My gf keep calling her ex

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  1. c_K_c

    c_K_c Resident TranceAddict

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    for emotional support she says. They been friends for 3 years and dated (bf&gf) for a year. She says he too boring so that's why she not with him anymore. However, she consider him her best friend and confide in him, even with our relationship problems. She calls him at least 3-4 times, about every other day, a week to ask help on homework (so she says). He calls her when we're out together, and it kinda pisses me off. She hasn't seen him for like 3 weeks, but when I'm busy she hangs out with him.

    What should I do? I really don't wanna deal with this shit cause I went through it with my last gf. :greddy: I understand that they have a deep deep relationship together << so she emphasized but shit...move on.

    I am ready to bail. :o Tell me what I should do?
     
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    me and her been going out for 2 months now
     
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    Break up with her. It sounds more than likely that she is using her ex as the emotional aspect of being a bf, if that makes sense. A better way to explain it...you and her ex together make up her bf. She is physical with you, but emotional with him.

    Also, if she has already had a relationship with him, and confides every little thing to him...where do you think the first place she will go is if you have a big fight? Right back to him.

    She's using the both of you.

    Dump her.
     
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    You already know, no need for us to confirm it...but since thats what you want... Move On...
     
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    The parts I underlined are contradictory. I agree with MattThom, she's not really invested in a relationship with you and you aren't getting what you want.
     
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    FUCK DUDE I JUST WENT THROUGH THIS. Dating for two months also. Well let me tell you what happened. She told me after we broke it off that she has feelings for her ex. She is going to see him next weekend. But the weekend she broke up with me she went to a party and took pictures making out with some guy. Anyways, the best thing for you to do is break it off. It will save you more pain and you will be less emotionally attached. Don't fuck yourself like I did. I'm suffering for it.
     
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    Dump her asap.
     
  9. c_K_c

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    sigh.... should I at least give her an ultimatum?....
     
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    very insightful...thanks
     
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    nope, been there done that. Not worth it. Think about it like this, she may not be physically cheating on you but emotionally she is. Mindfucking you is worse than physically doing it IMO>
     
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    yeah...its a tough one
     
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    Wow, I didn't even realize it...upon rereading your first post, she even says she is using him for emotional support. If you want to try saving this (which I don't think would be worth it, but hey, it's your call), you need to ask her why YOU are not her emotional support.
     
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    I've been in the opposite situation, I have been the emotional support for my ex-girlfriend. Honestly, we never did anything physical, but it is a lot like emotional cheating. I was her emotional boyfriend, and it was wrong. I stopped talkin to her and told her to try to work shit out with her new guy. In my opinion, I'd break up with her. It sucks. :hs:
     
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    she trying to convinced me that this is ok, she is very convincing and I am dumb for falling for it. but at least i know when to ask for help
     
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    I don't know, sounds to me like he's doing the "dirty work" of supporting her emotionally while you get to enjoy the other aspects of the relationship...

    If you are certain she is not sleeping with him, you may want to see how it develops.

    I would start making fun of him - refer to him as her "therapist" and put him down for being her emotional tampon.

    Only you can decide what is right for you.
     
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    she very proud of him, and talk highly of him in a personality standpoint. But saying he's cheap and boring.
     
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    As someone else already said, it's hard to think he can be truly boring if she calls him constantly.

    And yes, he could be boring in the dating/romantic sense, but still.

    This isn't a good situation.
     
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    yeah, everyone I've talked to basically saying I should walk.
     
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    then why haven't you?
     
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    same with my ex...women are all the same until they find that dood.
     
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    gone have a talk tonight...supposedly im her first:sadwavey:
     
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    yeah you need to get the hell outta there.
     
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    even if she says she is going to stop HE will never know if she does stop. Cause in point I was in the same situation. She talked to him anyways even after saying she wouldn't. SHe needs to drop the other guy for herself.
     
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