SRS money + relationship

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  1. lost04

    lost04 justme

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    If you really liked a girl and cared for her would you let her rent a car to come see you when she doesn't work (full time student)? And let's say you work and have a car. You guys live about 1.5 hrs away from each other. Would you offer to pay for the car? Or split the cost?

    I rent a car about once a month to go see him. He doesn't stop me. And I've made it clear that i'm broke and that I'm not going to do it anymore. but since saying that I've done it twice and am thinking about doing it again.

    My friends all say that I'm stupid and that I should stop. They say he doesn't care for me. Because if he did he would come see me, because he has a car. Or at least offer to pay.

    He's 25 and I'm 22.

    I understand that he's a working man, and that he's busy. They say to stop making excuses for him.. if he really wanted to see me nothing would stop him... just like how i want to see him and nothing stops me.

    Am i stupid to rent cars when i'm broke?
     
  2. JustJeff

    JustJeff www.youtube.com/thisisjustjeff

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  3. Daria

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    there's a red flag right there. Why are you making excuses for him? What aren't you talking to him to find out the reasons why things are they way they are instead of making up things?
     
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    Don't spend money if you don't have it.
     
  5. lost04

    lost04 justme

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    could it be maybe perhaps he's just not that into me? :-(
     
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    Just not that into you gets my vote.
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    has he ever once come to see you?

    and you should stop spending money to rent cars if you cant afford it. its not his place to pay for something you are choosing to do, so dont blame him.
     
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    Don't put more into a relationship than the other person is willing to put.
     
  9. Ford4Life

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    You are stupid for renting the car, and even more stupid for expecting him to pay for it. It's not his job to pay your expenses.

    He knows the deal, just tell him you don't have a car, and can't afford to rent one. If he wants to see you, he willl drive down. If not, find someone else.
     
  10. lost04

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    I don't expect him to pay for it. I wouldn't feel comfortable if he did. And I would never take it.
     
  11. lost04

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    Yea.. he's come to see me a few times. i'm not blaming him for anything. I don't want him to pay at all.
     
  12. chica&buddies

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  13. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I was in a similar situation as you. I was doing a long distance relationship with a girl, and I would spend the money and make the effort to go see her. Eventually I realized I always went to her, so I asked her dozens of time to come see me. Eventually I just ended it, because I realized she was never gonna make the effort or catch the bus to come see me.
     
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    ask him why he doesnt make the effort to come see you more often. if i was him and i liked you id come up w. a plan. 1 week i come to see you and 1 week you do.


    let me put it this way. i was dating a girl that lived about 45min from me. she always came to my place and i never put the effort to go see her. why? bc i was just not that into her. to me it was more casual (ill see you when i see you).

    she ended up ending it..... couldnt blame her at all.
     
  15. lost04

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    sigh** 'tis a sad world that i live in....
    guess that's another vote for he's just not that into you.
     
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    yes. it is stupid to rent a car when you are broke.
     
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    but doing a lot of things for love is stupid.

    people still do it.
     
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    i don't think it's really stupid... the only problem i see with this is that it seems to me you're the one making all the effort. if he was taking trips to come see you it'd be a bit different...
     
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    wow he's playing you and you're blind to the fact :bowrofl:

    oh FYI only way I would let a girl do that was if I didn't really care about her anymore than a booty call...1.5 hr drive is not far shit my commute to work takes that long some days...he probably has another girl local to him
     
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    :werd: the thread starter definately needs to think about it, especially since the bf won't make any effort to get out there.
     
  21. Gillzeebub

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    spending money u dont have is stupid.
    if its ur trip to see him yes u should pay, if he's never visiting u find out why.
    U go on about ur friends making excuses for him... but u havent given any background to the situation other than that he isnt paying for u to hire a car to go see him.
    Perhaps he has no reason to get in his car and see u because u keep spending money u dont have to go see him?
     
  22. MMJ4mil

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    dont do it its not worth it
     

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