Hey VAG, it's finally starting to bother me. A little history, me and my GF have been dating 3 years. I was what most girls would typically call a man whore, while my gf was the sweetest albeit most inexperienced girl i knew. None the less i kept her in my life as a great friend, and three years ago i decided i needed to grow the fuck up and be with someone genuine, sweet, honest, loving, and caring instead of girls that were just fun and not much else. Relationship has gone great save for the few mandatory hills to climb, but for the most part i believe we are very good together. The problem is starting to become the sex. I know that i cannot expect her to be a porn star in bed, especially since i was her first everything. But how do i get her to spice it up and try new things. Sometimes she is so NOT sexy, that i feel like she isn't really enjoying it. This comes from the past girlfriends and hookups who clawed my back, screamed real loudly, pulled me aside randomly to fuck me, etc other kinky and sexy things. (spoiled) I am sure some people are going to say we should break up and aren't compatible sexually, but i love this girl and i want to try everything i can before i just give up. So please, only constructive comments. ALSO -> How do i talk her her about this without it coming across as "im not attracted to you," or "you aren't good enough," or "you dont compare to my past girlfriends." I am walking a fine line man.