Ok, so here's the story so far: a couple of months ago, I bumped into a chick that i used to go to primary and highschool with who i hadn't seen since i graduated highschool (about 5 years ago)... we never really got along back then, as we always hung out in different 'groups', and of course, back in highschool, mixing groups is forbidden anyway, we started hanging out a bit, and seemed to get along well, things went from there i guess, we were out one night, she got completely trashed, and ended up coming home with me (as it was easier/cheaper than taking her home as well), one thing led to another and next thing i know she's all over me... (we didn't actually 'do' anything though) the next day she was like "omg, i'm so sorry, i can't believe i did that, i nearly slept with you, how embarrasing" blah blah blah we hung out for a bit after that where nothing happened, then one night we were hugging again and she kissed me, and its been like that for about a month now... like, she'll kiss me etc, hold hands, hug... a couple of (i.e. only 2) times things have gotten a bit more intimate, but she seemed to expect me to please her, and then just rolled over and went to sleep, when she was done one night she called me up at 4am o), completely off her face, and asked me to drive into the city (40 minute journey) to pick her up from a club. I did, and when we get back to my place, again, she's all over me, but this time wants to go the whole way... so we do... after i asked her about 3 or 4 times if this is what she really wanted... and her saying yes... I didn't really see her for a few days after that, until i went out with her and her family the other weekend... now, she made me promise i wouldn't show any signs of affection etc towards her while we were out with her family/friends, basically made me pretend we were just friends and nothing more... she wouldn't even give me a hug or hold my hand or anything that day.... i dunno, i guess she felt embarrased by me or something? I've tried asking her a few times what she sees us as (as its confusing the hell out of me) and she just replies with "i don't know what i want" and then goes on to talk about something completely different... She's always busy hanging out with her other friends, and rarely has time to do anything with me... and even when we do make plans (this has happened quite a few times now) she calls up the day before, or even on the day etc and is like "Oh, i'm sorry, but i just remembered i promised 'x' to do 'blah blah' tonight... so i can't go with you" or "i've got no money, so i can't go out" etc... anyway, she was acting weird a few days ago, so i eventually got out of her what was wrong, and when i asked her if she regretted doing some things, she's like "sometimes" I tried talking to her just then (about 10 minutes ago)... i flat out said to her that she's confusing me, and i need to know what i mean to her, whether im just a cuddlebitch to her, or a friend with benefits, or something more, and again, she trotted out the whole "i don't know what i want" line, and the old "its not you its me" line of reasoning... so i said to her "so, until you decide what you want, we're just friends?" and she said that yes, that was the case... then she added "at the moment" to the end.... GRRRRRR!!! WHAT THE HELL DOES THIS GIRL WANT???? Now comes the moral dilemma part of it.. Met this chick about 2 weeks ago, and we get along great... she's in an open relationship with someone (he spends alot of time on the road with his work, so they have an agreement *this is what she tells me anyway* that while he's away they are both allowed to see other people.. and she tells me they even do the whole partner swapping thing with friends sometimes... now, this doesn't freak me out or anything, i'm cool with that... but this chick wants to jump my bones basically... and what i'm wondering, is, is it okay to be with her while this other chick makes up her damn mind, as she's saying at the moment we're "only friends" until she makes up her mind Reason i ask is i don't believe in cheating on people, however, if she's not prepared to act like/call herself my partner/girlfriend/whatever, then is it really cheating? Sorry for the longwinded post, but this is confusing the hell outta me!