Men of Vag, quit following stupid lists!

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by Cerridwen, Sep 18, 2006.

  1. Cerridwen

    Cerridwen Guest

    So the thread was deleted while I was making a reply... but I'm going to respond again anyways.

    Some of you need to find a little bit of self confidence in yourself and your skills. Quit worrying so much about what OT says you should be doing, and do what works for yourself and your SO. If you are so focused on a list like that one I'm going to quote below, you are NOT going to make her orgasm. "Honey, I can't nibble on your nipples yet because I haven't finished step 3!" Every woman and man is different. Different things work for different people.

    I'm *NOT* saying that this list doesn't work, I'm saying you should be focused on pleasuring your SO the way she wants to be pleasured instead of following steps 1-10. Change is good sometimes. If you do those 10 things over and over again she WILL get bored and so will you.

    Xinster, it isn't about starting young and drunk in high school (which, just for the record I didn't). :ugh: It is about what I said above.
    Just my opinion.

     
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  2. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    You think many men in here will listen? I always find it funny when guys come in here looking for advice on how to deal with women....WOMEN give them advice, and then they argue.

    Don't forget 03, us men are hardheaded sometimes :p
     
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    In my experience SOME women dont know what they want. Then there are SOME women that know exactly what they want and they tell you.

    I dont think there is any overall format to follow. Instead of trying to "understand women" (or men), people should focus on understanding the person they are with. That is something no one on the internet can help with....
     
  5. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    all anyone needs to learn is to have open, honest communications abotu their sexual likes and dislikes.

    Communication = great sex.

    these retarded lists are really fucking annoying..
     
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    Lord Nat New Member

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    Yes, I have never had a hard time getting a girl to orgasm as I just ask her want she wants.

    Well and know a few tricks >.>
     
  7. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Men and women think differently. What works for you and what works for us are very different.

    Our logical minds love lists.

    We're trying to help men who otherwise are having poor success with women. If men are happy with their results with women then they don't need to worry about this stuff.

    Men, never, ever take girl or relationship advice from a woman. They have no idea how to help you. Clothes and hair, thats what a woman can help you with, but nothing else. Maybe sex, if you can actually get them to be honest about it.
     
  8. RedVsBlue

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    But many of these lists are very illogical, and they really dont help anyone, especially when most of the stuff on lists like that isnt really applicable :dunno:
     
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    I hate checklists in almost all forms :o

    especially where people are involved, they arent machines.
     
  10. armond

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    stupid list IMHO, that won't necessarily work on every woman. i say go with what you know, and just take it a little further, explore.

    i went by natural instinct, you need to try and read some body signs!
     
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    :werd: I think most men would do a whole lot better if they trusted their natural instinct instead of trying to find out what everyone else says to do. Females arent the only ones with intuition...
     
  12. Yail Bloor

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    yeah i'm not a fan of that particular list

    but lists in and of themselves aren't bad
     
  13. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    It takes two people doing that for it to work.
     
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    if you dont care enough about the person to communicate (and them you), why do you care if they get off?


    get yours and go. :hs:
     
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    in any case, ganbatte!:bigthumb:
     
  16. Cerridwen

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    :o What?
     
  17. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    it's just that i've recently been with someone who was never comfortable communicating her own desires

    in that situation, pouring out your innermost thoughts may not leave her any motivation to pour out hers. some people will see u being open and feel comfortable and reciprocate, but others don't feel safe unless you take it as slowly as they do.
     
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    That's the difference between men and women... men are most comfortable following logical and ordered processes, while women are most comfortable winging it and following their instinct and emotions.

    Lists may not be optimal, but they can at least get you started if you don't have much/any "natural instinct" or experience to work with. Obviously it would be stupid and lazy to go through life following a list and never experimenting or switching things up.
     
  19. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    that shit is WEAK!

    :love: 03whitezx3
     
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    Its a japanese expression which usually translates to Do your best! or We're rooting for you!
     
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    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    gotta start soemwhere though
     
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    xinister kicks ass
     

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