*lose all stereotypes before reading* Ok About 2 months ago i met a girl over the internet whilst playing a computer game (can you beleive it?) and we started chatting and stuff. At the time i was unhappy with my girlfriend and we were on the verge of splitting up (in my eyes) and i'd find myself missing this girl when i'd goto bed. I would wake up and wonder when she'd come online, even when out with my girlfriend at the time i'd think about her, and really this is the first time something like this had ever happened to me. I thought i was a bit of a weirdo for a) Liking someone over the internet (i used to chat to all sorts of people but never became attracted to any of them in any way whatsoever) b) thinking that i was turning into some e-stalker. As i kept my feelings to myself it became more and more apparent the more we spoke that she felt the same way, me being a pussy i had said nothing until one day she came out with it all and i was pretty happy (first off that i wasnt a freak for feeling this way and secondly because she felt the same). She is everything i could have dreamed of in a girl and is pretty much a female equivalent of me. We enjoy the same things (were both pc geeks) and enjoy clubbing/same type of music aswell as enjoying the same type of humor. Anyways after about a month of feeling this way i finally decided to break up with my girlfriend and go and see this girl i had been talking to over the internet. The big catch here is the fact she lives 3400 miles away from me (im in the UK she's in the US). This wasnt a problem for me as i had always loved the US and i got to see/meet her at the same time. Turns out we hit it off big time and pretty much end up as much as a couple as you possibly could, and at the airport it all ended in tears. I cried, she cried, we both didnt want to leave each other, this was a couple of week ago. She is coming to see me in 2 weeks time and im so excited, we've spoken every day since (like we used to before anyhow) and i know that were gonna have a great time and enjoy each others company and ofc have massive amounts of sex. Im sure after the week it'll all be tears again as she heads back to the US. My Dilemma: I've always wanted to move to the USA, and since meeting this girl its given me a huge excuse to go and do so, i could move to study and get to be with her at the same time (she's said if i do move then we would ofc become a couple). The problem is this could happen in either 3 months or 8 months. Now i know she doesnt really want to wait 8 months and i had explained to her that if she really does love me, she'd wait any amount of time for me. Am i being unfair? Yet at the same time should i ask her to wait 8months for me? She's said she has no intentions of meeting anyone else (even tho when she met me she had no intentions of meeting anyone) but if i dont get to america for another 8 months and what we had fizzles out, of course i'll be gutted but nothing will change the fact i want to move. We talked about me coming in perhaps 8 months, she wasnt too optmistic but i explained that basing on whatever she wa sbasing her thoughts on after knowing me for 2 months and meeting for just 1 week in real life probably isnt the best bet, so i she suggested that perhaps we just keep flying to each other throughout the time (maybe once for a long time [1 month+] to see what it'd be like actually being an item). I have spoken to some people who were in the same situation as me (i have a friend who's boyfriend lives 500 miles away yet they still speak to each other every day and only see each other once a month or so and have been together for 4yrs) What do you guys think i should do? I want to move, but 60% of the reason i want to go is because of her, which may not be there is 8months, is she being unfair? am i being unfair?