MEN: women try to get away with shit by telling you "don't be so insecure"

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Inspired by recent threads, I felt the need to directly state this.

    Sometimes some women will have the desire to do things which aren't necessarily "cool" in a relationship. Things which make you feel uncomfortable and you don't think should be happening, but when you bring it up to your gf, she tells you "don't be so insecure."

    That line is manipulation.

    By telling you to "not be so insecure," she's betting that you will think "oh crap! I don't want to be insecure! My gf will be less attracted to me if I'm insecure! I probably am just being insecure. Ok, you know what? I'm just gonna let her do this thing then because she's right, I am being insecure and that's not cool."

    And then she has just successfully manipulated you into allowing her to do something she probably shouldn't be doing in the first place.


    Every person is different and has different ideas about what should and shouldn't fly in a relationship. Obviously you need to find a SO who has the same values as you in this regard. But just be on the lookout for this response from your gf in the event she wants to do something that makes you uncomfortable, such as putting on a microskirt and going clubbing with her ex and then crashing at his place because she was "too drunk to come home."

    You: Baby, I don't like you getting all hooched out and going clubbing with your ex and then crashing at his place

    Her: Don't be so insecure.


    Recognize this for the red flag it is.
     
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    DaFreak963 New Member

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    dont be insecure



    i agree its a completely bullshit excuse women use but when its used by a man hes being a jerk and inconsiderate.
     
  3. teep

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    funny thing... last night i went out and for whatever reason, sleaze was in the air.

    i was just grabbing a beer with a buddy of mine and we ended up running into a bunch of people we knew. i saw a kid from the gym and he was dancing and being all cuddly and kissy with this girl. i know he has a girlfriend so i just naturally assumed that was her. later on in the night though he's sitting down arguing with his girlfriend on the phone telling her to "not be so insecure." meanwhile this other girl is sitting on his lap, arm around the dudes neck, and is on the phone with her boyfriend giving him the same line. :ugh:

    i'm not jaded enough to think that this is always the case, but it's still kind of funny.
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    im a chick and i agree. there would be very few instances where i would ever say that to a SO.
     
  5. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I agree with the insecure bit. Also you should add on "Don't Worry, nothing will happen".

    I had an ex-gf wanted to go to a party that her ex was going to without me. I told her I did not like the idea. She told me not worry and she wrote me a little love letter and left it on my desk. The next day when I saw her, shit hit the fan and I dumped her.

    To me the "Don't Worry" is the, I am going to do something wrong regardless of what you say, so why bother getting upset.
     
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  7. Falconer

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    :whores:
    :rofl:
    :hs:
     
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    Never thought of it like that. Very true :bigthumb:
     
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    Women are mental terrorists and brain ninjas...
     
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    :rofl:
     
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  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I've never said that to my bf, then again he's not insecure.

    I do have no problem saying it to very obviouly insecure guys on the intenet though.
     
  13. Falconer

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    Then again you're probably not a manipulative whore :dunno:
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    True. I can't honestly say I've ever put any bf in a situation that would really test his insecurity.
     
  16. Falconer

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    You probably haven't tried to get away with anything either :dunno:
     
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    well yeah. they also challenge your manhood.

    a real man would do such-and-such, along with other variations.

    if you ponder why she's saying it, like what's in it for her, then you can see right through it. she's only saying what she's saying to get what she wants without overtly asking/demanding it.
     
  18. Falconer

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    :werd:

    My dumb whore ex was like "a real man always pays for women just because they're women." I was like "alright, well he can take you out to dinner then" :rofl:

    edit - my ex thought she was entitled to have her way paid because she had a vagina. Don't take this out of context and attack me. It was part of the reason we broke up (the other reasons were because she has zero temper control, was a whore, and was borderline personality disorder or something).
     
  19. eXyle

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    they also talk about "unrelated" subjects.

    so-and-so's bf does this, that, and the other thing, he's so sweet. i love it when a man does _____. if you loved me, you'd do _____. it goes on and on. they find numerous ways to try and get what they want without directly asking for it.

    however, i think most people communicate in similar fashion. there's just something about getting what you want without being up front about it that's appealing. maybe people don't want to come off as demanding or face the possibility of hearing "no".
     
  20. Falconer

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    Interrupt her with "if you really loved me you'd let me fuck you in the ass and cum in your mouth. I love it when a woman does that. My friend's gf does that." Unless she already does that, in which case you win.
     
  21. Falconer

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    but my serious reply is that being compared to another guy in anything other than a favorable way is super low class.

    Classy: "hey baby, i want you to do xyz, what do you think about that?"

    Low class: "so-and-so's bf does xyz, why don't you?"
     
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    excellent thread
     
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  24. MP18

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    ts's line is best used here:

    "baby how can you love me so much when my nose is so big"

    "don't be so insecure"
     
  25. _A_

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    What you counter with when she uses said line?
     

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