SRS My bestfriend is being messed in the head

Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Gladiator, Aug 3, 2006.

  1. Gladiator

    Gladiator Guest

    I dont know how to help her, and for the last ... year I've been helping her with her boy problems and now its gotten so out of hand. shes my best friend and i really want to help the girl out, but wtf :sad2:. so the story is she was with this guy and he cheated on her with numerous girls, she knew but never confronted him about it and refused to leave him and just continued to stay with him, than her dad found out and said to get him out of her life. but it was like she didnt care about anything, as long as they were together, and then after her dad found out he threatened him and he pussied out and ignored her calls for 2 months, then one day he calls her and says its all her fault that they broke up... but HE ignored her calls. so shes taking him back YET AGAIN but claims they're friends. its like this girl only talks to me just to help her out. other than that, its nothing. i just get so angry that she is making a mountain out of a mole hill, being so attached to him when she barely even knows the guy. what should i tell her, should i just drop it?

    heres the conversation we had

    her says:
    wats in teh past is the past
    me says:
    yeah
    me says:
    r u talking to brian?
    her says:
    yes
    me says:
    lol hmm ok
    me says:
    you're fucked
    me says:
    but i guess it takes time...
    she says:
    but its not like bak then
    she says:
    we're just friendly friends
    me says:
    lol yeah
    her says:
    he only calls if i call him
    her says:
    or txt msg
    her says:
    or iniaitiate something u know
    her says:
    but today he was suppose to come over
    her says:
    but then i had work
    her says:
    i dunno
    her says:
    but im not letting it get to me
    her says:
    HAHAHAHAH
    her says:
    ur prolly thinkin
    her says:
    "yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"
    her says:
    okayyyyyyyy
    me says:
    yeah
    me says:
    pretty much
    me says:
    ur friends, but hes coming over ??
    me says:
    ok...to do what
    me says:
    ur just getting back on the wagon huh
    me says:
    fucking urself up again
    me says:
    do me a favour
    me says:
    and dont ask me for help
    me says:
    but yeah
    me says:
    be friends, great idea...
    me says:
    lol sorry
    me says:
    just dont want to see you get hurt all over again
    me says:
    cuz afer all that
    she says:
    ye ye yeeeee ei knoww
    she says:
    but i dunno
    me says:
    it just sucks that u were makin progress
    me says:
    im trying to understand
    me says:
    but 1 step fwd
    me says:
    2 steps back
    her says:
    i dont know
    her says:
    its nothign serious
    her says:
    i know, but its going to b there soon enough
    her says:
    i mean
    me says:
    if he comes over, what r u expecting, coming over as friends?
    me says:
    what is WRONG with u
    me says:
    u didnt love him so u say... so what is wrong with u
    me says:
    just tell me what you are expecting
    me says:
    everytime
    me says:
    you talk to him?
    me says:
    your expectations for yourself are so low and its crazy

    - signs off -


    guess she didnt want to talk about it :(
     
  2. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    Unfortunately, you can not choose her mates. Women choose bad men all the time and her friends are beating their heads against the way becuase they will be on tissue and ice cream duty when it falls apart. You have voiced your opinion on the issue the best thing is let it be for awhile. If you keep pushing it she will push you away and drive her closer to him. But be there when it falls apart agian and refrain from saying I told you so. Its not your choice its her's she has to be mature enough to know that the bad bf is not for her she will one day.
     

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