I'm still pretty new so my apologies if the basic subject matter here is a repost. I'm sure there'll be plenty of TLDR responses, but I tried hard to make it worth your time: This weekend my wife and I were at a party. At one point she was talking to two of our closest guy friends -- and I mean two of the best, must trustworthy, faithful people we know. What she had wandered in on was a typical guy conversation in the midst of alcohol. They were discussing how men are instinctively attracted to...well, everything hot. Always gawking as inconspicuously as possible, and wondering "what she'd be like..." (I said "attracted to" -- not cheating with). My friends' arguments were that men are just wired that way. One gave an example that took place when he brought a really hot date to a buddy's house: this buddy - right in front of his wife - randomly smacked my friend's hot date on the ass while she was down on her knees playing with his kids. When this guy was asked by his wife what the hell he was thinking(?!?!?), he looked dumbfounded, almost like he didn't even realize what he had just done. Again...wired that way. The argument further continued back to the stone age where men basically had three purposes.... 1.) Eat if you can. If not, find something to eat 2.) Run from shit with big teeth or claws 3.) Fuck anything that moves to propagate the species ...and that the current "wiring" of men was instinctively there today, just leftover. (Women, by contrast, were the protective, nurturing ones) My wife was stunned. Drunk or not, these words were coming from trusted folks, and she almost instantly lost faith in men. To the point that 36 hours later, she's still losing sleep. I did my best to console her without lying (I would never cheat, but sure, I'm guilty of looking myself), but it all came down to the fact that she was so committed to me that she doesn't even feel that she was capable of being "like men." She wants to be SOO perfect that I wouldn't even want to look, and that just doesn't seem possible anymore. She even said "even though you're a good guy, you're still a guy." Is it possible that men just can't avoid being "pigs" to some extent? Is there anything a married dude can do or say to argue the opposite (that isn't a lie)?