Money talk

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  1. Riconosuave

    Riconosuave New Member

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    At what point in your relationship donyou feel comfortable in discussing money issues? Bills, salary, debt, etc?
     
  2. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    Honestly, when it actually matters. Like if you are talking about moving in or planning a $$$$ trip.

    Otherwise, why ?
     
  3. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    until we're living together and sharing expenses, etc.
     
  4. Kyoko

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    Whenever you start to think of your partner as someone you want be with for the long run. It's different for everybody. My bf and I talked about money n' debt n' such pretty early in our relationship. No one forced it. The discussion sorta happened on its own.

    Get out of the "crushed out" phase first though.
     
  5. Genghis.Tron

    Genghis.Tron New Member

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    I don't get why people are afraid to talk about money. I think it's better to talk about it BEFORE having to deal with shared expenses. I would have had some thinking to do if I met a chick with lots of debt on her credit cards for example.
     
  6. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I will talk about anything and everything on day one.
     
  7. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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  8. Falconer

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    :bowdown:

    "So, I just moved to this down... it's pretty. I like it. I'm glad I met you."

    "BITCH DO YOU HAVE ANY DEBT?????"
     
  9. vodkacollins

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    its all part of who a person is. if you are hiding things for 3 months, or until you decide to move in, then the person doesnt know the real you.
     
  10. THoC

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    i have no problem talking about it but usually wait until its serious.

    after a lesson learned never again will i date someone i basically support.
     
  11. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Pretty much.
    You can easily get an idea of how someone deals with money without having to wait until you move in together. From hanging out and doing a shop, or talking about expenses and savings. it's not difficult.
     
  12. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    :werd: @ not supporting them.

    It's why I don't (usually) pay for anything.

    You date me because you love being with me, not for financial reasons. If we break up or stay together, YOUR financial situation is exactly the same since you manage your own expenses.
     
  13. THoC

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    come slap me over the head for my last relationship so i can lean my lesson :mamoru:
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    You paid for everything, didn't you?
     
  15. Viper

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    As early as possible. Why wait until you have serious feelings for someone only to discover you are incompatible?
     
  16. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    We talk about money all the time. I make more than her and I don't pay rent, paid my car off, have a very small amount of CC debt, etc. etc. so I pay for most the shit we do.

    She lives at home, has to help support her family by paying some bills, has car payment, makes less than me, etc.

    Neither of us directly say how much money we have in the bank or anything like that but we both know about each others' expenses and debts and whatnot.

    Money is important and just like Viper said, why wait until you're about to move in together or something to find out your SO has 20k in CC debt.
     
  17. Falconer

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    Like when Marshal and Lily go to get a mortgage loan and then Marshal finds out that Lily has like $15k in credit card debt from shoes :rofl:
     
  18. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    I subscribe to a slightly different philosophy, which is that I usually alternate paying for dates (I pick up the tab this time, you pick it up next time) and would only buy gifts at holidays/birthday or whatever -- that's usually a pretty fair deal. :bigthumb:
     
  19. Kev07

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    I don't bring it up for no reason but it's not a topic that I avoid :rofl:
     
  20. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I would feel comfortable talking about it the day that we met. I would feel comfortable asking about it a bit later, depending on how quickly she opened up.
     
  21. GammaRadiation

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    I handed a debit card to my GF and gave her the pin number at just over 1yr because I had to stay somewhere and finish a project but I also needed to buy some stuff for the plans that night.

    To her, that was a bigger deal than me saying I love you :rofl:
     
  22. Genghis.Tron

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    Why don't you talk about the money you make?
     
  23. THoC

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    I HATE YOU!!! :mamoru::hs:
     
  24. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Understandably so. It takes some serious trust to hand over access to your bank account to someone.
     
  25. Falconer

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    Same end result. This is acceptable.

    (unless she conveniently goes to McDonalds when it's her turn to pay and you go to steak houses when it's your turn)
     

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