SRS Met a girl

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  1. SpectreMatrix

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    Yep.

    was at the coffee shop, talking with my friends. When I noticed a girl out of the corner of my eye arguing with her computer. I asked if she was having issues .. well anyway one thing led to another. fixed the compy. My friends start sending me texts and what not telling me to talk to her more. I end up hanging around when everyone takes off. Talk to her and she turned out to be super cool. I am mildly freaked out by the whole thing but I managed to keep calm.

    Well I scraped up the nerve to ask her if she would want to get lunch sometime. She said absolutely..

    this is extremely paraphrased. I don't know if it will really go anywhere, but here is for trying:x:. I wasn't looking for anything and this one wandered out of no where. Since breaking down these walls I have had so many things open up to me. Been on some great dates, had some great revelation s.

    Another great week :eek3:

    And here is a funny video for those of you who read through that.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LDiDK_yBCw0
     
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    triXx Im the crack being smoked by your dealer

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    Why did your friends discourage you?
     
  5. mrchina

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    they were sending him text messages telling him to talk to her more, where'd you get that idea from.


    Nice job Matrix.
     
  6. SpectreMatrix

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    :wavey:
     
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    Werd, thanks!
     
  8. KSNIPPY

    KSNIPPY As lost as i get i will find you

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    happens when you least expect it :cool:
     
  9. DiggityDogg

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    Set up the lunch soon for a specific time and day.
     
  10. SpectreMatrix

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    werd
     
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    nice job matrix! :)
     
  12. DatacomGuy

    DatacomGuy is moving to Canada

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    It's the best, isn't it?

    Nice work Matrix, keep us updated..!
     
  13. kingtoad

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    Good luck. :)
     
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    I skim read OT a lot and all I read was 'not telling me to talk to her more'


    :mamoru:
     
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    Some of the best things in life are random occurrences. Have fun :x:
     
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    When it happens, you realise that it isn't that hard after all.

    Although you had an "opening", that was really like 5% of it. The rest was talking to her, continuing to talk to her, and then finally, just asking her out.

    Lesson for everyone else who thinks they can't "make a move".
     
  17. SpectreMatrix

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    Called, no answer :p
     
  18. dano

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    That's not a bad sign, maybe she has a job. :dunno:

    If she's interested she'll call back. If she doesn't, try it once more and leave a message. If she doesn't call after that, quit wasting your time and move on.

    Best of luck!
     
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    werd I was just thinking that ;)

    thanks for the support.

    its funny, I deal with super high risk situations all the time. And none of them hold a candle to how stressful it is dealing with women.
     
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    So how did you learn to manage the stress associated with these "super high risk" situation?

    I'm sure you weren't all that comfortable the very first time.

    I'm surprised at the number of people who (naturally) feel discomfort approaching women, and don't connect it to the fact that they've only actually done it less than a handful of times in their entire lives.



    A small child is nervous on his first day of school. Regardless of how many times he's watched other people do it.
    But he gets over it.

    Skydiver jumps out of a plane. Pure nerves the first few times. Again, regardless of how many times he's watched other people jump.




    Same with girls. Talking about it, watching your buddies do it, thinking about it...none of it substitutes for just going up and approaching them.

    Doesn't take long before the awkwardness disappears and you find your game -- which is no game really, it's just the relaxation you have when you have the confidence to be you.
     
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    Yeah I understand, I am pushing through the walls on a daily basis. I am talking to quite a few girls. Just getting used to engaging in conversation. This is one I am really interested in seeing if it will lead anywhere.
     
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    Good luck man.
     
  23. DiggityDogg

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    Well I hope you left a message similar to;

    "Hey Becky, this is SpectreMatrix. Calling to see what's up, give me a call back at 555-1234"
     
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    meh, she blew me off. *shrug* oh well. onwards.
     
  25. ay0

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    brush that shit off. go on to the next one. remember, fall down 8 times get up 20!
     

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