Is is possible, or perhaps likely for someone to be able to move forward and leave the past behind them if it's still hurting them? A quick background: Dated a girl for several girls, planned to get married, loved each other, etc... Problem was that we argued a lot, I was often a jerk (not anymore) and she has some insecurity problems she needed to work out that I really didn't help resolve... though I should have. We broke up, several months passed, we started hooking up again and acting like we were dating. Sleeping together, using the love word, talking about our future again. Problem is that she still holds a lot against me from the past.... She is still hurt and though I am MUCH better now, she totally freaks about the little things and start saying "i'm gonna turn into what I used to be". Mind you, I never cheated/hit her or anything, but I didn't make a lot of time for her, and I didn't maker her feel as loved as I should have... I was a jerk. I have done a TOTAL 180, really grown up and rediscovered myself and most of the time we are very happy and she always says how much better we get along now. But now, the smallest thing (like me getting upset about her hanging with guys that have crushes on her) turns into a huge ordeal and automatically becomes me being a dick again and "not really changing", etc... etc... Now, I love her to death but she has had issues since a kid about insecurities and people being mean to her and now it seems all that pent up aggression and craziness is being focused on me even when I am doing my best to keep us happy. Sometimes she just wont call me and will tell me she hates me and to leave her alone.... Just to find a week later she wants me in her life again... It's getting ridiculous. I want to be there for her and be the one to help her get through this, but I am starting to realize it doesn't have as much to do with me, as it just does with her being not all there mentally and needing to push through this problem on her own. So what this comes down to is; is it likely she will ever let go of the past, or am I doomed to be constantly reminded of my less-than-adequate boyfriend days of before... which will constantly put strain on our relationship and never really allow me to stay afloat with it all. Is it better just to walk away without a fight because things will never be the same.....at least not until she learns how to let go of the past and not be so vindictive? Thanks a lot, sorry for the long post.