More Excitement in Bed

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  1. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    Hey VAG, it's finally starting to bother me.

    A little history, me and my GF have been dating 3 years. I was what most girls would typically call a man whore, while my gf was the sweetest albeit most inexperienced girl i knew. None the less i kept her in my life as a great friend, and three years ago i decided i needed to grow the fuck up and be with someone genuine, sweet, honest, loving, and caring instead of girls that were just fun and not much else.

    Relationship has gone great save for the few mandatory hills to climb, but for the most part i believe we are very good together.

    The problem is starting to become the sex. I know that i cannot expect her to be a porn star in bed, especially since i was her first everything. But how do i get her to spice it up and try new things. Sometimes she is so NOT sexy, that i feel like she isn't really enjoying it. This comes from the past girlfriends and hookups who clawed my back, screamed real loudly, pulled me aside randomly to fuck me, etc other kinky and sexy things. (spoiled)

    I am sure some people are going to say we should break up and aren't compatible sexually, but i love this girl and i want to try everything i can before i just give up. So please, only constructive comments.



    ALSO -> How do i talk her her about this without it coming across as "im not attracted to you," or "you aren't good enough," or "you dont compare to my past girlfriends." I am walking a fine line man.
     
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  2. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Mandatory questions:

    Have you talked to her about this?
    What are you doing to spice things up?
     
  3. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    I was the first, but she still does a lot of that. It has little to do with experience, and a lot to do with her ideas of sex

    experience is more like how to ride, give great bj, etc...
     
  4. Abomb

    Abomb New Member

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    lick her ass, have her lick your ass, bondage, handcuffs, blind folds, have her strap-on fuck you, sex in public, sex in random places, anal, cream pies, trannies, gang bangs, bukkake, etc
     
  5. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    I haven't talked to her about it. I will add that to my first post.

    How could i talk her her about this without it coming across as "im not attracted to you," or "you aren't good enough," or "you dont compare to my past girlfriends." I am walking a fine line man.

    Well i have brought in new positions, I have been having sex with her in more random places (she is a bedroom sex only girl normally) so all over the house has been my new campaign. I bought a vibrating cock ring, all things seem to be helping greatly with her enjoyment of sex. But they haven't really changed any of the problem.
     
  6. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    How many of these have you done Abomb?:naughty:
     
  7. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Do something to her that she totally wouldnt expect. Eat her asshole while your down on her or something if shes generally against 'kinky' things, try and open her up to something new.

    Have you tried bringing porn into the bedroom? Letting her know what you truely like/want?

    My first ex was generally a mute. I told her I liked to hear the girls, I liked to 'feel' more then just the sex, it was a mental thing as well. It eventually got real good :big grin:.

    Communication is key though. May sound hard but be honest with her.
     
  8. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    She doesn't like porn, and doesnt watch it. Is that part of it? Do the rest of us have warped minds and crazy ideas about what makes sex sexy because of porn and she is just a plain jane?
     
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    :rofl:
     
  10. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    I know girls that hate porn but still are very good in bed and try different things, so no that is not the reason. How often do you guys have sex? does sex feel like a chore for her you think?
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    If shes never watched porn and is 100% only experienced with you, how the hell else is she supposed to know what 'other people' enjoy?

    Put in a porn of some shit you like dude. Just let it play, see what she says. Or ask her if you can bring a porn into the bedroom, let her know you want to try new things, etc.
     
  12. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    pfff, I need a real answer:big grin:
     
  13. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    Lol sorry, nothing is going in my ass.

    We have tried blindfolding, she loved it. But she is still shy.
    She will NOT try anal, i have talked her her about it before.
    Sex in random places has worked, sex in public is limited to sex in the car a couple times.

    Yeah, for me there is much more in the act than just being inside of her. I want to know a girl wants it because she demanded it/asked for it, i like when girls moan or scream, i like when girls talk dirty to me (especially when i am at work or school still and they are telling me they want me when i get home), she has never sent me naked pictures... etc
     
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    We have sex at least 3-4 times a week when she spends the night at my place, we have sex a lot, she loves it, its just me.
     
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    I will try to talk to her about it, I wish i could try to get her to watch porn on her own. You know how your tastes in porn naturally progress...
     
  16. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    I don't get it. Seems like you tried many different things and have sex quiet often, still you have this idea that she does not like sex. Is it always you who initiates something new? If that is the case talk to her and tell her you like her to come up with ideas and initiate new things sometimes. And see what she'll do about it.
     
  17. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    fuck the progress, normal porn don't get me anymore, just the very freaky ones:noes:
     
  18. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    She doesn't much initiate anything, I have told her i like her to "be the one to make the move." But still no dice.

    That's what i mean man. You start watching plain porn and then you discover this and that, and before you know it you are exposed to all the kinky shit the internet has to offer :rofl:
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    ABORT ABORT ABORT!!!!!!!!!!!

    DO NOT put in a porn that you like if she hasn't ever watched porn. Chances are from the way you are talking about it that you watch some crazy stuff. Watching that right off the bat will scare her away.


    There are some porns that are catered to girls, the "Pirates" one is one of them. Watch those. Communication is key here, if you don't tell her what you like/want to try, how will she ever know?

    And a way to not come across as "you are unsexy" is to say it in such a way like, "God, you would be SO sexy if you did _____, ______, and _____! I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off of you!"

    And the key is to work your way up, she's not going to want to be tied up right off the bat.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If after 3 years together you can't have an open and honest conversation about sex I don't see a lot of hope for you two.
     
  22. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    Way to be an asshole and not read. Do i need to show you where the back button is?
     
  23. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    My thoughts exactly, I was thinking maybe i would take her to fascinations and we could pick out a porn together.
     
  24. Nosolace001

    Nosolace001 New Member

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    I have talked to her about it before, but i think i was too afraid to insult her or turn her off from it. I am going to just have to think of a way to say it that isnt going to make it sound like i am completely unhappy. Which isnt the case.

    Thank you all for the speedy and mostly quality replies *cough* suggestion of strap on *cough* haha
     
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  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Do I need to show you where your balls are?

    I don't see where I missed anything. You keep saying "how do I bring it up :mb:...." when how you bring it up doesn't matter. If you can't tackle this very important subject head on then I can't see how you will ever last when a million other awkward subjects need to be addressed in your futures.

    You tell her you are happy with her, but need some more variety. If she's not willing to try new things, initiate, etc. then you need to wake up and realize that there are women out there who are sweet, virtuous and whatever other qualities you desire who do or will fuck like a porn star.
     

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