Meeting someone who's twice my age

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  1. lilcam

    lilcam New Member

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    I had posted an ad on craigslist a while back just to see if I would get a response. Well, a much older woman emailed me telling me she would be interested in talking to me. She's 19 yrs older than me (i'm in my mid 20s) and she has dated guys my age before. I spoke to her on the phone about 3 times and she insisted that we meet before we get to know each other too much over the phone. Last night she kept asking when we would meet so I said Saturday. Her reasoning? She stated too many ppl would act different than they are on the phone. She'd rather get to know someone in person rather than fall for someone's voice and have them be the complete opposite in person.

    I'm going into this trying to see if I can hit it. However, I dont even know if she's ugly since she doesnt disclose a picture or a description. She just wants to meet as a blind date and see where it goes. Based on what I know, I can't figure out what to think. Maybe my fellow OT folks can help out. Then again, what I've listed below is what she claims to have said/done.

    1 - Likes to date asian males (tends to meet younger ones as the ones her age are not americanize).
    2 - Doesnt give out description/pics due to ppl falling for the that rather than what really counts, personality (she may be fat, but see #3)
    3 - As far as I know, she's either skinny or fit. She says she has a hard time putting on weight (though this could be a lie and girls are never satisfy with their weight)
    4 - Leads a private life, certain parts of her life I couldnt ask

    So, should I continue to pursue? My ass will probably bring someone along to scope out the place and her before I go in. :x:
     
  2. dscallaway69

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    Not a bad idea I guess to have someone check it out ahead of time for you. But yeah go ahead and go and see wha is up. There is two ways to look at number 2. either she is ugly and that is why she doesn't want to give a pic or she is hot and actually doesn't like people just being attracted to her looks. You have to remember she is a little older so she is a little more mature and past more of the looks and into personality. Of course I could be way off on all of this. What do you mean by she leads a private life. What kind of things are you not allowed to know. I say go but that is just because I would like to know how it all turns out. I think it could be a crazy night.
     
  3. lilcam

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    Yea the suspense is killing me! She could be hot and doesnt want people to fall for her looks. Then again, she never asked for any of my pics/descriptions. I'm not ugly nor am I a supermodel, but she was cool with that.

    Well, she stated that she doesnt like to be asked questions. She is older and it's harder to connect during our conversation but I guess it's my way of trying to get to know her. "What do you do for a living?" "What do you normally do for fun?" That type of things and she hated it. She had mentioned she was in a bookclub so I asked which book she was reading at the moment. She replied and said she didnt want to get into it and that she wouldnt reveal certain things in her life. Maybe not at that moment but maybe later on.

    She's very hard to gauge and I'm not liking it. her voice sounds sweet/innocent but that doesnt reveal much about her appearance. She also told me the following.

    1 - No jewelry
    2 - no makeup
    3 - doesnt wear name brand clothing (I guess she doesnt like to dress up)
    4 - doesnt believe in marriage
     
  4. Asses Maximus

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    Thats iffy. I have personally steered away fromthings like this. Let us know how it goes.
     
  5. Spaulding Smails

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    She sounds ugly...Women in their 40's who don't wear makeup look like death... No pics means she is intimidated by how others will perceive her... No brand name clothing means she is poor (doesn't matter if you don't wear them, but saying that within a few phonecalls is weird as hell)

    "Doesn't want people falling for a pic" "Doesn't want to fall for a voice over the phone"

    She sounds ugly, desperate, and wants to get laid by a young guy... Don't have your friend scope it out, you won't want anyone to know the attrocities you are going to commit...
     
  6. lilcam

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    My friend actually wants to help. It's funny cuz it's my friends with benefits! :eek3:
    Anyways, she also wants to know who this chick is.
     
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    She's married
     
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    I'd call it off.

    To me, if she doesn't want to reveal anything, even as small as what book she is reading, that throws red flags for me. She won't tell you anything about her personal life, like activities she enjoys, etc, is another red flag, that she may be trying to lead a double life and hasn't perfected the alternate life story yet, she may actually be married.
    I'm not saying that she has to reveal her whole life story, but a little more info is nice.

    So if you can't talk about anything that would normally be talked about in getting to know someone conversations, what do you talk about?
     
  9. Another Loser

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    Who cares if she's fat? SUGAR MOMMA
     
  10. PuppyCat

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    To me (and I am an older woman) the very thought of this whole sequence of events, just does not sound right.
    I had, in the past dated guys 1/2 my age...just more for curiosity than anything.
    She could very well just want sex...a "toy boy"
    She could be lonely....
    If she cannot tell you things over the telephone, why should she tell you things in person?
    How do you know what she says to you is true?
    Please be careful.
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    Oh, and I beg to differ with danknuggs...some of us older women look mighty fine without makeup...not all women over 40 are members of the walking dead.
     
