my gf is a virgin

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  1. meatball

    meatball you're the grasshole ya grasshole OT Supporter

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    she knows i've slept around, and so far (we've been dating exclusively for a month) i've been prohibited from any below the belt action.


    I feel like I'm in middle school, and I absolutely despise it. But I do get along with her better than pretty much any other girl I've dated. Would it be obnoxious to "talk" about this situation down the road? I'm 20 years old and can't imagine having a relationship without sex. At the same time, however, I don't want to pressure anything and blow the fact that she might plan on sleeping with me in the near future.
     
  2. CaiWooBlue

    CaiWooBlue New Member

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    Are you basing your relationship on the fact you might or might not get future booty?

    What are her reasons for remaining a virgin... and giving you no giney access even non penetrative?
     
  3. meatball

    meatball you're the grasshole ya grasshole OT Supporter

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    i know this is semantics, but while i'm not basing my relationship on sex, i do hold the philosophy that every healthy romantic relationship needs sex.

    she's religious to a degree, but not saving herself for marriage. she's waiting "for someone she really cares about" to paraphrase her words.
     
  4. CaiWooBlue

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    Okay the first is actually what i was hoping to hear. :)

    The second, I was wondering partially if she was afraid of STDs or the like. If so, get tested and show her the results.

    If it is for any sort of religious reasons, it might be hard to break that barrier (NO that was not a pun). If you push her about it, its going to make her step back even farther, IMO.

    If you like her enough to stay without sex right now, and she is at all willing to play without penetration, show her how fun just touching and making each other feel good can be. If she is going to come around, that would be the best way to go, i think.
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I don't see anything wrong with your feelings, because I totally agree. A healthy relationship has communication and sex. How old is she by chance? I know you are 20 but I was wondering how old she is.

    Look, she's already told you she's not saving herself for marriage but saving herself for someone special, which is pretty rare. You've only been dating a month. If you actually do care about her and enjoy her company then why not stick with it? Sex isn't everything, so I'm sure you could date still and just build the relationship aspect. As time goes on and the more comfortable she grows with you the more likely she will be to letting you get some action down there. If she still stays prude then fuck it, move on.
     
  6. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    does she let you at least see her naked. you should convince her that you want to cuddle naked with her and that there will be no sex involved. see if that gets her horny enough to let her touch her..... but yea. stick with it for a few more weeks, let her know that a sexual relationship is important to you.

    Also what you could try to do is tell her that you want her on Birth control before you try sexing her and that you want her on it so that way it is one less thing we have to worry about when she feels the time is right


    no below the belt at all? that sucks kuz thats my main strategy with girls who dont want to give it up (or so they say): Finger em for a 5-8 minutes then just stop and if they want more they gotta hump u.
     
  7. chlywly

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    A couple of months isn't long... virgin? big DEAL, its up to YOU to make her feel comfortable and bring the beautiful earthly sexual GODDESS that she is OUT. Get it? So do your magic, relax and enjoy the unfolding. P.S: Just b/c she's a virgin doesn't mean you shouldn't begin to initiate some play ie) Fingers/Tongue etc.
     
  8. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    you could play the "Why dont you trust me yet" card give her the jewish guilt trip too. but id try the other methods first
     
  9. meatball

    meatball you're the grasshole ya grasshole OT Supporter

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    yeah, well she won't let me do any of those things. it's the whole not doing ANYTHING fun thing that's bothering me way more than the no full intercourse. I'd be fine if we were getting off somehow
     
  10. meatball

    meatball you're the grasshole ya grasshole OT Supporter

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    she's fuckin weird :hsugh:

    i think she used to be a fatty...i've seen some pictures from a couple of years ago that seem to indicate that :o

    even now she feels weird having her boobs out and if I suck on them she makes some awkward comment that no 20 y/o should ever make like "What is it with guys and boobs?" :ugh:
     
  11. MattThom01

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    so then leave.

    It's been a month, so you're not super invested. Get out and go after what you want.

    She'll surely play the "I knew you only wanted sex! You're just like all the other guys!" card, but who gives a fuck? That's her issue, not yours.

    Besides, say you do drag this out and stay with her...when you guys finally do have sex, what if you aren't compatible? It will have been a huge waste of your time.
     
