FRK My GF isn't very good at the sex... :hs:

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  1. KaoS

    KaoS New Member

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    It's not that she won't do the things that I like...

    She's let me do anal, gives me prostate massages :)bowdown:), facials, etc. etc.

    But during sex, it's that I always have to remind her, or ask her to do things. She makes it seem like it's such a laborous task to even just roll over to let me do her doggy, or to give me some head beforehand. If it was up to her sex would go something like this everytime:

    1. We make out.
    2. I play with her pussy.
    3. We have sex missionary.
    4. We cum.

    We've been together for 3 years, I am willing to do whatever she wants. In fact most of the time I WANT to do something for her pleasure, and she won't let me.

    I wish it could be more of an automatic thing, rather than a me requesting kind of thing. We'll be making out and i'll have to move her hand onto my dick. It kind of ruins the mood / flow of things when i have to ASK for the next step every time.



    How can I fix this? :hs:
     
  2. KaoS

    KaoS New Member

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    Or am I too affected by porn thinking the girl should just do these things?
     
  3. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    How often do you talk about sex and what you like? Not in a the 'fuck me hard' kinda way, but actually talking about what each other likes?
     
  4. KaoS

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    All the time.

    She basically "doesn't like" anything that isn't.... basic, plain sex. She doesn't like giving me blowjobs, etc. Basically she doesn't like anything that I like.
     
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    KaoS New Member

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    And why does it seem that almost EVERY single female OTer ENJOYS giving head, or ENJOYS anal. :wtc:
     
  6. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    All I can suggest is either keep dropping hints "I like it when you do...." and hope that she gets the hint and does it without you having to physically make her or you say to her flat out what you said above and ask her what the deal is
     
  7. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Neither of the above actions excites me in any way. The reaction that I get off my OH is what gets me going.

    Dont' compare your girl to those off a forum - people lie ;)
     
  8. KaoS

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    I've either been dropping hints or flat out telling her for the last 3 years :hs:
     
  9. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Is it possible she just doesn't give a hoot how you feel and that since for three years you have dropped hints and she has ignored them means to her she can have her cake and eat it two?

    I don't know either ofyou and I don't mean to belittle anything that goes on in your relationship but Ithink if you have been so straight forward then her behaviour seems pretty selfish
     
  10. IreLynx

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    Obviously if you keep dropping hints and flat out saying it, then she must not want to do it. No one has to do something they don't want to. If she really doesn't want to do that stuff, then she's not just going to do it until if comes down to you asking her to do it when you two are already wrapped up in playtime activities.

    Everyone has their own limitations and sometimes they don't go beyond the very basics. Some people don't like to do anything beyond basic, and those people may either refuse to do it, or they may only do it for their partner when that person asks for it right then and there. Some people love going above and beyond. Everyone is different. It shouldn't be turned into a "who's selfish" situation either because everyone has different needs and limitations. You could say she's selfish for not wanting to go beyond her limits to please you, but at the same time it can be said that you're selfish for wanting her to do something she's not comfortable doing. This is why people have alot of trouble staying in relationships. Some people can't deal with the differences, whereas some aren't bothered by it, and still others may make up for their shortcommings in other areas (sexual or not).

    Look at it this way...she must care somewhat about your needs if she lets you do at least a few things she might not enjoy. :)
     
  11. Chris Redfield

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    :werd: maybe you should be blunt and say that you arent happy with your sex life, it might be a gamble though since she might get offended.

    I'm so happy that I have girls willing to experiment :o
     
  12. Ashley

    Ashley EEK!!!!

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    Has it been this way always? Is she sexually into you? She may just be a little vanilla for you, and that's something you need to evaluate when you continue this relationship
     
  13. KaoS

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    Yeah it's always been this way. She is sexually into me, but more in a... she wants to.. make love to me sort of way, when I like to get a little... freaky.

    I've broken up with her multiple times before, saying that either, she needs to be more into MY needs, or I need to find someone else who is, as I obviously, at age 19, think sex is a big part of a relationship.

    Every time we have gotten back together with her saying that she will "try to do more things for me, but she may need to ease into them, because it's something new". And every time she does things for a little while, but then it always goes back to how it was before and I am not happy again.