  11. dscallaway69

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    yeah this stuff don't sound right. I think she has issues if she won't tell you anything about her yet wants to meet. I would need a little more info. She kinda scares me. Good Luck
     
  12. okita1

    okita1 Great spirits have always encountered violent oppo

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    if all your in it for is to "try and hit it" then go for it
    sounds to me thats all she is really in it for
     
  13. lilcam

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    I really dont know what to think of this whole situation. A part of me says I want to go through with it and get me a chick thats older and more experience; so that i could just have sex with. we talk dont get me wrong, but she said she'd rather talk more in details when we meet. she doesnt like divulging a lot over the phone, but says she will answer my questions when we meet in person.

    i'm probably just going to go through with it just to see what she looks like. i really dont know what she's telling me is true so i can't go by that either. i guess i wont know until i meet her.
     
  14. Steve Grabacock

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    I know some really hot 40 year olds! But it does sound sketchy. What classifies as name brand clothes? Levis? Hey, maybe she buys high dollar custom made lycra body suits! If she doesnt believe in marriage, i doubt she's fat and fugly, i would guess those types would want to. Unless she was married before and something bad happened, and thats why she doesnt believe in marriage. I dont know....keep us up to date though!
     
  15. purplebeast

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    She is shovel beaten!!!

    If a HOT 40yr old lady just wanted to rump arround with a younger guy. She could go to any bar/club in the US and take home just about any young guy(s) that she damn well pleases.
     
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    okita1 Great spirits have always encountered violent oppo

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    got a point
     
  17. lilcam

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    She could be fat and ugly and cant pick up guys off the internet. However, she stated that her last date didnt go quite too well as the guy (who's around her age) didnt act right so she didnt pursue him. Of course this could all be a lie.

    As for the marriage part, she could be overweight and cant find someone to marry her. Then again, her philosophy on marriage was so freaking deep, i couldnt follow her. She didnt think 2 ppl should be bonded by a "contract," so she says. That was the end of the discussion. She's got some great insights into certain things in life (i guess this is where her age shows), but I have nothing in common with her. Hopefully she's half decent looking.
     
  18. JordanClarkson

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    She sounds like a hippie chick. I doubt she's fat because fat women who look for sex usually let you know beforehand. The last thing they'd want is to be turned down at a meeting. Also, women who are against marriage are usually very hot because they don't want to limit themselves to one guy. They're used to getting hit on and enjoy that lifestyle.

    You are turning her off with the personal questions. She wants a discreet meeting. If the thought of having sex with a complete stranger doesn't appeal to you, don't do it. Don't count on getting any questions answered when you meet either.

    It's guaranteed. :bigthumb: I think it was on Sex and the City where they were talking about sleeping with younger guys. The women didn't care what the guy looked like how how good he was, but they told their friends that their boy toy was hot and hung like a horse.
     
  19. lilcam

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    yea im starting to think the same. I figure if she was fat, she'll risk the thought of me running away from her. if personaility was the key as she said, then she would've tried to reel me in first and then meet her in person. She's going about this the opposite way. She wants to meet first. She says she's tired of the guys she meet in real life. They turn her off, which makes me think she might be hot or some what and wants to meet someone off the net (which is worst i would think). She never asked for my picture or for a description. I told her my height/weight and she didnt have a problem with it. im 5'6" and 135lbs and im asian. she's caucasian and thats all i know.

    She's jewish, does that give any of you guys/gals any more insight into this? i'll stop with the personal questions. i'll just go along with this as if im meeting her for a blind date. if she's ugly then i'll be a true gentleman and act as if she's a friend.
     
  20. purplebeast

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    Yeah go meet her. Worst case if she is a fat heffer. You can at least get some good head out of it and a free dinner.
     
  21. lilcam

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    I just got an email from her and she doesnt want to talk to me anymore!
    i asked her to switch to sunday instead of saturday (my friend wants to tag along and scope her out before i actually meet her) and the chick didnt like it. she said i was being difficult but i know i wasnt.

    I asked if she wanted to discuss it over the phone and she said NO! I guess it's a whole new ballgame when trying to date someone older. I emailed her back and told her she's acting like a child. How could she expect someone to meet someone they no nothing about. i told her she wasnt being cooperative and it wasnt fair to me. we'll see what she says.

    im starting to think she's not fat or desperate if she could just say "bye" just like that. i'm stll waiting to see if she'll reply to my email.
     
  22. JordanClarkson

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    Because it can be more exciting. Obviously she wasn't looking for a relationship. Like I said, if you can't handle meeting someone you don't know, then don't. Stop bothering the poor woman. FYI this is going into freakishiat territory. You'll regret this in about 5 years :mamoru:
     
  23. Cerridwen

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    What reason did you give her for this change in plans?
    And the whole situation just sounds completely off to me. Odd all of the way through. Definetly sounds like she's just looking for some :naughty:
     
  24. purplebeast

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    She is a man!!! And does not want you to scoop him out over the phone.




    I find it easier to date older girls. Less BS and mind games. This one sounds crazy tho. Freaking out cuz you changed the date one day? WTF, tell her to fuck off.
     
  25. lilcam

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    i changed it by one day and today is wednesday, it's not like i did it last minute.
     

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