  12. kiri

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    oh my god.

    if you want to put in the effort, then stick with her, otherwise get out now!! you have a looootttt of work ahead of you if you want to have any sort of good sexual relationship with this person.
     
  13. Yuppy

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    what is it with virgins being no fun?

    wow; that girl needs dick inside her now.

    you need to make her want sex. maybe watch porn with her now; or something... or just while you guys are cuddling outright ask for a blowjob. It works if you have been dating for a while (actually worked on a virgin when i was 14 i said "will you put your beautiful lips around my cock?" and this girl has the mentality of a middle schooler it sounds like)

    Sometimes if you ask you will receive. But you have to ask at the right time (when you are alone and in bed together)

    she prolly wants to try it just as bad as you want it.

    but she doesnt realize that sex si something that people should have every other day.
     
  14. meatball

    meatball you're the grasshole ya grasshole OT Supporter

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    i'm just nervous about the speed this is going to progress more so than me needing sex right this second
     
  15. meatball

    meatball you're the grasshole ya grasshole OT Supporter

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    eh after thinking about it for a while...i should probably break up with her.


    even if i do end up sexing her, i will feel like i have this ridiculously large obligation to stay with her since she's the whole innocent type and she'll have the "i lost my virginity to you" attachment
     
  16. kiri

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    :rofl: as opposed to when you're out to dinner? :mamoru:
     
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    Seems like she has issues (confidence or she was abused or etc.) and that it'll take a lot of work to get somewhere. Well, the work has to be done on her part, so you can't do anything but sit back and support her if you want to go that way. Whatever her issue is, it isn't going to be easy.
     
  18. meatball

    meatball you're the grasshole ya grasshole OT Supporter

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    well i have no idea how i'd ever go about doing that....when i go downstairs i get my hand hit away :rofl:

    that hasn't happened since 7th grade
     
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    what's up bro, i am currently in this situation. however it's not as bad because i am dating two other girls. i confronted my friends about this virgin that i was dating and told them about the situation. they gave me this marvelous idea to use this opportunity as an educational experience. so i did. i am an asshole.

    god is testing you. he is seeing how you overcome life's greatest obstacles. edit, i meant man's greatest obstacles. virgins.

    she said she's looking for that special someone, so be that to her or lie to her. say something to connect with her emotionally. ask her how she feels about you. transition into reciprocating whatever she says. i hope she has strong feelings for you. tell her you feel the same way for her also and its frustrating because you want to show her what you feel physically and not just emotionally.. don't rush her.

    if you push her, it will only make things harder. if she knows that both of you feel the same way emotionally together, then you will be her "special someone". i'm sure there are other ways to do it, but i found this to be simple and effective. this was how i approached my virgin and we're progressing into 3rd base. p.s. no one needs to remind me that i am an asshole, i already know that.

    oh, and you need to have patience. it's one of life's greatest virtues. every person has to exercise patience in order to face difficulties, whether he does so willingly or not. the wise man readily exercises patience because he realizes its benefits, and knows that he will be rewarded for his fortitude.
     
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    rub her inner thigh instead.
     
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    tickles :o
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    it makes them wet
     
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    then again everything makes me wet :coolugh:
     
  24. Kirbys Autumn

    Kirbys Autumn Mrs. Kirby McSpic

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    It took my (now) fiancee 6 months to get ANY below the belt action. I was catholic and saving myself for marriage. He was very patient and understood what I wanted. He started slowly and would try to touch my legs, butt, etc. We finally had sex after 1 year and 4 months. Then, again though we were looking for something really LONG TERM at the time, so I got to the point where I thought "I'm marrying this guy someday" and so we made love. It's up to you whether you're looking for something THAT long term which I don't really think you want to make any type of decision like that yet. Just talk to her about it and explain to her that you can't imagine a relationship without sex (I do realize how important that is in a relationship now) and see where it goes from there. Good Luck.
     
  25. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    I agree with you, 1 month is nothing. The threadstarter needs to break up with this girl because he has unrealistic expectations for her. If she was letting every guy she dated get his hands in her pants after a month THEN SHE PROBABLY WOULDN'T BE A VIRGIN. It's fine to want sex but if you can't handle waiting a little bit then don't date a virgin :uh:
     

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