My boyfriend wants me to perform oral on him but i have never done it before...help

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  1. mugen_princess

    mugen_princess chika chika

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    okay so ive been with my bf for 6 months and we have great sex and all but just recently he told me it was time for me to go down ..but im just a lil scared cause i dont know what im doing ...i dont want it to be bad for him ...i mean i want to do it but i just never have done it to any guy in my life ...i've just never been attracted on going down on any guy :eek4:... i dont know what to do ..i guess i feel shy because ive never done it . any suggestions on what i should do ....???? please help:bj:
     
  2. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Just go for it if you're comfortable with it. Let him know you've never done it before and tell him to guide you (ie. let you know what feels good and what doesn't)

    Just tongue the shaft, lick it like a lollipop running your tongue from the base to the head of the penis, use the the tip of your tongue to stimulate the tip of the penis, and then put it in your mouth and swirl your tongue around it while bobbing your head up and down. And then repeat all that a few times.
     
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    Above advice.... most important part of that advice is to "tell him to guide you"... have him tell you what feels good to him. Once you know that, exploit at will :)
     
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    Vysion New Member

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    Step 1: Insert penis into mouth

    Step 2: Swallow :naughty:
     
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    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    That would be some terrible head :hsugh:
     
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    :rofl: it was a joke broski...
     
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    Online streaming porn is your best bet, there are plenty of amazing write ups, just do a google "How to give good head" and read it. If you want to learn the doors are open, the next thing to do is ask him what and how he likes it.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    BJ porn is my favorite. Excellent learning tool.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    First off, good for you! I know it can be an intimidating thing and you're brave for wanting to try something that is obviously outside your comfort zone.

    The most important thing you need to realize is that you bf will love you giving him a bj. I think it's easy to fall into the doubt trap and feel inexperienced, but the truth of the matter is, the fact that you are going down on him at all is going to make him happy (which is the point, right?)

    Just go into with an open line of communication and don't use your teeth (at least not at first). Lick all over and do the lollipop thing like the others said, but just listen to his moans and you'll know what he likes and doesn't. Of course odds are at first he'll like pretty much anything you do with your mouth down there.

    Be patient with yourself and try not to worry about it if that's possible. Good luck!
     
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    the easiest and best thing to do. i was nervous my first time too, but my then boyfriend helped me by telling me what he liked. and practice makes perfect
     
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    The biggest thing is enjoying it. If you actually enjoy it, he'll know and it will make it that much better.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Be slick and take a shower with him immediately beforehand too. :mamoru: Don't want your first time to be funky or you won't want to go back.
     
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    First rule, no teeth.
     
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    Ask him what he likes. Everyone likes different things, and different strokes feel better than others.

    But, if you are enthusiastic about it, I think that pretty much makes being bad okay.
     
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    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Ball play. Gotta remember the ball play
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd:

    Though a beginner can't worry about that at the start. It's like tapping your head and rubbing your belly at the same time.
     
  19. Falconer

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    Find out what he likes through trial and error. It should be fun for both of you.

    You can't necessarily go off of porn.

    Some of the stuff you see in porns makes me go :wtf:

    And I'd say at least 70% of bj porn I've seen is boring and uninspired, the chick has bad technique and doesn't look like she's enjoying it.

    And that brings me to my last point. A chick who enjoys giving head is the biggest turn on in the world. I'd much rather get head from someone who is average at doing it but who LOVES doing it, than from someone with perfect technique but who is just doing it as a chore and doesn't enjoy it.
     
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    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Mother fucking :werd: to that
     
  21. Tony Victory

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    I've had girls that were good, girls that were bad and one girl that made my legs shake like i was having a fit :o

    But as long as the girl was comfortable i was never shy on saying what feels good and what doesnt ect. Just as I enjoy knowing how they like it when I go down on them as everyone has different strokes.

    As others have said id definitely recommend watchig some online porn, but focus on the amateur stuff.

    This is one of my faves :)

    nws ofcourse: http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=bc7dc139103594b1112a
     
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    take your pointer finger and stick it in his ass. Don't tell him just do it.
     
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    Holy shit, I'd love to be the guy to take head from a chick who has never given head before. That'd shit would be kinda hot, as long as no teeth are involved.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I've trained inexperienced girls before and it definitely has it's pros and cons. On the pro side, you get to basically mold them into the perfect lover for you. On the con side, it takes a lot of time, effort, patience and understanding- because odds are if they haven't done it before there are some mental blocks there as well.
     
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    all u need to know is play with the balls a bit and lick the underside of the penis
     

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