Met a girl tonight, need some advice.

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  1. Thomas Crenshaw

    Thomas Crenshaw New Member

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    Ok so long story short i met a girl in the hot tub of my gym, we talked for about 15 mins or so and seemed like there was decent chemistry...now i didnt muster up the courage to ask her if she wanted to grab a drink afterwards, and getting her number was a bit of a wtf bc there i am in a bathing suit with a terrible memory.

    the question is..do i wait to see her again in the gym which could be never bc she said she rarely goes to this one bc she lives about 25 mins away...OR..since i found her on facebook, do i send her a message saying hey whats up ect...?
     
  2. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    you found her on facebook.............? Elaborate. Did she tell you her full name and told you to add her, or did you just find out her full name and then searched for her etc...?
     
  3. Thomas Crenshaw

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    little of both, she actually works for a local hockey team so it made it easy to find her
     
  4. Thomas Crenshaw

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    fuuuuuuuuuuu need advice OT
     
  5. benson304

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    Uh..it sounds like you may have fucked up, it might sketch her out that you found her on facebook...but you'll never know till you try.
     
  6. fluentinsilence

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    You passed on an opportunity. Suck it up and move on.
     
  7. Ford4Life

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    You message her on facebook and you are going to look like a stalker. Should have gotten the number, but booted it. If you run into her again, great, otherwise I wouldn't go foward with anything else.
     
  8. modspace

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    I'd wait to see if you run into her again at the gym. If not, sure go ahead and send her a message, its worth a shot.
     
  9. babar

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    i'd wait a week MAX just in case she has a thing for you...and it doesn't die out.

    if you don't see her, then message her...yea it may look stalkerish, but play it off like "bla bla i felt like an idiot not asking for your number, so i took the pieces of info you told me and found you on FB, im glad i got lucky, because i wanted to take you out for a drink...bla bla."

    it better than doing nothing.
     
  10. Thomas Crenshaw

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    my thoughts exactly, thanks everyone for the input....if it doesnt work than whatever right?
     
  11. KGB ate my bread

    KGB ate my bread Made you look. OT Supporter

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    I'd maybe push the hockey bit and say you're interested in some good tickets for a game with some friends or something, and potentially invite her as well. kinda tacky/cheap date idea, but whatever, it could work. minor league hockey is quite fun to watch imo
     
  12. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    EEEeeeee. Honestly, if a guy I talked to for 15 minutes in a hot tub googled me then looked me up on facebook and asked me out, I'd be fairly creeped out. :noes: But that's just me.

    I say wait until she comes back to the gym and make your move.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

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    OR at least wait a week to see if you see her at the gym and if not THEN you can message her on facebook but quickly try to ask her out casually.
     
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    Dude, wait til you see her agian. Otherwise you're going to crash and burn.
     
  15. ForgottenSpiral

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    I'm with the ladies. Wait until you see her again.

    That being said, I'm all for being stalkerish. :mamoru:
     
  16. Yail Bloor

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    you are back to square 1 with this girl

    you are wasting your time focusing solely on her (minus whale just hit on every girl that interests you in addition to her)

    the iron was hot, yet you did not strike

    next time strike when the iron is hot
     
  17. eXyle

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    just chalk it up to a lesson learned. if you see her again, great. if not, don't dwell on it.

    i suppose based on the conversation you two had, it may be possible that you "just came across" her facebook. like, if you mentioned you wanted to check out one of local hockey teams and then recognized her from your convo or something. dunno, can't really think of a non-stalkery way of doing it.

    you can always just embrace the stalkeriness and poke some fun at it. that might take some of the creep out.
     
  18. Reign

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    Although she probably will be a bit creeped out. Do it like this and it may seem less so. I also don't agree with this wait a week crap. Do it like... tomorrow, or later tonight.

    Message her saying

    "Hey, we spoke earlier today and being the fool that I am, I didn't bring a pen with me to the pool to ask for your number. So at the risk of seeming like a creepy stalker I looked you up on Facebook and was wondering if you cared to continue our conversation sometime in a coffee drinking setting. Here is my number Xxx-xxxx, give me a call.

    - Hugh Jas "

    Or something similar. Chances are you won't see her again so what do you really have to lose?
     
  19. Pringles

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    Gotta make a move when you've made the chemistry. View it like you do school. You do all this work on say a homework assignment or a test, but then at the end you decide not to turn it in or show up. Closing is just as hard as opening, but still has to be done.
     
  20. D7

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    and not sure about tracking her down in relation to the hockey thing. That could go either way
     
  21. THoC

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    hit her up on facebook.

    i will always live by this rule.

    there is a fine line between stalking and being cute. wanna know what that line is? if the girl likes you enough.

    dont let these people tell you that finding her on facebook is desperate or stalkish. if the girl liked you enough she will find it cute that you looked for her.
     
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    I don't know. I think I'm going to have to with the "wait until you see her again" vote.
     
  23. THoC

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    i guess im solo on my thinking.
     
  24. coldstone

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    Good rule. It's true. If a girl doesn't like you, you are creepy no matter what you do. If she likes you, you can do some creepy stalkerish shit and she'd say AWW HE CARES FOR ME AWWWW
     
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    The Hand is right. Try her on FB and see what happens.
    If you don't see her again or if she think you are creepy then at least you tried.
     

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