Well Saturday my girlfriend grabbed the dog, a good bit of her clothes and went to her mom's house. Here is what started it. Friday I call her and ask if she wants to go to look at a house on the lake. She declines and says she's been out in the sun all day, sweating, being tired, and she didn't want to do anything. I call her around the time I figured she'd be home and she was at her friend's house. I said I thought you didnt' want to do anything and she said she just wanted to drop by there and chill a minute, have a beer hang out a little then come home and do nothing. Ok. SO 10pm rolls around and she comes strolling in and by then I'm pissed. I don't like it in the least bit when she tells me one thing and does another. In my eyes, staying over there from 6pm to 10pm is NOT "doing nothing". I wanted to do something, whether it be go to a friends house(something she may have wanted to do) or go to the lake, it didn't matter. All she knew was she didn't want to go to the lake. Anyway, she got home, I told her to sleep on the couch and just stay away from me, I'm mad and I'd rather not deal with her. She complied. I explained why I was angry. That being said.... She leaves the next day after some early morning arging. We'd been having issues previously in the last month or so. The subject of her going to her mom's has surfaced more than once. The heart of these problems is that I have a son, and she is living in a family setting with me. She's upset that I haven't married her yet, or proposed. She says she's doing all the work with none of the rewards. While I agree I'll explain why I haven't asked her yet. I'm still scared. I love her, I truely do, but we've had a rough 2 years. We see eye to eye on so much about family, friends etc that it'd be a shame to let her go. We're usually really close, and alot alike in SO many ways. Kinda wierd that we've known each other for sooo long(prolly 10+ years) and never hooked up. It seems we got together at the perfect times in our lives actually. I'm scared because I've been married before. My wife cheated on me and I divorced her and took our son. I've had him for 5 years now. I've been very slow about getting back into a serious relationship and I've been slow to jump to any new levels. I fear with our sometimes volitile state that she could really cause me some grief. So I somewhat don't trust her completely, or I have insecurity issues. The problem is, this makes me delay. I don't want to make a rash decision about the rest of my life, even though I've had preasure on me to do so. Regardless of the right or wrong I've grown into my own point of view about marriage. I want to date, then live with, then marry. I wan't to be very sure. I'm not positive I have the balls to make that step again if I'm not overly compelled and completely positive about it. It's really eating away at her and she says she can't continue the way we are. She says she'll never get married to me if she stays there, and I think she'll never get married to me if she leaves here. Does that make any sense? It's really wierd, I've felt minimal depression this time around. He had an issue a year ago and I was heartbroken. I'm not sure why it hasn't hit me yet or if it will. If it never does, I guess I'm ok to be alone. But today I've noticed some depression creeping in. I just want to sleep or take a nap, or keep busy. I've cleaned the house alot this weekend. I'm trying to thinnk of ways to look at this situation. I don't think she should be forcing me to ask her for marriage, and I'm not at all sure what it is she really wants out of this. It sounded like she wants to stay together last night on the phone but I don't think I should be forced to comply, asking her to marry me is my choice, her answer is her choice. So what can I do... I think I'm going to make a list of pro's and con's lol I know that sounds stupid but it may be therapeutic. I don't think we've worked out our options yet but it didnt' sound good last night (partly cuz I'm a spiteful bastard). What else can I do to get a grip on my situation? I don't know if I'm writing this to get advice or just let it out a little. Comments?