SO I WROTE MY BOYFRIENDS BROTHER TO ASK IF HE WOLD BE HOME FROM REHAB AND THIS IS WHAT HE HAD TO SAY: I will be honest and straight forward with you. My first thought when I read this was "You have got to be fuckin kiddin me"....don't you two still have orders to not be around each other ???? Is he not in enough shit already....if theres still an order in effect and they checked up on him while he was home and was caught with you he would be up shit creek without a paddle in a boat that leaked no less.... While I realize his drinking and the drugs was "all him" for the most part...and for that I blame him....the bullshit between the two of you surely helped push it along and led to him getting arrested for it. For that I blame you as well as him. I personally think he would be crazy to have anything to do with you after he was done with his sentence and he would be out of his fuckin mind to have anything to do with you while he was still serving it. HOWEVER.....that being said.....Yes he is coming home for Thanksgiving....He can do what he wants....its his life and his decision to make, not mine. I will say I doubt you would be welcomed at his Mom's house....and I can say for certain your not welcome at mine. I wouldn't have allowed him to bring alcohol or drugs into my home and I won't allow him to bring what I feel was a major role in his downfall into my home. I love the guy like a brother and the last thing I will do is "enable him" to get himself in more trouble. Because it is his choice and not mine, I will let him know, in fact, I will let him see your PM and even my reply to it. He can do what he wants...that will be up to him. If he calls you....I will ask you to NOT push him if he says no. He's over half way to being done with his sentence, excluding the probation, and I would think if you cared you wouldn't do anything to jepordize that. THIS IS WHAT I WROTE BACK TO THE GUY: I am sorry you feel this way, I want you to know that prior to him getting arrested, he was trying to get into conciling, I was pushing him to do that, but I gave up, when things started to get worse. ya i know, my fault. he was only drinking, i want to make that clear, the pot was within the last mabe 2 weeks and that was without me knowing. untill he got arrested with it. then he was pritty open with it. I want you to know That I have never pushed him to do anything, and honestly only showed him support threw this, there is so much i have apoligised for to him and if i have offended you im sorry too. I wrote him literly every day since jail for 5 months just bullshiting ya know giving support telling him that im so happy because i know that a better person is coming out of him, a person i knew he could be, a person he could be without beer. Neither of us have orders "not to be around eachother" I served my time in jail and thats over. yes I am on probation but there is no bond and that is not a term of my probation. I do not know about his but if it was a term of him I dont think he would be able to recieve mail from me. and he dose so i dont think thats a problem. Man, he respects you as a person and i can say that his feelings would be hoestly hurt for you to think that he would bring drugs or anything into your house. thats just wrong. I can tell by this letter that you have alot of anger but gordon loves you and wouldent do anything like that to hurt you or your family. I understand the way you feel about me. and Im sorry you feel that way. I Know your doing what you think is right in protecting your family thank you for telling me this. respectfully Saturn Sun WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?