Discussion in 'On Topic' started by SaMMy SiZZLe, Aug 15, 2008.
For a year.
Cliffs on this overwhelmingly detailed post?
i just moved to new jersey..
but seriously, that sucks
what's he doing 2,500 miles away from you?
i live in ny. we've been together like 2 yrs. he decided he wanted to go back to school to UTI. Decides to go to phoenix campus because he has family out there and it'd be cheaper.
Today he left. He asked me to come in a few months to stay for the rest of the time with him and I'm considering it.
But I'm taking it a lot harder than I thought I would.
That sucks, but hey....he asked you to come and that's quite a big step and shows how he feels. Do you have a lot in NY to leave?
Well I was going to go to school this semester but my financial aid went threw too late so I can't...that's when I started considering going. The only thing that was holding me back was school.
I'm going to miss some of my family...but I don't have a relationship with them to the point that I can't bear to be away.
The only thing holding me back now is how different it is out there. I've never even been to Arizona on a vacation and now I might live there for a year.
Ridiculously different, but that's what you have to decide
Where would you be living though if you moved there? Please don't say with his family members.
With family but it's not like a packed house. He moved in with his aunt. It's just her in the house cause all her kids moved out so there's like 3 empty rooms.
If you love him that much, go out there and be with him
The only thing I would caution you against is changing your goals just to be with him. My ex-wife did exactly that, decided to come be with me in college for a year instead of going straight to college, thinking she'd go back to school when I was done. And then she didn't...and she resented me for it.
I think the same will happen to you if you change your life's plans just to be with him.
just be sure to get your own affairs in order first Oo
Well I can't go to school this semester either way because I have no financial aid. I've been thinking about changing my major anyway and I'm not really sure if I want to go back to school for the same thing.
He's barely been gone for a day and I already feel super lonely. Don't get me wrong..I've got friends around to hang out with to try to keep me busy but he kind of made up for the fact that I'm not really close to my family and none of my friends really do that for me.
1. Just because you don't want to go back for the same thing is not justification for putting off going back yet another year on top of the semester you've already lost.
2. The loneliness goes away over time. I did a LDR with my ex-wife for a year while I was in school and the first month was super-hard, but eventually we found a groove and made it work.
My advice would be to go out there this semester since you've already missed out. Then come back next semester and go back to school. An LDR for one semester won't kill you.
I decided I'm going to go out there and play it by ear. If I can't stand it out there I'll come back.
If I like it and I don't want to leave him next semester I'll take some classes online.
I'm super nervous.