So the thread was deleted while I was making a reply... but I'm going to respond again anyways. Some of you need to find a little bit of self confidence in yourself and your skills. Quit worrying so much about what OT says you should be doing, and do what works for yourself and your SO. If you are so focused on a list like that one I'm going to quote below, you are NOT going to make her orgasm. "Honey, I can't nibble on your nipples yet because I haven't finished step 3!" Every woman and man is different. Different things work for different people. I'm *NOT* saying that this list doesn't work, I'm saying you should be focused on pleasuring your SO the way she wants to be pleasured instead of following steps 1-10. Change is good sometimes. If you do those 10 things over and over again she WILL get bored and so will you. Xinster, it isn't about starting young and drunk in high school (which, just for the record I didn't). It is about what I said above. Just my opinion.