LGBT Melvin....gone forever

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  1. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    Well today is the day I have dreaded for the better part of 3 months. Melvin is leaving back for the Dominican Republic and short of me visiting there, I will never see him again.

    I knew when I met him that he'd be leaving, I thought I would have had fun, which I did, but I did not expect to fall in love (which we both did).

    He stayed with me last night and we talked and drank wine until 3:30, then had a slow, late morning until 10:00 when I had to leave for work.

    I would say I had the most intimate sex of my entire life. :naughty:

    He told me he loves me. I said the same. I said that I was glad I met him.

    We exchanged some gifts and also exchanged thousands of photos and Mp3s.

    We spent the better part of 12 hours holding each other and talking.

    It was lovely.

    I am being strong, have not felt hurt or whatnot, but I am also at work and around people.

    We'll see how I do in a few days.
     
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    Oh honey... :hug: That's such a wonderful story. Sorry about the situation though, it would have been nice if you two could be closer to each other. Hopefully you'll both find loving people in the future, or perhaps meet up and start a life together.

    Anyway, best wishes to you both. :)
     
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    :hug: Try to stay positive and upbeat!
     
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    ManyHamsters There are necessary pursuits... but poetry, beauty

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    be thankful, as you are, with the time you to did spend with him - the wonderful person you met and all the other positive things that have happened. If its meant to be more than what it was, things will work out.
     
  6. camarosrool

    camarosrool yes i am

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    thats pretty much what i wanted to reply with, so ill jsut quote
     
  7. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    yeah I have nothing but good memories


    he said he loved me on our last night together

    we're going to try to get together for an hour or two today before his flight....here's hoping


    good memories, and a great separation


    honestly, he has been the best boyfriend I've had, he treated me so well


    so....no hard feelings, no nothing....just good memories
     
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    :hug:

    Isn't it amazing when you find love? It's a gift, for sure!!!
     
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    CoCo ...is a Queer Don!! OT Supporter

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    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    thanks everyone


    keep the hugs coming
     
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  13. aLwZjIttERy

    aLwZjIttERy Per vicis adveho verum...

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  14. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    (05:31:00 PM) stolid_agnostic: Melvin said he'd try to call
    (05:31:04 PM) stolid_agnostic: but I guess he was too busy
    (05:31:05 PM) stolid_agnostic: :(
    (05:31:13 PM) stolid_agnostic: I don't blame him
    (05:31:17 PM) stolid_agnostic: he's moving across the world
    (05:31:20 PM) stolid_agnostic: so many things to think about
    (05:31:29 PM) stolid_agnostic: and saying goodbye to people he's known longer than me is important
    (05:31:36 PM) stolid_agnostic: and he gave me so much time towards the end
    (05:31:39 PM) stolid_agnostic: so really I feel good
    (05:31:44 PM) stolid_agnostic: but still sad a little bit
    (05:31:54 PM) stolid_agnostic: disappointed that I can't see him
    (05:31:56 PM) stolid_agnostic: I guess
    (05:32:00 PM) stolid_agnostic: I think you understand
    (05:33:41 PM) stolid_agnostic: i am sad Yori
    (05:34:02 PM) stolid_agnostic: I mean it's different
    (05:34:10 PM) stolid_agnostic: I have lost relationships before
    (05:34:16 PM) stolid_agnostic: and you are sad because you feel hurt that it is over
    (05:34:19 PM) stolid_agnostic: that something dissolved
    (05:34:27 PM) stolid_agnostic: but I feel a different way
    (05:34:34 PM) stolid_agnostic: like it's still there but I can't see him
    (05:34:36 PM) stolid_agnostic: so I guess I miss him
    (05:34:40 PM) stolid_agnostic: but don't feel hurt
    (05:35:00 PM) stolid_agnostic: and I look around my place and it makes me think of him
    (05:35:03 PM) stolid_agnostic: where he would sid
    (05:35:04 PM) stolid_agnostic: sit
    (05:35:09 PM) stolid_agnostic: the music we listened to
    (05:35:19 PM) stolid_agnostic: candles we lit
    (05:35:21 PM) stolid_agnostic: my bed
    (05:35:25 PM) stolid_agnostic: all around are memories
     
  15. pulp priest

    pulp priest we're here! we're queer! we don't want any more be

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    it's better to have loved and lost...
    remember the good times. as more and more time goes by, you'll remember this as one of the experiences that made you alive, made you human.
    there's nothing in the world that affects a person in the same way as love. consider it fondly and feel blessed to have made such a connection.
    love. :)
     
  16. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    yeah it was wonderful

    I have lost relationships before and that always hurts. But this doesn't hurt, really, it's different. I feel like someone in my family moved away or something. You miss them, but still believe that they are accessible.

    I had a lot of heart pains the night he was leaving. But right before he hit his flight, he messaged me to say how wonderful it was, etc.

    Last night he got online from New York, where he is staying for a week with family, to chat a bit. I said I could feel that he was thinking of me, he said he was and how he missed me. He told me that I am a wonderful friend and that he wants to know more of me in the future. I promised to go visit him one day and said that he'd inspired me.

    And when he went to bed, I could sense him - I think he was dreaming of me. I guess after everything, he finally let his fear go and just be with me. And once he realized that he liked me more than his fear interfered, he was there, and he was completely there.

    Gosh, I have such good memories. This is the first time I have dated someone (I am 31, since the age of 19) who treated me well. He showed me that there in fact are people that I can trust and who I can find attractive even as they find me attractive.

    I have to move on with my life, now, but I hope that there remains a connection in the heart between us. It is my hope that when we see each other again, it will be as if there was no time apart at all.

    Gosh, this has been wonderful. I just wish that it could have lasted longer.
     
  17. ZeroDenominator

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    :hug:

    I'm glad that you found him for the short time that you did and that it was so wonderful. Hold the fond memories close and use it as proof of what is possible for you in this life. You'll find it again. If not Melvin then someone else who is equally wonderful in his own unique way. That is my hope for you (and for me! :x:)
     
  18. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    ooo Cary! I get post #1 for that!?!?!? I'm touched!


    yeah you gotta moves yourself on, buddy
     
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    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    thanks love
     
  21. Diesel Freak

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    Hooray for a great 1st post. Welcome! :wiggle:
     
  22. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    ZD is my good ('straight' :rofl:) friend Cary :p
     
  23. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    oh btw....he really is straight ha ha ha

    he says "why do you put 'straight' in quotes like that?"....I am like...OOPS I didn't mean it THAT way! :rofl:
     
  24. ItsOnlyMe

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    Don't give up so soon. I met my man in Argentina in 2002. We're still together today. I remember feeling EXACTLY what you are feeling... the last day, the whole "I'll never see you again" horribleness...

    But then we both realized that if we love each other then we'll make it work. And we do. So five years later we're still fighting for him to be able to move here permanently and are finally getting closer. Meanwhile we commute back and forth from Seattle to Buenos Aires. And... it works. Because we love each other.

    No matter what you decide, I really wish the best for the two of you.
     
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    Aww, that's wonderful. I'm glad to hear that you two are making it work. :)
     

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