive and following Iwishyouwerebeer's bullet points.

    stop talking to her, stop hanging out with her, and most certainly DO NOT GO TO HER FORMAL!
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    ;)

    And read the threads I posted from the sticky. All excellent examples that your situation is not abnormal. Everyone's been there, most have hopefully gotten over it, and most of the threads have good advice you should be following.

    You cant be friends until you are over one another. That will never happen if you keep up this facade of being friends now.
     
  18. JordanClarkson

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    sorry bro :hug:

    matt is right. a clean break would do wonders. it'll force you to find and define yourself away from her. it's going to take a long time, but once the dust settles you can be friends again.
     
  19. Sirius

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    your situation doesn't seem that different from my original hard break up.

    Trust me, if you stop talking to her you will be MUCH better off. I wish I had.

    :sadwavey:
     
  20. Pringles

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    Man up and end communication. You agreed to break up, so follow through with it. I'd also recommend lifting.
     
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    1) You need to give it more time. If she's the one ended it, and you were together 8 months I would say to expect AT LEAST a couple weeks before you are comfortable with the idea of not having her around.

    2) Stop talking to her. That just makes things harder. I know its what you want because she is all you have, but I am telling you, it makes things 100 X harder and you'll never fully move on. And then you'll find out she's seeing another guy and your world will be upside down.
    Stop talking to her.

    3) Keep it up with the gym. And start talking to whatever friends you have more often, and make an effort to make new friends. The best thing you can do is keep yourself busy.

    4) 8 months isn't so bad. If you take my advice, a month from now you won't even be thinking of her.
     
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  23. Shrug

    Shrug Die in a Kimbo fight

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    i broke up with my g/f of 3 years ~ month and a half ago.


    life goes on, go occupy yourself with other things.
     
  24. Fucker

    Fucker out of the fast lane, bitches

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    the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody. hang in there.
     
  25. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    that's not true.

    the best way to get over somebody is to get feelings for somebody else. meaningless sex will only make you long for a stable relationship with your ex.
     

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