    On a somewhate related note, I do feel that I love her, and she makes a great girlfriend in other aspects, but I also feel that I don't want to be completely COMMITED yet, since I'm 19, and I don't want to end up being 40 and not have had my exploration time. I would like to explore what's out there, but at the end of the day I'd like it to be her that I come home to. I know I can't just tell her that I want to fuck other girls and still be with her, because she is obviously not down with an open relationship. Recently I told her I wanted to break up for this reason, and ended up waking up with her next to me on my bed, stomach full of asprin. Now she's been prescribed anti-depressants.
     
  14. kuno

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    That's like saying every OTer has model girlfriends lol.. Don't let that get to your head too much. Even after 3 years there's still time to mold her the way you want to.

    Things that always worked for me was to not always tell them.. but just to do it. Like if you want her to give you head after making out.. just get in position and get her into position and just do it.. make it flow. Don't make it a chore. After a bit try not saying anything and she'll come to expect that this is the way it goes. That's just the way it is with girls who are inexperienced...
     
  15. KaoS

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    I've done that. If she's on top of me while making out, I'll kind of slide myself up the bed a little while gently pushing her down, she'll just look at me like "nuh uh".

    Or if i'm on top i'll move up and stick my dick in her face and she'll just turn her head.
     
  16. Chris Redfield

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    :( that fucking sucks a lot. i'd be so sexually frustrated if i were you
     
  17. MissKitty

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    And I agree but I do believe that there should be some give and take in a relationship and if not, then you need to be in a relationship with someone who has the same beliefs as you.

    There is no point in entering a relationship and saying "All about me".

    Now I understand she does do some things that Kaos does enjoy, but have we figured out if she also enjoys them?
     
  18. Ashley

    Ashley EEK!!!!

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    You have to decide if she's really going to change because it doesn't look like she will.

    Being 19 is young and if you've been together what was it 3 years, you've been with someone during a time when a lot of people date around. I'm not saying everyone must date around and have exploration time many people find their high school sweethearts and live happily ever after. I'm just reiterating what you said about being 40 and looking back.

    The stomach full of aspirin is a whole other issue, and it makes things a lot harder. I felt I couldn't leave my ex for over 6 months when I was already gone from the relationship because he needed me too much. I didn't think he could deal without me (that sounds conceited here but he used to say it). That wasn't good for either of us. Don't blame yourself or hold yourself accountable for her life, it is her own.

    And this is totally off the subject of how to get her to get freaky with you! I dunno maybe talk earlier in the day about when I see you I'd like you to do this without me asking, will you please try to remember. Start it off with something easy, like giving you head first.
     
  19. l0l

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    same here :wtc:
    She makes all that i ask, but i always have to remind too.
    If you fix it with your GF please send me a MP.
     
  20. hi2u2

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    I'm the same way. I acutally really really like imagining things, but acutally doing them, is something else. When me and my SO have phonesex, im all out, saying crazy things, but when hes around, i dont really do much, he has to ask/remind/etc for me to do anything.

    I want to make him happy, but it just seems unnatural for me to do the things he wants me to do.

    Sucks
     
  21. NJGuy

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    Move on...

    She seems like a cool chick and she seems to want to try to please you.
    But if she isnt into the same shit you like... she isnt into it.

    You need to ask yourself.
    Am I willing to sacrific that part of my sex life to be with her?

    If not... move on and try to find someone who can.
    If yes... Stay with her and be happy with getting unwilling participation.

    At least she tries bro... some chicks are very very selfish.


    PS.. I like your girls ass.
    How about some ass shots in this thread to liven things up?
     
  22. KaoS

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    Always down with the ass shots :bowdown: one sec.
     
  23. ShoverBot

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    have you tryied having drunk sex, does she loosen up at all when shes slightly intoxicated, if so that might be a viable excuse to get some of your freakyness in

    but in all reality it might be worth finding a freaky chick, lately all ive found is freaky chicks its wierd, if shes not into pleasing you , even at least just trying it to see if it makes you happy, then i think id loose her and find somebody who cares about your feelings more
     
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    whoops i forgot about this thread for a sec :o
     
  25. NJGuy

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