my gf is becoming a porker, what should i do?

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  1. 17%

    17% New Member

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    cliffs: gf is porker, how do i convince her to lose weight without sounding like a jack ass.

    my gf and i have been dating some 3+ months now. i've noticed that she's getting bigger and bigger. i think she's 5'7"@150lbs.

    she's getting too fat for my tastes. i am not attracted to her and i want her to lose weight and eat less.

    last time, i bought a small bag of oreos and i saw her munching on it. when i woke up, the bag of oreos were gone. when i asked her where it went, she said she ate them all.

    another time, we were at a restaurant and she ordered a plate. i ordered a plate too. her plate came first and she started eating before my plate came. 5 minutes later, she finished her entire plate before mine had arrived.

    how can i convince her to lose weight?
    (i don't have time to take her exercising)

    no, i don't want to stay with her because of her mind.
    yes, i acknowledge that i am a jackass.
     
  2. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Do her a favor and break up with her.... she deserves better.
     
  3. Cobra Commander

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    :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

    God damnit that is priceless.

    I sure as fuck couldn't STAND sleeping next to much less WITH a a girl who looks fatter than when I first met her. I'm sorry but comfort weight can go fuck itself. Getting pregnant is different and post-pregnancy weight is a totally different story. I will rub cocoa butter on her from day one when I find out that my sperm decided to stay and grow legs..and arms..and shit
     
  4. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    150 for 5'7" is not fat and she doesn't need a jackass.
     
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    :hsugh: please post pics of what she looked like when you guys started dating and this new "fat" her. 150 @ 5'7'' is not that big
     
  6. Cobra Commander

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    if he noticed that she gained weight..after only 3 months of dating her..then i'm pretty sure she probably started somewhere around 130-140
     
  7. Cobra Commander

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    :rofl:

    You think he took before and after pics? Shit I don't even have pics of my gf around the time I started dating her much less now
     
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    if you don't care about her personality or her feelings after being with her for three months, break up with her. who cares how much she weighs if she has nothing else to offer or you guys have no connection other than physical attraction? :dunno:
     
  9. 17%

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    physical attraction is important to me as well as personality, but i wanted to put an emphasis that physical attraction had to be there.

    i won't speak for everyone,

    but some people take physical attraction as a must-have in a relationship (however shallow it may be)
     
  10. Cobra Commander

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    what ethnicity is she if i may ask?

    If you say asian them break up with her.
     
  11. infinite.purple

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    well if she has the personality and you care about keeping her around, you should probably figure out a nice way to show you're concerned about her health and that she's getting proper nutrition. as soon as you make it about weight, you're screwed. maybe start a food journal yourself and suggest she do the same (for support)??? overeating is often due to stress or boredom. if you can pinpoint what's triggering it, you can be more helpful.
     
  12. Yail Bloor

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    how much has she gained since you started dating?
     
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    I feel you. Keeping fit is a part of my life and I expect the person I'm with to make a serious effort. I told my current gf right off the bat, no way we're gonna be one of those couples that gets fat together..
     
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    5'7 at 150 christ

    Dating a girl who is 5'9, a little under 125 and I wouldn't have it any other way. At the least sounds like your girl needs to lose about 10-15 pounds.
     
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    Break up with her and she will instantly lose anywhere between 130 and 180 pounds
     
  16. BadKat

    BadKat GIVE ME WINE!!

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  17. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    :rofl:, that is what my reaction was when I read it:ugh:. Whatever, he likes dating a stick, some might like dating a whale!
     
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    BadKat GIVE ME WINE!!

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    :h5: & :werd: It's not about the numbers on the scale anyway, it's about looking healthy and being healthy. I'm sorry, but if she's 5'9 & under 125lbs, she's got an eating disorder. I'm 5'5 and once weight 118 and looked sickly even @125.

    I'm 5'5 & 160 but it's not bad. When I was even 20lbs lighter, people would tell me I needed to eat. I actually had family pull me aside and try to have an "intervention" with me about my anorexia when I weigh 125. Because I seriously looked anorexic even tho I have never had an eating disorder in my life!

    Now my Husband, my family, even my friends, tell me I look good. My Stepmom actually told me tonight that she thinks if I do anything to lose actual weight I won't look "healthy" anymore.

    Can I stand to lose 10lbs? Sure! But I also don't sit and eat an entire bag of oreos by myself in one sitting :ugh:
     
  19. Hahawhat?

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    Ugh try having a gf 5'3'' go from 115 to 150. Yeah your girl got a little comfortable but you haven't seen too much comfort. There is no way not to sound like a jackass when telling a gf to lose weight. Best thing to do is straight up tell her like it is.
     
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    what the fuck :bowrofl:
     
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    Maybe I'm an asshole but I told my current gf I'd break up with her if she gained a ton of weight unless it was due to medical reasons. Granted I lead by example and am more than happy to help her fix things before they become a problem.
     
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  22. Jacy

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    I agree.

    If you insist on 'fixing' her, then you should lead by setting a good example-- cutting out the junk food and working out more often. If you work out, invite her to join you.

    Have you gained weight since you started dating her? How tall and heavy are you? Are you in shape?
     
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    Nice job on contradicting yourself there. :rolleyes:
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

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    I really don't understand how this is even a question :ugh:

    Break up with her.

    It's only been 3 months, just dump her now and on to the next.
     
  25. D7

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    You can look fatter when you didn't gain any actual weight. You can look skinnier when you didn't lose any actual weight. Everyone carries their weight differently.
     

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