SRS my dad is cheatin on my mom

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  1. rsxratedr

    rsxratedr New Member

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    He never goes home unless he has to take me to school early. If he doesnt have to do this he doesnt come home, he calls on his cell and walks off talk secretly and on the phone bill its a weird number , never called it but suspecting its the "woman" and my mom shes ill medically and physically and my dad is the only one that works they been married 13 yrs and she is incredible pain. I think he told my mom hes cheating on her and everything but the point of me writting this is. IS there ppl that had something like this and has any advice to either get my dad to stop or to get my mom to feel better? I still love my dad but i just dont think i can forgive him and i will never see him the same so if anyone can help i would be really greatful.:bowdown: :bowdown: :x: :wtc:
     
  2. Darketernal

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    I think your dad loves your mom but sees his needs unforfilled and as a result of that 'might' have been having an affair with another woman.

    This is NOT good. let's imagine the nightmare scenario.

    1. You go and confront your dad with him having an affair, your family brakes up, your dad walks away with another woman, and you are left alone with a sick mom to care of, and needing to move to a small place.

    2. You let the situation endure, your mom keeps getting cheated on , but you still are a family ,with some additional baggage as your dad gets to cheat ,money still comes in supporting you and your mom.

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    Best scenario

    You are completely wrong with your accussation and your dad is doing nothing wrong.

    However you should go out from the nightmare scenario.

    I see it like this.. (and not im not approving your dads behaviour)

    Option 2 is MOST definitly the best option, for the following reasons

    -you get to see your dad
    -you get to see your mom
    -you get to stay in a nice house
    -your mother gets the financial expenses payed for.

    Doesn't weight out to

    -never get to see dad
    -Moving out of the house
    -Not being able to pay for anything
    -being stuck with an ill mother
    -horrible seperation procedure.


    These are only early indications that you all should learn to acts as a family.
    I don't like those thinggs and im sure you don't either so.
     
  3. rsxratedr

    rsxratedr New Member

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    my mom isnt dangerous ill just not great my dad barely gets home so we dont have much money my mom just gets her medical money so thats wat we're paying the bills with
     
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    Can you talk to the school nurse or perhaps a guidance counselor at school?
    Failing that, pick a teacher you really like and trust. Ask him/her.

    You'll get through it.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Wow, that's awful. I'd want to kill my dad if he did something like that.
     
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    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    That pretty much sucks. You go to church? Anyone there you can talk to?
     
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    :werd: i'd go this route or the teacher route... but the latter, imo, maaaay be more risky. just make sure you choose someone reputable. good luck... this is really sad. :( keep your chin up!
     
  8. Darketernal

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    I was also thinking that if your dad isn't of any great financial income for your family then maby its better if your parents seperated, that is if your mom could get a 'better' replacement for a husband. Its not a thing i usually say but if your dad doesn't bring LOVE nor CASH into the family, then its still wrong to think in terms of 'use' for your dad, but its even more wrong for him to cheat on your mom.
     
  9. rsxratedr

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    thanks everyone i have some firneds that i really trust he still does his job as a dad and im not really sure if he really brings the money home but i try my best to keep her smile on her face all the time thanks everyone
     
  10. Darketernal

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    :hug: we are here for you rsx.
     
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    thanks dark and ot
     
  12. carl icahn

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    holy shit man that is really fucked up what your dad is doing....you should sit down and have a chat with him....seperation is key right now...your mom shouldnt be going through anymore pain than she has to...start talking to people man....youll get help dont worry
     
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    Time just keeps dumping gasoline on the situation. Eventually you light a match or suffocate. Confrontation now results in a smaller explosion than later.

    Talking to someone in the church can sometimes not be the best thing. There's a definite minority who will assign guilt to you if you choose to not expose his sin. The majority would provide an emotional outlet and help you make the decision that's right for *you*.
     

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